You've met a nice person. Over coffee you get around to occupations. Person says, "I work for the CIA--and that's all I can say." And you then realize that's ALL the person's EVER going to say about their job. Could you continue exploring the relationship possibility or might that be a dealbreaker right there?

Did that person give you an envelope and instructions to deliver it to a "relative" somewhere convenient to you...???

LOL....

I have jokingly told people from time to time (when they ask me things I don't want to answer, or include me in a picture I didn't want to be in)..I have said, with a *straight face* "The Witness Protection Program tells me I can't do that...."

The looks on their faces....priceless...

No way, I would dump them so fast I wouldn't leave prints.

I agree with soufie... I've worked in jobs where we weren't allowed to talk about certain things due to confidentiality, but not all aspects of the job were under the confidentiality rule/law. Never speaking of anything work related doesn't sound right and would give me the feeling that they are hiding something.

I would continue to communicate for a while! I usually can tell when a man is telling lies. Especially In person. Online emails it takes long for me to tell.

Mike6615 that's a thought provoker

uhm
well unless i had to be read in(a need to know) clearance wouldn't be a problem
cause even though i am getting older and my hair turning darker , i am still a blonde and can forget most things while they are being told to me, so holding secrets have never been a problem ..

would they even tell you that much ? or would they be another traffic analyzer that counts cars for uncle sam

but ok they told me they work for the cia and cant tell me anythen
<shrug>
guess that would really boil down to the lady
cause keepen secrets for some , it changes people
i dont think i would want someone out in the field 007 style (yes yes , i know , wrong nationality ) cause i would like them to come home after all , preferably not in pieces or in a box or boxes for that matter

would all so have to hinge off what level they are ... longer you are in that game the more you jump at the sight of your own shadow

but that would all depend on the lady
<shrug>

Is the potential relationship with the person or with the person's job?

I really doubt somebody who works in the CIA is going to tell somebody on first meeting that he/she works for the CIA. They'd might say something like, "I work at the State Department" or " I work for the government". If on a first meeting somebody told me they worked in the CIA, I think I'd make some excuse to cut the date short.

for my age bracket he would say I'm retired from the CIA

I would laugh it off , thinking the CIA talk was some kinda weird role-play fetish

I am related t people who worked for the CIA, and I know them to be among the most honorable people on the planet. So IF someone actually worked for the CIA, and couldn't tell me about their work, I would probably be fine with it.

On the other hand, as motowndowntown says, it would be a bit suspicious for someone to say THAT on a first date or first meet, if it were actually true.

By the way, there are LOTS of CIA jobs that require high security clearances and firm secrecy, that have nothing to do with anything dangerous or weird, or disturbing.

Yeah I know. I did some work for them back in the day.

Heck no it wouldn't be a deal-breaker! I'd just flash my NSA credentials and let the inter-agency rivalry work it's magic!

That alleged "CIA" person would have to be the fake spy in the movie True Lies.

I agree, motown

On a first meet if someone told me they work for the CIA, I might blurt out "Me too!" If they laugh with me, then we have the same sense of humour. But nonetheless will not get a second meet with me. CIA, my foot!

Happy New Year everyone!

I don't get, why anyone would need to be so
secretive, about working for the Culinary Institutes
of America.

I would be done. Though I respect and understand their position, Im not seeking partners with secrets at this point in my life, let alone someone trained to kill and get away with it or accumulate enemies who can do the same.

I'd say Kewl.
I'm from (using a quote from Rampage) "OGA" (Other Government Agency). A secret organization that polices and monitors extraterrestrial interactions on Earth (a quote from MIB).
Then I would go on to mention a NASA "Temp" position as
"planetary protection officer".
http://www.cnbc.com/2017/08/02/nasa-is-hiring-a-planetary-protection-officer.html

So, an OGAMIBPPO agent.

Then I'd whip out my "Noisy Cricket" and "Neuralizer".

Probably a deal breaker, but look at the pros:
Know when to get out of town if trouble is brewing.
Know which establishments and areas to avoid.
Know that your partner has had some "special" training so may be useful in a situation.
And they won't bug you with work stories.

But then

How bugged is your house.
How endangered are you just being near (collateral).
Do they even like you, or is it all an elaborate sting (it's happened).
Are they working for more 'companies' than just the cia ?
Are they going to swap faces with a criminal and not tell you ?