If someone is anti-marriage, for whatever reason (either closet misogynistic tendancies, or, like Toodygirl5 said..maybe he's got some issues...and doesn't want his lifestyle "interferred with"..)..then it would be a deal breaker..

IF, however..if he just never met the right woman...(because many of us know how hard it is to meet someone we have things in common with...that is *also* interested in us as well...)..then, no...not a deal breaker.

This of course requires that people have actual, in-depth conversation.
If you laugh at *that* concept...then..well....¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I had an activity parnter man, he is 69 never been married. A woman couldn't find a Nicer, kind man. He told me he never married because he seen too many divorces , in his family alone.

This one woman calls him her boyfriend. They go some places together.

He says he is not her boyfriend. She's older than him. But I really don't know her, only what he tells me. I do know he is a Poor man., In not much Money.

Sometimes men go for the wrong women. So they won't get them.
Women like. a man, who is secure in his finances .


One woman he said he had One date, told him he needed a newer better Car.

it's red flag for me - especially if they've never had a long term relationship and they're over 50.

IF, however..if he just never met the right woman...(because many of us know how hard it is to meet someone we have things in common with...that is *also* interested in us as well...)..then, no...not a deal breaker.

Well in first why only woman? It can be many ways. Secondly why will it not be a deal breaker? Yes agreed it takes time to match. But the results are worth waiting. Don't tell me they aren't? Lol

why is that

If the just like. Dating, then they probably don't want marriage or a real committing Relationship.

Everyone is not into marriage or any Exclusive relationship.

There are many things to consider, when wanting a Exclusive relationship.
Red flags shouldn't be ignored

It could be a red but not necessarily. The person may have had a committed long term relationship that didn't work out. It would be red flag for me, if a guy were in his 40's or 50's, never married with several children by several different women.

Not really unless you are looking for marriage material. Then yes.

My former handy man, who did some work around the house, told me he was in a relationship for 34 years. It ended and he still had to do all the paperwork as if it were a legal marriage.

The amusing reality is that after the age of 40 , many of us come with so much baggage that it would be easy to slap any one of us with the red flag label

We can be stigmatized by one or multiple divorces, or our failure to forge a successful match with anyone online or offline years after our divorces, or kids who are acting out , or even the amount of time we invest in online interactions with people we may never meet in person, and the list goes on and on...

Anyone of us here could fall under those red flags, and yet many of us can offer very human and reasonable explanations in defense against those stigmas.

Maybe it's better as a rule of thumb to investigate the story behind the stigma. I'm just sayin

im 61 yrs old never been married lived with my kids mother for 30 yrs then we just drifted a part she was married when we meet she left him when she found out he was cheating on her we just never worried about her getting a divorce we agreed to just live together after we left we stayed close friends now answer this why is it just because you leave you cant stay friends most people think its stupid to stay friends with the x

not stupid just difficult depending on how deep the feelings were invested. I'd love to remain friends with my ex but for me it's too painful and to be honest I don't know if that pain will leave.

It all depends on emotional investment. Just my opinion

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Sometimes due to many different circumstances, a man OR a woman lives with their parents and takes care of them for decades. A boyfriend or girlfriend is discouraged by their parents. An either being the oldest child or an only child, the person is led to believe there is no way to care for the parents unless the child remains unmarried. NOW there are many assisted living homes even for low income people...other ways to free yourself. But just because someone is 40 or 60 and never married, is not necessarily bad. I had an engaged Aunt during WW1.... her fiance' died in the trenches in France. She never married until she was 70 and met a widower. They had 10 good years together.

Well, I didn't get married until I was 41. People probably thought I was weird. I got married for all the wrong reasons.

I never married, not for want of hoping, but I never got the girl I loved.

I've never lived with a female; apart from while traveling / touring long distance for months with a partner. Always lived in own places.

The girls who may have married me as their choice were either 'unsuitable', or boring.

After seeing my parents', and many other's divorces, I wasn't in a hurry to marry the first girl coming along. I had to be sure.

From my 30's onward I seriously looked for my other half, but never found her.

So now in my 50's I'm lonely, childless, and surrounded by red flags, great.

I think Chinese girls like red flags don't they.

notbeold, what so funny about Chinese girls?

At my age and the age I am seeking in a woman the "Never Married" might not be a 'Red Flag' but it certainly is a big fat question mark.

Never married at 24 is a completely different thing than Never Married at 54.

There are circumstances that would be understandable but for the most part, Never Married at 54 means that person has been afraid to commit.

This is my first thought before I know if she has any kids or not.

Kids just complicate the matter.
But, like I said, there may be circumstances.

Never Married at 54 is not an instant turn off but it does require some discussion to fgure out what the hell is going on?
How THAT discussion unfolds determines if it is a Red Flag or not.

"notbeold, what so funny about Chinese girls? "

That they may like red flags, and therefore they may like me if I am surrounded by red flags.

There's nothing funny about Chinese girls, except maybe comediennes.