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Edited by
Mrmxb
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this subject I can't say I understand exactly. Life happens while we are making plans. thank you Cranky_Geezer make plans in every period of life. being planned I think this is meant to be said. No... It is meant to say have fun what you're doing while you're doing it. to have fun while making plans for life not to keep the entertainment away from ourselves. Hi Sahin (mxb) 
It is about having fun and enjoying the company of the person you are with... like on a date, or just hanging out together. It is not about planning it into your day, it's just about being playful and having fun doing things. Hope that explains it better. When you go out with a friend, what do you do for fun? "When you go out with a friend, what do you do for fun?" hhımmmm. thank you River. I guess I understand. 
When I go out with friends, if I decide about fun, Wouldn't it be more appropriate? 
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My other thread "Have you ever felt undateable" prompted me to creating a new thread. Now that we have acknowledged that some of us do and some of us don't feel undateable, let's move past that and do something about it 
I was having a conversation with someone about the importance of getting back to the basics and just having fun.. enjoying each other's company. That almost seems like a foreign concept to me... almost because I have been practicing having fun over the last year, lol. For whatever reason, not really necessary to go into details, the "play and have fun" part of me is suppressed. It doesn't come natural although as I practice that innate part inside is slowly coming to surface... I actually noticed a difference when I was visiting with my nephews, it wasn't quite so awkward playing childhood games with them... very cool feeling! This concept reminded me of kindergarten, hahaha... I mentioned in my other thread wanting to return to my teenager/young adult years and experience that first date I missed out on.. Well maybe I need to go back a bit further... To kindergarten and simply play for now. A play date! So who wants to go on a play date?  
What are some of the things you do that help you to play and revive that playful nature we're all born with? Edited in... Come here to kick back, relax, laugh, and play. There's no set topic other than having fun and enjoying each other's company... just like we do on a play date :) Adult play dates are acceptable... so long as they adhere to Mingle rules 
Most of all... Let's have some fun!
I think what she really means in the bigger picture is a sense of fun especially when you first meet. Personally, I find a woman with a sense of fun, who is just enjoying herself, to be very attractive. Who am I going to connect with more easily, the woman who is talking about her potential promotion at work or the one that is laughing, flirtatious, and generating sexual tension?
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perhaps I interpreted iriver's post wrong but I felt this was more about failed connections and lack of playfulness being A potential factor ??? Change is great .. for the right reasons
I Agree with this. 
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My first date? Scary it was, that girl was a bit older than me and had certain experience
Anyways, what's important to me is, I gained the ability to love myself, which is essential to love others. So I decided to leave the dark shadows from the past behind and leave positive options open
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My other thread "Have you ever felt undateable" prompted me to creating a new thread. Now that we have acknowledged that some of us do and some of us don't feel undateable, let's move past that and do something about it
I was having a conversation with someone about the importance of getting back to the basics and just having fun.. enjoying each other's company. That almost seems like a foreign concept to me... almost because I have been practicing having fun over the last year, lol. For whatever reason, not really necessary to go into details, the "play and have fun" part of me is suppressed. It doesn't come natural although as I practice that innate part inside is slowly coming to surface... I actually noticed a difference when I was visiting with my nephews, it wasn't quite so awkward playing childhood games with them... very cool feeling! This concept reminded me of kindergarten, hahaha... I mentioned in my other thread wanting to return to my teenager/young adult years and experience that first date I missed out on.. Well maybe I need to go back a bit further... To kindergarten and simply play for now. A play date! So who wants to go on a play date?
What are some of the things you do that help you to play and revive that playful nature we're all born with? Edited in... Come here to kick back, relax, laugh, and play. There's no set topic other than having fun and enjoying each other's company... just like we do on a play date :) Adult play dates are acceptable... so long as they adhere to Mingle rules
Most of all... Let's have some fun!
I don't think the fact that play doesn't come naturally to me makes me less attractive. I do think that not allowing myself to be vulnerable and open up makes me less attractive, at least to healthy men. It sends a signal that I am not available or that I am unapproachable and that results in them automatically putting me in the friendship zone or being "one of the guys" kind of thing. After posting my other thread I actually had a man message me and let me know he would have pursued further had he known, but I never gave him a sign that I was interested. And you are correct Blondey, I do have a tendency to connect emotionally with the ones I'm interacting with online and later discovering it's not reciprocated which puts a huge booboo on my ego 
My feeling undateable and need to relearn how to play is coming more from the fact that I'm aging... and lonely! Up until recently I really wasn't interested because I didn't want to invest in a face to face and end up devastated again. Spending time with friends and family over the last couple months and then coming here and suddenly being "alone" again kind of overwhelmed me with big time loneliness... and being sick didn't help matters. But it also showed me that I do want to start inviting men in my life. I do want to get close... guess I'm still just a little scared. |
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My other thread "Have you ever felt undateable" prompted me to creating a new thread. Now that we have acknowledged that some of us do and some of us don't feel undateable, let's move past that and do something about it
I was having a conversation with someone about the importance of getting back to the basics and just having fun.. enjoying each other's company. That almost seems like a foreign concept to me... almost because I have been practicing having fun over the last year, lol. For whatever reason, not really necessary to go into details, the "play and have fun" part of me is suppressed. It doesn't come natural although as I practice that innate part inside is slowly coming to surface... I actually noticed a difference when I was visiting with my nephews, it wasn't quite so awkward playing childhood games with them... very cool feeling! This concept reminded me of kindergarten, hahaha... I mentioned in my other thread wanting to return to my teenager/young adult years and experience that first date I missed out on.. Well maybe I need to go back a bit further... To kindergarten and simply play for now. A play date! So who wants to go on a play date?
What are some of the things you do that help you to play and revive that playful nature we're all born with? Edited in... Come here to kick back, relax, laugh, and play. There's no set topic other than having fun and enjoying each other's company... just like we do on a play date :) Adult play dates are acceptable... so long as they adhere to Mingle rules
Most of all... Let's have some fun!
I think what she really means in the bigger picture is a sense of fun especially when you first meet. Personally, I find a woman with a sense of fun, who is just enjoying herself, to be very attractive. Who am I going to connect with more easily, the woman who is talking about her potential promotion at work or the one that is laughing, flirtatious, and generating sexual tension? As far as my creating this thread, yes that is what the intention was. It was something you said Geezer about just enjoying each others company. I'm putting myself back out there into the dating pool and that's a little scary. I have a tendency to think a month or two ahead when I do meet someone and before we've already had coffee, I'm deciding what to cook him for dinner, lol. The slow down, relax, and get back the basics like what you were talking about is what I want to do and also need a little help and guidance in doing it. It may sound silly that I'm asking for help with this and maybe it is. If people want to laugh at me about it, fine, so be it... I am not ashamed that I'm clueless about relationships. And gathering from some of the things I've heard around here, I'm not alone, lol. |
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My first date? Scary it was, that girl was a bit older than me and had certain experience
Anyways, what's important to me is, I gained the ability to love myself, which is essential to love others. So I decided to leave the dark shadows from the past behind and leave positive options open
That's cool Larsi... I hope you find the right one for you some day
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My first date? Scary it was, that girl was a bit older than me and had certain experience
Anyways, what's important to me is, I gained the ability to love myself, which is essential to love others. So I decided to leave the dark shadows from the past behind and leave positive options open
That's cool Larsi... I hope you find the right one for you some day
Thanks for your kind words River
Not throwing flowers at myself, but I know, I have lots to offer 
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To be honest, I always liked playing on monkey bars, even as an adult. The only reason I wouldn't do it anymore now is cos of my neck / head injury. Playing in a sandbox... can be great fun! Same as going to the beach and digging a hole until the groundwater fills it, or making a castle with a moat, decorating it with seashells
I think one of the biggest problems in life -especially if someone was to go through a midlife of sorts- is to not have a connection anymore with the inner child. The inner child is our playful, happy part that loves to have fun and goof around and doesn't really care so much what other people think about what he/she does. When you let your inner child play you feel great, and it makes other people smile as well. I love to walk over a path on the dyke with seashells cos of how it feels and sounds! If there's fresh new shells, LOVE it!! Same with wood chips on a path. Or dried fallen leaves in autumn. They crack, I like that, so I step from one to the next. When there's a lot I can't resist barging through them and kicking them up in the air, haha. When there's cones on the street, I kick them around, trying to stick to one and take that with me as far as I can. When it shoots off, I go for another one. I like that sort of stuff, hihi. In the course that I'm currently running I'm reconnecting people with their inner child (it's an inner child & self-love course) and the effects are amazing! Everyone's happy with how they feel when in touch with their inner child :) I'd skip the monkey bars too, not quite as coordinated as I used to be. But I do like building sand castles and when I was in New Hampshire and we stopped at the beach, it was a lot of fun searching for seashells and trying to rinse them off in the waves without getting my feet drenched, hahaha! I forget about the inner child and that could be part of what's going on. I've connected with my inner child several times in the past, but I also disconnect and lately I've been disconnected again 
I love the place I'm at right now. We had a tour of the facility during orientation. So many cool things around here to do that will help reconnect with that playfulness again. They have an arts and crafts center too, I love ceramics and doing wood work, haven't been creative like that in a really long time. Thank you Crystal!
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Sounds like I misread the intent of thread too. Then again, I've been posting with my attention split.
At work, I don't really have the luxury of thoroughly reading posts. If I tried, I would lose awareness of my surroundings. Being aware is a huge part of my job. Ah well. I was wondering why no one else was posting their ideas.
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Sounds like I misread the intent of thread too. Then again, I've been posting with my attention split.
At work, I don't really have the luxury of thoroughly reading posts. If I tried, I would lose awareness of my surroundings. Being aware is a huge part of my job. Ah well. I was wondering why no one else was posting their ideas.
I like your ideas
This is supposed to be just a place where people come and play, flirt, hang out and enjoy each others company. As usual though, it's become "Let's psycho-analyze the originally poster" 
And I keep feeding into it 
So.... Let's get back to playing. Who wants to go build a snowman?
Clothing's optional
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River .. I think you are being a little hard on yourself .. you already have a friendly approachable nature .. you have embarked on lots of new adventures over the past two years and clearly will give new things ago . I don't think it is your personal traits or personality that are a barrier but maybe more how you approach dating . It is nice to get to know people but be wary of extending this too much .. meet sooner rather than later. No matter how approachable you are unless there is chemistry you will be friend zoned . If you truly seek a relationship ., take chances and meet men . I am sure right now there are a multitude of men who would love the chance to meet you . I think you are wonderful as you are .. if a man does not see that wonderfulness in you , he does not deserve your time or effort .
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River .. I think you are being a little hard on yourself .. you already have a friendly approachable nature .. you have embarked on lots of new adventures over the past two years and clearly will give new things ago . I don't think it is your personal traits or personality that are a barrier but maybe more how you approach dating . It is nice to get to know people but be wary of extending this too much .. meet sooner rather than later. No matter how approachable you are unless there is chemistry you will be friend zoned . If you truly seek a relationship ., take chances and meet men . I am sure right now there are a multitude of men who would love the chance to meet you . I think you are wonderful as you are .. if a man does not see that wonderfulness in you , he does not deserve your time or effort .  Thanks Blondey... again you're right
That was kind of why I created this thread... to lighten up and have a little fun. I try too hard and then get hard on myself and then life becomes miserable and all my muscles start knotting up
The last week of having the flu and altitude sickness intensified my emotions and I almost went somewhere else. I love it here and met a bunch of people in orientation today. Talked with the Director of the Y and they will help me get the certifications necessary and training necessary if I want to make the YMCA more of a career. I haven't quite found my place yet in this world. I thought I had and all that changed last year after the hurricane. So yes, I am being way too hard on myself. I think this winter my goal needs to be to relax and just have fun! |
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Sounds like I misread the intent of thread too. Then again, I've been posting with my attention split.
At work, I don't really have the luxury of thoroughly reading posts. If I tried, I would lose awareness of my surroundings. Being aware is a huge part of my job. Ah well. I was wondering why no one else was posting their ideas.
I like your ideas
This is supposed to be just a place where people come and play, flirt, hang out and enjoy each others company. As usual though, it's become "Let's psycho-analyze the originally poster"
And I keep feeding into it
So.... Let's get back to playing. Who wants to go build a snowman?
Clothing's optional
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Throws a snowball at river
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Back atcha Blondey
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Edited by
Unknow
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Tue 11/20/18 02:45 PM
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just a helpful tip ., if you do t want to be psychoanalysed then make the thread about the topic ., ie playfulness .. your opening post came across as very much a personal story
Good point
Maybe start a new one and let this die? I need a better topic though 
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catches snowball and rolls it into a ginormous ball for the snow man
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Where's the carrot stick
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