When a person puts something very specific in their profile it is there for a reason. So it makes me wonder why it is ignored. So ossicle reasons:

They didn’t read the profile
They don’t know basic geography
They don’t care
They think you forgot what you wrote
They didn’t think you meant THEM
They were so taken by your photo or profile that they simply could not help themselves (or so they tell me)
They have excuses (age is just a number-it isn’t; distance doesn’t matter when it comes to love-it does because of the time and cost factors)

Got any others to add to the list?

I thinm you covered it all. Other than

They can't read.

There are valid reasons to contact someone despite what they may say on their profiles. They should explain that to you in a message which you should read (as you expect them to do for your profile) before you delete and move on.

Or worse..when they don't take note of your location, and message you and start a conversation, which *seems* to be going well...then they say "hey..I just realized how far away you are...you should have told me...because then I wouldn't have bothered with chatting with you..."
(NOT someone on here..one of the other sites I am on)

blink blink

Dude?
It's *rigth there* on my profile, above my picture..
If you aren't familiar with someone's location..there's this really cool thing called Google you can type it in and it will pull up a map for you...you should try it..
because it isn't MY job to inform you of where I am...

P.S.. No, I don't think it's bullsh**...because I had a guy on the same site ~argue with me~ earlier this year about my location..that was I *sure* I wasn't in KY??

MsLeeHM....

I really, really don't understand WHY guys that do that..

I mean...let's say you are looking for a job.
You see a job advertising for a licensed electrician with at *least* 5 years expereince.
*Your* only experience with electricity is changing an occasional light bulb.
Would you apply for that job?
And then get mad at them when they won't interview you and offer you the job??

I don't understand why it's something to get upset about. If it's a scammer, someone mass mailing, or someone who is rude, I can understand being annoyed and upset. If someone relatively normal pays attention to me, I'm grateful to be noticed. Loneliness makes people a bit desperate at times.

Oh, and if someone was homeless or unemployed for a long time they just might try for that job for which they're not qualified. Doesn't mean they'll get it, but I understand why wanting to eat and have a roof over their head compelled them to ask.

I understand THAT, but apply for a job you at least have *some* familiarity with/ skill set for..
You're hungry and need a job?
And you worked in a tool and die plant for 5 years after high school?
You certainly wouldn't apply for a job as CNA or a math teacher....that just makes no sense...
And certainly don't get mad at them for not interviewing you or offereing you the job.

As we're all neighbors, in the forums...
Some may occasionally contact others,
in regard to forums posts.
Be it, a pat on the back, or a proverbial whack
to the noggin.

It's generally done, without regard, to profile content.
It's called, "communicating", "networking", "being a neighbor".


If, on the offhand, the email is of a romantic nature,
and not from a bot, i politely decline, and wish the sender
luck in their search. If it is a bot, or an obvious scammer,
I simply block.


There is absolutely nothing on the internet, worth allowing
yourself to become upset about.

I don't get it either. Three or four times a month somebody throws up a whiny post about undesirables messaging them or, God forbid, looking at their profiles. Delete, block and move on. As Napoleon Dynamite would say "geeeezzzz!".

I think people just don't read profiles before they say hello. Until I put it in my profile heading that I was not seeking romance, I got a whole lot of 'looking for a wife' type messages in the first one or two responses.

I do read what they say AND check their profile before deleting

It is frustrating because I get a dozen of them every day.

Men don't read Profiles on Free datesites MOST times.

Thst is all one can ask when you send a message.

Are they from people 3-4 states away...or who have no profile...or have their real name on their profile?
They are most likely scammers....
That's all *I* ever get messages from....

They are never from here. The vast majority are from Texas. But CA and the East Coast are frequent. Many from Manhattan NY.

I suspect that for many people not in North America Manhattan and TX are common enough in the media that it stays with them as a city they say is theirs.

And like you I would say 99% are scammers who think old ladies are either rich or are easily duped out of their money.

Maybe they just want to annoy you???

Kind of like telling a kid to not do something, what do they do, they do it...

They think they can change your mind about what you want. I think by the time you're in your 40's or 50's, you know what you like.

Telling me what *you* think I really want..or *should* want is the quickest way to "Bye Felicia"...