That's exactly what I meant. With many states relaxing their laws on gnu ownership, I'd hate to come home from a date and have the jealous husband there and he'd say, "Sick 'im, boy," and then I'd get trampled.

Even the word "separated" makes me run. I think Married, no matter what the circumstances would turn me into a speeding Harley. short answer is NO

Nope

Nope Definitely not interested. it is hard enough in here figuring out who is lying and who is being honest. Like others have said - I've had enough drama

No

Nope. Wouldn't have to worry about the separated thing as we have a similar thing but hardly anyone uses that anymore.

I can understand some would have reason to not divorce and stay separated, yet I still wouldn't want to get involved with such a person.
I want someone who's free and not dependent in any shape or form on an ex. If you don't want to lose the benefits of marriage, that's a choice you make, meaning you have to bear the consequences of that decision as well, even when you don't like them.
Everyone else who does divorce also takes the 'risk' to lose out here and there and makes do themselves.

Beastiality without foreplay?

Maybe, pet the gnus first.

Just seems less dangerous that way.

I'm closer to Justbehonest on this.

There are different degrees of "still married."

I myself had to spend almost a decade in Legally Separated status, due to the absurd insistence of Virginia on requiring that all divorces require thousands of dollars to go to both the state coffers, and the private lawyers pockets.

So I understand that not all "separated" people are alike. There are certainly some who fit the descriptions and negative assumptions that most people make about them, but there are also some who deserve the same genuine respect as divorced people and widows and widowers. Some deserve more.

No one deserves to be insulted or declared duplicitous in a flat generalization.

I understand the various circumstances surrounding separation.

Finally, people who understand that separated doesn’t mean drama.

I’m separated, no drama. Not divorced for personal reasons.

I know the feeling ! I wouldn't date a separated man if I knew about it. Problem is many Men lie and also lie about being Married, especially on the Internet dating. That is why it is best to date in Person and ask Many questions Before a relationship. IMO

My reply was to this !

I used to be willing to date someone who was separated, but then I heard of too many horror stories from people directly involved in the situation. Not all cases were here in my state either.

So while "separated" may mean different things, I don't think the majority of cases would be worth dealing with.

The few that might be worthwhile, I probably wouldn't have the patience for -- meaning that when I do fall for someone, I fall hard. With someone who is separated for any reason, I would need to be more cautious than that, like a friends first deal. But I couldn't do that unless we really did meet as friends long before considering anything more than that. I'm better off avoiding it entirely.

I certainly wouldn't consider dating someone from a dating site who had "separated" listed on her profile. Too many unknown variables with that scenario.

For me personally I wouldn't but
everyones circumstances are different for some it's financial medical insurance and maybe for some they think a separation will help the marriage whatever who am I to judge

In *my* situation, with *my* ex...YEARS ago..

After being a serial cheater, he wanted to marry this latest one.
So, he filed, and then a month later I got laid off.

Part of our agreement in the No Fault thing was I be allowed to stay until i found a suitable place (had critters, so couldn't just go rent something..and I didn't want to rent anyway..)

Of course, *that* necessitated me having a job of more than 90 days duration..as mortgage companies don't like "Temp" workes..

It took a while to get all this worked out, find a plce, and move out.

In the meantime..he never brought her there..hell, she was still living with her parents (under age...but he had their blessing), so...this was not a problem.
I was sleeping on the sofa..been doing that while anyway..he always went to bed way earlier than I did...
You guys don't need to judge..I *did* go into bed after I got tired/ whatever movie i was watchng was over..but, after he announced he'd met someone else..I slept on the sofa permanantly.

It worked for us...

I certainly didn't wait until I was moved out to start to date again..
(of course I never brought anyone to the house either..that would just be discourteous as hell)

Myself, I have had bad experiences with dating guys who weren't actually divorced before..because they claimed they weren't sleeping with her/ "can't stand the bi**h"....then several months later she comes up pregnant and the divorce was off..

Myself, the situation wasn't like that.
He'd already "left" emotionally and mentally, so...why would I try and hang on to him, or sleep with him ever again?

Met someone FAR better than he was..we had 8 years together...the met my late husband.
(I went into detail about this in other [posts)

Back when i first started dating after my husband died..I met a guy who had been "separated" for 30 years..

blink blink

I kind of wondered why we couldn't meet for dinner in the town where he lived...and instead had to go to Bowling Green...30 minutes away..

On the drive there was when he let this piece of information slip out..
He'd told me he was divorced in our phone conversation, and that's what his profile said..
Points for actually *telling me*, I guess??

I wquestioned if thye've been separated for *that* long...surely she wouldn't care if she saw him with someone, eh?
Didn't get a straight anwer out of him.

Never went out with him again..
His parting shot was "well..I guess you won't ever talk to me again...just like all the other women.."

Bingo, buddy...yer right...

Probably just hit it and quit it.

After 6 months of being in a Legal separation I got a divorce because I wanted to date like he was already doing.

I don't believe in dating , while still be married so I had to move forward. It may have been Years before he decided to give up his dating.