Fine, I updated mine

Profile content:
1. Every woman loves to laugh. What else is new. Tell us something we don't know.
2. If you only want sex move on to the next profile. Why give dishonorable mention to this type of individual. Saying so gives the indicator that a woman has been emotionally burned and one will have to overcome near insurmountable emotional mountains.
3. I like to travel. Whose going to pay the bill?
4. Older women posting pictures of themself from twenty years ago. A 65 year old woman with a picture of a 40 year old is not being honest.
5. While the photo may be recent stop using Photoshop to correct ages imperfections. Like #4 this is dishonest and is a turn off when you actually meet.

While I don't view men's profiles I assume men are guilty of our own misinformation within profiles.

I am new here and already had my share of scammers. Initially I left out my previous job, just to see what is going on here. I Had a few "interested" in my profile, but I ran them out as scammers. As soon as I mentioned a defect in their profile versus what they tell you, they loose interest! Why? .... Because most guys here either lie or just want a woman for a quick intimate encounter and that is that. My former job was a police officer. That (I don't know why) scare most men. (I included that in my profile now). Is it that bad? Does it make me a bad person? Is it wrong then to be honest in my profile? NO it isn't. There are some good people out there. I prefer a filled out profile, because I want to know a little about a person that caught my eye.

Hi Ami... it's good to fill out your profile and to be honest. Your former job will only scare the ones that don't matter. Also, keep in mind scammers don't read profiles, so fill it out to attract the ones you'd like to meet.

Hope that helps and welcome to Mingle... the forums are a great place to meet genuine people and we have lots of fun here, so stick around and have fun.

Hi Ami, welcome to the forums.
I read your profile and it is very good. Nice to know that you were a police officer. It might scare some but those people who are scared of police officers are up to no good anyway lol

Happy New Year!

It seems rude. So you're expecting somebody to base an entire possible relationship on a 1x1 photo. That'll be a lasting relationship..."well your photo looked nice...didn't know you were a serial killer" So without the profile, 90% of the people waste their time trying to find out who you are and something about you. If you don't have time or are too lazy to do a profile then don't bother with the pic and don't bother with M2. IMHO

Hi indianadave4
Perhaps we just look younger than our age... perhaps
As stated in my profile, I am on YouTube so anyone can check me out.

Happy New Year indianadave4!

Thank you

Thank you and Happy New Year to you too

So I get messages from 20-30 year olds every day with nothing in their profiles. Hmmmmm.

Does anyone have that kind of time?


The more filled out it is, the better chances are you won't look like one of the many bot/scammer accounts. If you state something about revealing things due to privacy issues, most people, I would image, would consider that perfectly fine, but when there's nothing, there's no ability to tell if they're a real person or not.


It really kinda does. No one looks at a blank profile and go "Oh, this is interesting!" No one.



The problem is that with that 'hi' in the profile because it's the default, you end up looking like the many scammers out there, who do not bother to fill out a profile. The people who talk about safety and so on sites like this warn specifically against profiles with little to no information. They're the first sign of a potential predator, scammer, or worse.

Jewels...I tried to message you, but can't....

Something wrong?

I did profiles, posted photos, wrote messages. What did I get? Goose egg. I don't doubt others like me have done the same for no good end. It's a lot of work and wasted time. Then someone gripes about open profiles.

You aren't seeing it from our side. Bet I re-wrote my profile a dozen times. Never changed a thing. Hundreds of messages sent with no replies. Invariably, some doofus Will come along and tell us we aren't trying hard enough. My trying hard days were long ago. By the way, I never expected the "Hi" to work, and it never did. (Yes I tried it a couple times) Five years ago, I decided to work on my own situation, and the heck with this dating business.

Rattle off a few lines, post it as a profile, and proceed to forums. No forums? I'm not there. There's no reason to, from my point of view.

So, the next time you think about questioning why profiles are so short, study on the reasons why some just don't bother.

Better to waste some time than to be looked completely over because you blend in with the scammers.

Nope. Won't bother. I'm not selling, begging, or looking.

Nope, jusat wanted to say I loved your profile and feel we are on the same page with our sgta dards and what we are looking for..
No, not weird or anything, just wanted to give you a virtual high five..

Yeah, deuhhh... you don't have a photo. And you wonder why people don't reply?

If a guy doesn't have a photo online, I never reply, won't even read his message. I got photos online as well, if someone can't be bothered to do that, I can't be bothered to go there.
There's enough scammers and fakes and creeps online. A photo is the least you can do.

No, I used to do photos. I thought a good bit on profiles, and wrote them. It got me zippo. Now I don't bother with it. It took a while to become indifferent to women, to view them as bodies taking up space on this planet. I would just remind myself that women looked at me the same way, I was just another body.


The only time I ever got any feedback from dating sites, was forums. I'd get comments, that's all. Short, simple, with no strings attached. The way they wanted it. I stopped believing what women wanted. What their hidden agenda is, I have no clue. Nor do I want to know, anymore.