Share your thoughts...
How will you know its legit ?
is travelling too costly to meetsomeone or dont care, just stupid?

share your experiences to help others have an idea.

Waste of time if one doesn't move fairly soon after the decision to have a relationship.

Like anything else..just one big coin flip..

I think you have to have a lot of meet ups, in person, to get to know each other. I don't thinks this works out for many couples in the long run. I have reasons for this.

You have to meet in person after communicating Online.

Then loong phone conversations often.

Sooner than later someone will need to move where the other lives.

Big decision better be Sure !

^ that

I know two couples married and have kids met this way.

If you want it to work, you will find away.

Great insights guys’

If its meant to be it will be. I just have to say it’s possible to build relationship in a long distance, with all the technology giving this more convenient, easy communication and even more secure as you can monitor where and abouts the other person is. Everything’ will work out unless oneself is not 100% positive, honest and committed.

Agreed. Long distance is a waste of time. Between jobs, domiciles etc...unless you get married, it's not worth it.

Also agree. great thought’

Agree... lots of communication first on the phone ...

& we would meet one another ... I am not the traveler so would have to be him ... and with no expectations... I would think it might be hard ... I might start to love them ... then what ... not so easy to meet ... but who knows ... why we would have the long distance relationship in the first place ... just sexual... might be ok to with the right person ... I met someone who did not live close ... and I could tell we would not get along he was set in his ways and me in mine ... that meant he just went his own way and I too ... nice lunch getting to know who he might be ... I know he was disappointed but I was just not into him ... but I am sure he is good now ... so I don't feel that bad anymore ... it really can be a flip or flop lmao ... and different experience for the each of us ...

I can work, life is full of surprises. But it is essential to build mutual trust.

Trust is the key.

If you don't think LDRs can work, then you will never possess the amount of trust required to make it work. An LDR is hard. It tests your trust on a regular basis. So you constantly have to find ways to build and maintain that trust.

Phone calls, video chats, exchanging photos (not just of yourself, but the people you know and the area you live in), traveling when able, etc.

The truth is most people aren't willing to put the effort into an LDR. That's why they don't work.

And they don't put the effort in largely because they don't have enough trust that things can and will work out. Period.

I see LDR as a waste of time,
and mostly for people who can't get laid
in their own localities.

I can't say it's a waste of time a have friends who made it work. One married and live a beautiful life together now they deserve it. The other inseparable now but went yrs back and forth until they were sure.

If you both decide on starting a long distance relationship, you need to meet up soon and as often as possible to get to know more about each other, which can cost a lot of money in travelling costs. If you don't meet each other fairly quickly, and on a regular basis, the relationship will break down in my opinion because one or both of you will become bored with what feels more like being penpals, which is not the type of relationship either of you wanted or were looking for. They can and do work out for some, it depends on the two people involved.

I agree trust is vital.
Problem is, "most people" on dating sites have experienced a relationship where trust has failed.

Once Bitten / Twice Shy

LDRs are difficult because everybody knows everybody lies about something. Complete honesty is extremely difficult to find. We delude ourselves by 'filling in the blanks'. We create a fantasy scenario that goes along with those tidbits of interaction we experience. When you finally do meet in person, the reality of 'them' often differs from our expectations we formed during our limited interactions.

The thing about trust is that it has to be grown. People who just openly trust anyone are what is called gullible. To grow actual trust you have to spend time 'with' a person. TCP/IP, VOIP and Phone are not a true measure of that person. The interface is staged, even if you may not 'think' it is. Only actual face to face, hand holding interactions can build true trust.

I have tried a few LDRs. Even when I was married and in the service deployed to other countries there were many things I could not tell about my X until I returned home and spent time with her again.
The difference was I didn't allow my insecurities to rule me with fear.
I trusted her because we spent time together, in person and built that trust together.

Knowing that trust has to grow, I am not interested in another LDR.
If I can't just be in her presence to build the relationship, there is no point.
Gotta have "time on target".

Great advantages. Such as....

- You don't have to see one another every day. You spend a whole weekend together and then you go back home. She doesn't start moving in right away, leaving stuff at your place every time she visits. Come on ladies...you don't have to be so sneaky.

- Now, if all went well then you want to be together. Still, you need to exert patience. You have your place your way right now, and you know that Hello Kitty, Disney Princess stuff is coming once you commit. Patience men. Patience. Get that man cave up and running.

-Ladies....let's talk about communication. I am sure that by now most of you will want a HUGE commitment, and it is coming. However, you should also take the time to enjoy this LDR. I am sure you will know that he is the one for you and you will want to move quick. Just communicate that you are feeling good about things, and.....AND....that you don't want to move in and take over his life....not just yet. Patience ladies....if you have the man then he won't go anywhere....just remember....beer and food....beer and food....men love those two things.

There are more but these are a good start.....


NOTE: This is all in fun people.

LDr..if you know your waiting for the right people but if u know and you feel your waiting for nothing why you have to wait.. TrueLove comes if its meant to be..But believed that the person who knows how to wait will have the best love story..

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