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Hi, Let me pen a few thoughts. I would recommend that you do some soul searching. Emotional independance is a vital ingredient in a happy relationship. If one is so emotionally dependant on someone, the other can feel it. This creates feeling of being "trapped" will make a person run. If I can say, a women want a strong man or an equal. A normal women want a strong emotional arm around her. A successful relationship needs to stand on 4 feet - not two. Find out what are the roots of your emotional dependance. Lack of attention and love in childhood? etc. If you don't settle first your past and mend it first, you will carry that in to your future relationship - won't give you a successful marriage neither. Even if you find someone who can play that role of caring, one day you might grow up and her role of being the caring partner will annoy you rather that help you. You would then complain of not being " Free" Her role gone, she won't be able to swim anymore. The end of your relationship arrives and you have another headache. Applause!!! |
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I'm really sorry to hear that. She's a runner. Let me try and explain what I mean. It has nothing to do with jogging. She's so afraid of getting hurt that she jeopardizes any relationship that could be good, by running off emotionally. The reason I know this is because I'm one, myself. It doesn't mean she wants a bad guy, either. She has to work on herself and get to the point where she won't run. It's kinda hard to explain. It will take her time to evaluate herself and figure out what she needs to do to stop running.
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Only $200? Good Lord, what is she....a gold digger or what?
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No she wasnt a gold digger i wanted to do that
she bought tickets to a broadway play that were 200 so i felt that it was right |
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follow your heart....im sorry its broken.
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I would fight for her, but in a dignified manner. She is the one who is confused, and she needs to work out things on her own. You should give her space to do that, but send her friendly reminders that you do care a great deal. Maybe in a couple of days you could send her some flowers saying, "I was thinking about you". Then next week you could send her a nice card telling her you will be there for her when she is ready.
You can still be in her life this way without shutting the door. In a couple of weeks, hopefully she will come around. Good luck to you Bobby! |
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I wish you all the best.
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I would fight for her, but in a dignified manner. She is the one who is confused, and she needs to work out things on her own. You should give her space to do that, but send her friendly reminders that you do care a great deal. Maybe in a couple of days you could send her some flowers saying, "I was thinking about you". Then next week you could send her a nice card telling her you will be there for her when she is ready. You can still be in her life this way without shutting the door. In a couple of weeks, hopefully she will come around. Good luck to you Bobby! What a nice guy......if that doesn't get her attention and put mud in her shoes, I don't know if anything would I like your advice!! |
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Edited by
cutelildevilsmom
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Fri 12/07/07 03:08 PM
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Well, I met a great a girl on here and I was thinking that possibly she was the "one" We have only known each other for a short time. But no one has ever made me feel like this before. Everything was going great we were getting along like I never have before. I was thinking that it had potential to be something great some that doesnt come around everyday in this life. I was with her last night and its was great we kissed and held each other for god knows long. I care deeply about her and I want nothing more than for her to be in my life.Then today she drops the bomb on me that she cant do this. Saying it wasnt me that I was great but she isnt ready for a relationship. I pleaded I think for her to re think this situation. Its seems that her mind made up. She says she is falling in love with me and vice versa. But she is scared. I told her there is a reason that were brought together and not to throw it away because it may never come into her life again and the same for me. I keep begging her not to go (maybe im dumb) My mind is telling me " hey, dummmy! You just met her. Forget about it." My heart is telling me she is special and to continue to try to keep her in my life. It doesnt look like it will happen. Im shattered and I wish I could change her mind. She claims she cares deeply for me but thats why she is leaving me alone. I tell her to get out of my life but then I call her 10 minutes later and beg for her to stay with me. Do I continue the fight or give up? Is she worth it? Or are the feelings that I have for her worth putting myself through this? What do you think please let me know. Is everything a baited hook? Angels arent supposed to fly so low :-( Signed a broken heart i think she is just has the jitters and needs some space.she may have felt things were going a little too fast for her.Follow mbcasey's advice and you'll soon know whether she is willing to overcome her fear and experience true love.good luck. |
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Sometimes what happened means she got close to you and is not feeling you like she should be= let it go
Sometimes it means she feels something and is afraid and nervous = still let it go....in this situation if she comes back to you you may be able to start over |
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Well just to let you all know I am finished with her even if she calls me I will give her the advangtage to do this again
Just left now with some good memories thats all and lessons learned thanks to all who replied to this posting all of your consideration is appreciated NEXT! |
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Edited by
SVImager
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Sat 12/08/07 01:19 PM
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Well, Bobby... good luck next time.
I think you went too strong on the first date. You didn't hold back, so it scared her. If you keep trying to contact her, you will be in a worst position than before. It is a lost cause. Focus your energy on another girl. |
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Well just to let you all know I am finished with her even if she calls me I will give her the advangtage to do this again Just left now with some good memories thats all and lessons learned thanks to all who replied to this posting all of your consideration is appreciated NEXT! Your so welcome, and good luck with your search for that special someone!! I know she's out there for you!! |
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hell, at least she had the guts to tell you straight up. I had a similar experience not to long ago and the guy wouldn't even be man enough to SAY he didn't want to be involved anymore, he just quit communicating with me all together.
I wish I could say to just let her go but I understand you not wanting to give up on something that feels so right. trust your instincts...that's what I'm going to try and do.. *hugs* Rebecca |
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