what do you guys thing about love at first site and intimacy sex isn't everything but without a good sex life your nothing more then 2 people sharing space and time

I like intimacy at first sight.. food store, Home Depot, post office.. stuck in traffic in the Lincoln tunnel.. first sight.

I don't believe in love at first sight but attraction is a powerful thing. I hope to be crazy in love again. I just can't settle for sharing space. Great topic.

I found sex on the first site.
Really good sex on the second site.
Mediocre / really bad sex on the third site.

Love? Well... Not until the fifth site.

I like an activity partner, just to go out somewhere! Not interested in casual dating,. fwb. Many people call that relationship.

I have Platonic men friends until I meet serious minded partner.

that is a sad way to view a relationship . What happens when there is a severe injury or illness and sex is not possible . Are you then just sharing time and space or does love transcend sex

You came up with that one before. And there's a point to it WHEN you're in relationship with said person.
But we're talking about being single and love at first sight.

Do you feel your question/statement still goes then? Also when it's about yourself, as in: Would you get involved with someone who's incapacitated in that area?

I feel these are two totally different scenarios (already involved, invested, having a history, a life together, and so on OR not involved nor invested yet.)
I would not go for it.

I believe in Muskrat Love.

I've never experienced 'love' at first sight.
I have experienced:
Infatuation at first sight.
Lust at first sight.
Interested at first sight.

The only love I have experienced has grown from spending time together.
I've had sex and I've made love.
Having sex and making love are different things.
If you don't know the difference you haven't done both.
Getting sex is easy, making love requires a union and happens before, during and long after the sex.

I don't even allow reach arounds on first sight.

Love at first sight meaning... having an immediate deep bond, an instant click, a feeling of "I know you!" and "I'm FINALLY home, right where I belong, what I've been longing for and looking for all my life!". Not looking for a relationship yet having those feelings anyway, being as one, time standing still for hours on end. Looking into each other's eyes and knowing, feeling, sensing "This is IT!"
Knowing each other completely even though you only just met and don't know each other at all yet on an earthly level?
Having that bond that never seems to go away?
You mean that?
Yes. Been there.

Marital love does transcend sex.

that is a very true statement that reflects the whole relationship. you got to have sex in a relationship to make it fun & exciting :)

#GoodJobTom!!!!

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I don't believe in love at first sight.

You cant love a person that you don't know.

Yes there is a strong attraction at first sight but that is lust, and there is nothing wrong with lust but to call it love is disingenuous.

That it doesn't mean much.
It's not a magic switch that turns on in your head and can never be turned off or change.
Nor does it grant you super powers and morality or values or courage.

Commitment and self control/discipline to fulfill your commitments and expectations that you've shaped, responsibility, the ability to communicate and communicate honestly will mean far more than love ever will.

Love is motivation and risk mitigation through emotional means.

You're still a human being with free will and the same experience baggage.

Love is a tool to help you bond to make a relationship more difficult to end, primarily for the sake of procreation purposes and social cohesion.
Not a goal or trophy that is bigger than you are, or a magic pill like spinach is to Popeye, turning you into another person entirely.

Love at first sight is great. But it doesn't magically change who you are. It just gives you something you need to choose to live up to and validate, and it will be impossible if the other person doesn't reciprocate.


Neither is money. But life is a lot harder and harsher without it.
But just adding money doesn't mean it's easy.


Even with a good sex life, you're nothing more than 2 people sharing space and time.
At least from an external perspective looking at 2 unknown people.

The people in the relationship give the relationship purpose, meaning, and definition.
The only real "problem" is when there isn't clear communication as to the purpose or goals of the relationship.

People lie to themselves constantly.
They get lonely and rationalize what they're "looking" for, what they want in a relationship, when it's really just convincing themselves of tactics to use to get what they want in the short term.
e.g. lots of people convince themselves what they want is a loving, long term, committed, monogamous relationship.
Go online, and then spend ten years online dating, meeting person after person. Either constantly rejecting them, or dating for a couple weeks/months, and after they've had some sex there are all these irreconcilable incompatibility issues.

Sometimes "love at first sight" is actual "love" at first sight.
For many more people it's just something they do to themselves in order to justify behavior they wouldn't normally exhibit in order to get what they want as soon as possible, and most likely in order to trigger or engender feelings of social reciprocity in their target.

Also, Love is purely personal. Its not something that can be given to someone that does not have it. You can demonstrate the love you 'feel' towards another with actions or words but technically its the actions or words that you give them not your love.
You can't pour your love in a box and present it as a gift.
Others can't give you love either.
You can label their words and actions as love but they are still only words and actions. They choose to feel love for you or not.

The only person that can feel your love is you. Everything else is a delusion, a happy delusion but a delusion all the same.
This is why I can feel love for her but she doesn't feel love for me no matter how hard I try to prove my love for her is real. Likewise, she can feel love for me and express that love but I feel nothing for her.

The love we feel also has different degrees of severity. I can love the same person a lot sometimes and a little other times. I can also not love them at all after loving them with all my heart.

Love at "First Sight" means you are walking down the street and turn a corner and come face to face with someone and immediately love them. I'm sorry but that just doesn't happen.
You can be interested in getting to know that person better.
You can become infatuated with the image of that person.
You can lust after that person.
Attraction for any reason doesn't necessarily mean love.

You can be attracted to the binding, the lettering or the 'picture' on the cover of a book but you can't judge a book by its cover. You have to open it up and look at what is inside. Inside, it could be anything, scribbles, vulgarity, even completely blank pages. You can't know its content till you look deeper.

Don't you mean "love @ 1st sight"?

1) Your grammar leaves a lot to be desired. But since you're not my type, I'll let it slide just thish once.

2) Too many folks here are too preoccupied with shex,. . . Either because they don't get enough, they don't get any other than their friend Mr/Ms hand, or they simply are sexually immature.
So the concept of "intimacy" is always related to sexuality and intercourse.
So there is the constant misconception that all you want ish sex.
Some of us, are interested in intimacy that is not necessarily sexual, nor physically carnal. But personal intimacy of a mutually fulfilling relationship of sincerity, sensitivity, compassion, empathy, tenderness and genuine caring. Among other things...

3) What ish "love"?
Most of the time, there ish "no answer" to general criteria in their profiles, and "I'll tell you later".
Mostly because they're too horny to think reasonably, so they put off the work of fleshing out answering questions, or filling in the blanks.
So if you're just horny, you're not actually looking for real love, rather you got a raging hard on and you want an outlet to burn off that tension. Because Mr Hand (for guys) has too many rough callouses and doesn't like to kiss. Or Ms Hand ish too rough and ish starting to feel like wanking off with another girl, than being with a guy.
Love ishn't what you're looking for, rather it ish lust plain and simple.

4) Real love, takes time to nurture and mature. Since the good things in life don't come easily without the commitment and dedication to put in the ground work, the constant attention to the small stuff, and having your heart right where it should be.