I have to admit that reading a lot of women's post amuse me meaning (if your looking for SEX then walk away ) Am like ok what is wrong with this person? First and for most directing that one way ticket staying single for a very long time your scaring the good men away so you need to stop that attitude and understand not all men after SEX.
Second of all here's the main problem if the men asking for sex then probably means that your exposing yourself a bit to much either from the legs to the breast so if you don't want that type of negativity then don't post photos like that.
I very rare check this site out way to many fake profiles but if your truly looking for a good man stop the attitudes and neg photos simple as that .Am a man saying this .

Your penultimate sentence.
So you’re saying women shouldn’t be allowed to dress nice and look pretty because that is an invite for sexual or abusive messages?

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I read that post about 20 times, I'm still not sure I really understand it.

And he is amused reading women's profiles.. Pay backs are a stitch

I believe he thinks women should be dressed as Nun's in their pic's.

I’m with you on that...made zero sense

According to my third Jack Daniels it reads something about you're a cruel tease

Lmao Jasonkm

Man, women don't "not" like sex.
They just understand that sex is intimate and special and comes 'after' getting to know you.
Men, on the other hand (not all men, but a significant number), ARE after sex, ARE crude and ARE rude to women online, they DO think they can dictate/command women.
I don't find it amusing, I find it SAD that women NEED to place disclaimers in their profiles.
The problem I see with your main problem is that you are a control freak.
I got some bad news for you, You can't control other people, they don't exist to serve you. Use search and look up the word narcissism.

Bravo, bravo, take a bow!

That amuses me too. But for different reasons, probably.

When I read something like "if you're just looking for sex, move on," in a profile (especially if it's like the first line), I build this movie in my head where they also go to McDonald's and the cashier asks "hi, may I take your order?" and the profile person says "I'm not looking for a whopper! Nor any hot apple pie nonsense! Or a combo meal! If you want me to try your new cajun sandwich or the mcrib, just keep on walking!......I'll have a cheeseburger, and, um, how fresh are your fries? Uuuhhhn, do I want the carmel frap or just a coke? Ugh."

That's what amuses me.
Then I go to Youtube and watch the videos where the customer starts beating on the McDonald's employee for running out of nuggets or something. Then I'll wonder if her online profile also says she doesn't want drama.


If they aren't after sex....then why would "I'm not looking for sex" necessarily "scare" them, the "good men," away?

And wouldn't it be more helpful to tell people how to change their attitude, like specific tools to do so, rather than just "you need to stop that attitude."


I don't think that's always the case. It's not just the women showing excessive cleavage, or in sexy/revealing clothing, that are being propositioned for just sex or immediate intimate encounters.

You know there was a time, long long ago, in a galaxy far away, when photos weren't all that common on profiles or dating sites, as people had slow computers with dial up, loading in the kilobytes and such?
Unfortunately, I'm old enough to remember.
And guess what, women complained about the exact same things then as now, they also would say/post 'not here for sex!' too.

I don't think the "main problem" is revealing photos.
Personally, I think the "main problem" is the impersonal communication aspect of the internet. Easier to dehumanize and focus on self, having to fill in missing communication with your own biases, perspective, insecurities, emotions, whatever, as there isn't adequate feedback that people are used to that they get on a face to face basis. That just leads to objectifying others, and seeing them as an extension of your own ego, causing stress when they don't react/respond how you think they will/should.

It worked for cave men...

Anyone see my club?

It's good you read women's profiles. Many do not.

don't knw where his is at but i never loose track of mine

your not getting the message or understanding the post.
First of all every time I view a females profiles not all but theirs a few its always the same thing the men blame I was hurt then it becomes a trust issue.
Then they say am.not here for sex ok I think we all get that .
But to over do it by showing off a bit more as expected such as breast and minor skirts show off the coche kinda not far that's how you get these men all around you .
I grew up in a family all church people also there was no judging or insults if their was we had the belt or soap on the mouth .
But to get to my topic point being is if a female wants to dress that way so be it but don't expect anything nice all your going to get in return is a bunch of hounds looking for a piece of meat .
Nothing wrong expressing my thoughts in a post I have a right too my amendments.
My spelling is not so good I.have very bad arthritis in.my hands.

Sorry you can't get laid.

You're as free to express yoyr thoughts as men and women are free to dress however they feel comfortable.
Or for those who frequent nudist beaches, dress in their birthday suits.
Nobody says you have to look or contact anyone.
To each their own.

that was a great way to put it

My photo doesn't show any skin. Doe's that mean I'm a church going gal? No.

I'm surprised by that as I felt like "Finally a man who understands" (most don't) and was happy that for a change this message is coming from a man.

If you attract mostly 'poor quality' men and men who are after sex only it is indeed because of what you yourself exude. And that is either your own photos OR the way you present yourself.
And this is indeed by posting in a negative way: "If you want X DO NOT contact me"

Most women seem to think this will hold them off while in actual fact it attracts the men they don't want and repels good guys.

I was going to post "This is one of the best postings on here ever" and I love it coming from a man, so I'm quite shocked to see the replies.