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Topic: fears from marriage
Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Mon 06/04/18 05:43 PM
the main reason for writing this topic in Egypt especially , a lot of girls some times lie on men and don't appear the true in some thing in engagement period ( called cheat period ) i see the women are lying a lot of time , so how is generated the honesty and sincerity with lying woman ?? what do they lie about ?? Have you been engaged ashra ?? the girl imagine man that she is the best girl in the world and promise him to live happiest man in the world and the man know the manners and impression s of this girl and after wedding he sudden something which not finding in her before , i haven't engaged before but the married people say me it marriage has its own pressures and rewards . Possibly after marriage expectations responsibilities and yes personalities can change . .. rarely is change one sided .it is easy to misunderstand and hurt one another .. love is not perfect .. communication is not perfect .. marriage is not perfect . The nature of being human is that we respond to our environment . If there is stress .. distress .. unhappiness our behaviour reflects how we cope and respond . If you are rigid in your expectations of marriage .. and of her .. then yes you may be disappointed hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh if i may be disappointed , you will pay fine to me so many fines !!!!! and if the woman is disappointed is there also a fine

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Mon 06/04/18 06:02 PM
the main reason for writing this topic in Egypt especially , a lot of girls some times lie on men and don't appear the true in some thing in engagement period ( called cheat period ) i see the women are lying a lot of time , so how is generated the honesty and sincerity with lying woman ?? what do they lie about ?? Have you been engaged ashra ?? the girl imagine man that she is the best girl in the world and promise him to live happiest man in the world and the man know the manners and impression s of this girl and after wedding he sudden something which not finding in her before , i haven't engaged before but the married people say me it marriage has its own pressures and rewards . Possibly after marriage expectations responsibilities and yes personalities can change . .. rarely is change one sided .it is easy to misunderstand and hurt one another .. love is not perfect .. communication is not perfect .. marriage is not perfect . The nature of being human is that we respond to our environment . If there is stress .. distress .. unhappiness our behaviour reflects how we cope and respond . If you are rigid in your expectations of marriage .. and of her .. then yes you may be disappointed hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh if i may be disappointed , you will pay fine to me so many fines !!!!! and if the woman is disappointed is there also a fine sure .. any money from u , don't say any words which they can't be achieved

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Mon 06/04/18 06:06 PM
I think people should live together before marriage. Kids add a lot of responsibility that I've found men don't want. My oldest daughter is lucky that her husband helps and is a good dad. I've told my youngest daughter to make sure she is ready to raise a kid alone before she has one, even if she is married. At my age I would want a prenupt before marriage because of assets. often , the prenuptial is the main reason of problems , the couples rarely agree with it , one of them take prenuptial as his/her mind

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1719	Tue 06/05/18 06:39 AM
The law has killed marriage. When it goes wrong the man loses the lot ,even some of his pension. Divorce is tough on men especially when you work hard just to see it go in a heartbeat. In a world of equality both people should just have what they earned in a divorce. Of course you don't want divorce to happen but if it does the man is always the one that gets treated most unfairly. This is sexist and untrue It may not specifically be the man but the person in the marriage who did the most work and earned most of the assets will be the one who looses the most of what they worked for. This is finally changing from being the man in the marriage to the woman as she becomes the more significant income earner. The fact remains the courts do not want to see a significant difference in assets between people after a divorce. They also tend to favor the least productive with the most marital assets on the basis that the other is more capable of producing fresh income and assets. It is unfair whatever the reason and has a chilling effect on marriage.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1719	Tue 06/05/18 06:47 AM
I think people should live together before marriage. Kids add a lot of responsibility that I've found men don't want. My oldest daughter is lucky that her husband helps and is a good dad. I've told my youngest daughter to make sure she is ready to raise a kid alone before she has one, even if she is married. At my age I would want a prenupt before marriage because of assets. I'm not sure a prenup is adequate and enforceable as it relates to income earned and assets obtained during the marriage. Yes, a prenup preserves the assets you have prior to the marriage but what about during the marriage?

Easttowest72 Joined Tue 04/24/18 Posts: 2169	Tue 06/05/18 07:08 AM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married.

Stu Joined Sun 07/23/17 Posts: 22537	Tue 06/05/18 07:28 AM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married. I've given up two homes now and a lot more.. I'm glad I have nothing left to lose.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1719	Tue 06/05/18 07:46 AM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married. So we get married and I earn most of the income and then we buy a house. You think you should own half of it if we get divorced? When did you pay for your half? Would you also expect half of my retirement I earned during the marriage? THIS IS WHY SOME OF US ARE SCARED TO DEATH OF MARRIAGE!!!!!

Larsi666 😽 Joined Wed 01/31/18 Posts: 17181	Tue 06/05/18 08:12 AM
I think people should live together before marriage. Kids add a lot of responsibility that I've found men don't want. My oldest daughter is lucky that her husband helps and is a good dad. I've told my youngest daughter to make sure she is ready to raise a kid alone before she has one, even if she is married. At my age I would want a prenupt before marriage because of assets. That was prolly the problem I had. The ex only moved in after getting married, apparently it is a sin to live together, before getting married in Ireland. And I was stupid enough to believe it

Easttowest72 Joined Tue 04/24/18 Posts: 2169	Tue 06/05/18 12:45 PM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married. So we get married and I earn most of the income and then we buy a house. You think you should own half of it if we get divorced? When did you pay for your half? Would you also expect half of my retirement I earned during the marriage? THIS IS WHY SOME OF US ARE SCARED TO DEATH OF MARRIAGE!!!!! My mom was a stay at home mom. She took care of the kids, cooked everydsy, cleaned, did laundry (back then it was a clothes line), grew a big garden for fresh vegetables and canned and frozen for winter, fed the cows and pets, took care of grandparents, dealth with bills and any other problems. Yes she deserved half of everything. They never divorced but he willed her everything. Making $$ is only half the job it takes to run a household.

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Tue 06/05/18 01:53 PM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married. So we get married and I earn most of the income and then we buy a house. You think you should own half of it if we get divorced? When did you pay for your half? Would you also expect half of my retirement I earned during the marriage? THIS IS WHY SOME OF US ARE SCARED TO DEATH OF MARRIAGE!!!!! My mom was a stay at home mom. She took care of the kids, cooked everydsy, cleaned, did laundry (back then it was a clothes line), grew a big garden for fresh vegetables and canned and frozen for winter, fed the cows and pets, took care of grandparents, dealth with bills and any other problems. Yes she deserved half of everything. They never divorced but he willed her everything. Making $$ is only half the job it takes to run a household. u mean that if you have alot of money , you will be happy husband

RustyKitty Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 1601	Tue 06/05/18 04:08 PM
If you are unsure and afraid.. don't do it

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Tue 06/05/18 04:32 PM
Just be careful who you pick.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Tue 06/05/18 05:52 PM
If you are unsure and afraid.. don't do it

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Tue 06/05/18 08:42 PM
If you are unsure and afraid.. don't do it but sex , i want to create sexual relation, the one way for it is marriage

QTPie09876 Joined Wed 05/23/18 Posts: 99	Tue 06/05/18 10:10 PM
60% divorce rate and rising. You lose everything she splits it with the lawyer and Donny and the Gov. I suppose a lot of guys get cut off when they say I do, but she feels free to cheat. Most guys don't want a woman treating them like little boys. There IS that dreaded "honey do" list. Most women seem to have little respect for men these days.

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Wed 06/06/18 06:06 PM
60% divorce rate and rising. You lose everything she splits it with the lawyer and Donny and the Gov. I suppose a lot of guys get cut off when they say I do, but she feels free to cheat. Most guys don't want a woman treating them like little boys. There IS that dreaded "honey do" list. Most women seem to have little respect for men these days. if there is the agreement between woman and man before marriage and every one know his commitments and know the advantages and disadvantage of her or him there will not be divorce or the rate will be decreased but any problem between them should be solved by them not anther-one come to solve it woman must keep the secrets with her husbands

Walewells Joined Tue 06/05/18 Posts: 1	Thu 06/07/18 05:22 PM
Yes. You're right

ashrafelashqar Joined Fri 07/28/17 Posts: 81	Thu 03/12/20 03:45 PM
Yes. You're right thnx and they days prove that

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33339	Thu 03/12/20 03:56 PM
I think assets obtained during the marriage should be split 50/50 when getting a divorce. I just wouldn't want to split a home that I've already paid for with someone just because we married. So we get married and I earn most of the income and then we buy a house. You think you should own half of it if we get divorced? When did you pay for your half? Would you also expect half of my retirement I earned during the marriage? THIS IS WHY SOME OF US ARE SCARED TO DEATH OF MARRIAGE!!!!! Then don't marry. Problem solved. Leave commitment and happiness to other people.