I friended my brothers friend on Facebook but we don't know each other. The convo got started by him asking if anyone has a room to rent. He lives out of hotel rooms for work and is based in MI now. He just needs a place at home to store some stuff and crash when he comes home two weekends a month. I have a room and he was interested so we decided to meet.

A few weeks passed and he wasn't able to come home yet. I told him I was bummed so he asked me to come to MI. I said we need to know each other better. We talked on the phone and started texting. I made it clear i was into him and he did the same. He would text me that he wished i could come cuddle with him. He finally admitted he was putting off meeting because he wasn't fully over his ex girlfriend of a year and a half but that he needed to move on and was ready to get out of his slump.

I went to TN to see a friend and decided to go to MI to see him. It was bad planning on my part and got there way later than i wanted. When i arrived we were both tired b/c he works nights so we talked awhile and took a nap together. Then we watched a movie and he went to work. He was able to be talk his boss into being "on call" so he came back to spend time with me. We talked and watched a few movies and cuddled a little. He is still going through some stuff from his ex but they broke up about 6 months ago. He is a libra, very quiet and artsy. He doesn't want to rush anything and wants to get to know each other. We talked about him coming to see me in a few weeks. Nothing else happened, we didnt even kiss. I said i felt foolish for going up there for just 12 hours. He said we established a connection so it was a good thing. He told me about the last girl he tried to date, he said they talked for 2 weeks and nothing even sexual happened but that she stopped talking to him. But that was months ago. He doesn't have friends in MI and spends a lot of time alone. He said he was hanging out with a girl from work but she wanted more than friends and he reassured me he wasn't into her. He said i was the first person he has hung out with in about a month.

He told me that he is a libra and what that sign is like, specifically that in a relationship he has a hard time expressing feeling but he cares a lot. I don't think he's moving his stuff in with me, we are trying to see what will happen.

Do i just need to be patient? I am just into him and he's hard to read. I don't want to scare him away. I'm 31 and he's 35 but he makes me feel like i'm in high school. Help!

Too soon
I’m mean, I think the chapter with his ex wife isn’t fully closed

Sounds like you are smitten! Caution is the key, especially since you said he is hard to read! Probably not any commitment coming soon, he still has that ex in his Life. Who knows what really happened in that past relationship!

So he is still coming to you to store his stuff, ya?
Highly symbolic perhaps for him.

Since you know how you feel but you don't seem to know
what he feels, I would back off and wait for him to
show, or call, or take the lead some way.

He will tell you..in his way.

it was just a girlfriend he had for a year and a half

well, it's women's fault... Guys are scared to make a move on a chic for fear of sexual assault.. no guy needs that crap in his life...

Hire a private detective and have him followed night and day.. I'm telling you , he's up to no good.... I have a feeling

had a similar situation, been inlove with someone that I met on line.. we chatted nicely but along the way as we chat he said he's falling.. the sad part is he also has an ex.. they were divorce for almost 2 yrs but he still loves her... he courted me and I rejected him.. he's nice but he can't move on with his past.. I want to be the only one.. what if that ex come back? There's a possibility that i will end up crying

I think the guy that you met likes you and is interested to you Sis but it's hard when he's in love/can't move on with his ex.. give him some time.. allow him to process his emotions

for the article that I read in the internet, it says there that if you want the man to fall to you, let him miss you.. stop chatting regularly, reply 5 mins after his text (if you are replying quickly).. let him see the difference without you in his life..

Guys like it when when they are challenge too.. I mean, don't give yourself that easy.. be a hard to get girl

Invest some time to know more about him.. you can even ask him about what happened between him and his ex (but do it when you feel that he's okay to share it.. look for the right time)

And last Sis is befriend with other guys too.. maybe there's someone out there who is much better than him, you just can't see because your attention is focus only to him... (that's one thing that I did.. since I know that the man I like still loves his ex, I chatted with others.. just a friendly chat and I am glad, I found someone better.. we're still friends anyway.. no commitment yet.. still enjoying the things and still on the selection process)

I don’t think so
She was prepared for that closer, closer, closer

Thank you to AngelHappiness for a great reply! I will take your advice and make myself less available. I appreciate you!

The guy may be a little "gun shy". Getting out a shotgun and blasting it off next to his ear isn't going to help any. Take time to figure out what works best for both of you, and you may end up with a mighty fine gun dog.

Sorry.....after reading this I can tell you that he is just not that into you.

You're welcome Sis.. yep make yourself less available but not too much just know when you need to and still be available when you know that he has a problem or when he needs someone to talk to (not because you want him to fall but because you care)... if he's your friend in social media, you can also try posting your achievement (like when you cook something or when you won an award).. don't tag him.. just let him know how wonderful you are.. Enjoy the moment without expecting any and meet other friends too

(By the way, I've never been into any relationship more than a friend but people say when I give an advice, it seems like I already had)...

God bless!

For what?
Do you have an ideal relationship you're hoping for?

He's into you enough to spend time with you and talk with you.

What more do you want and how soon do you want it?


What kind of relationship do you think you'll have?
Seems like he's only going to be in your state for 2 weekends a month for the foreseeable future.
The rest of the time he's going to be in hotel rooms and hanging out with girls he works with and then swearing to you he's not doing anything.
Is that really what you want?

Other than that:

This is BS.
This is a warning to you that he has already established an escape route.

He's playing you like a piano

Go to the toy store..walk down the aisle pick up a toy called the magic 8

ball..shake the dang thing up a little bit ..turn that sumbytch up, peer

into the little window and

there's your answer.. Stands about a good of chance at being right

when compared to any answer that I could give you...

Well I don't know. Maybe ask him instead of strangers? We don't know his side

I agree 100%

I love such mentality.. I adore freedom... no

I worship Freedom.

That is when some one dominate your emotions selfishly, he/she will enslave you (unintentionally).

So, one solution is to not make him dominate all your emotions, time, thinking, concentration... etc.

This is the most important time where you need friends and go-outs.. you need an active busy life... busy from him.

I'm speaking from experience... change the air... change the charge you are in now... have some fun with your life... and he will know his way to you.

while I was reading I was afraid this is true...

We men, we don't mind to take what is available for us for free. So, the best solution now is to let him know she is a woman of high value.. a hard-to-get woman..

but not too hard that he lose interest and move on in his life..

Usually, I dis-promote games and drama... but to me, they are stand-by weapons if war is striking my doors..

you know.. pragmatism.