Not really. Especially online.
How someone expresses themselves, the words they choose, communicates more about them than me.

I mean I knew a woman that used to punctuate everything she said with a little chuffing laugh, more pronounced the more insecure she was about what she was saying.
And a woman who would continuously say "ya know?" Had nothing to do with her not believing I wasn't smart enough to know.
And the kid at Circle K keeps calling me boss, chief, hoss, sport, and superstar.
Eventually you tune out the meaningless noise.

Someone using a pet name, a name of endearment, a condescending name, whatever, doesn't make whatever they're attempting to insinuate or imply as true.

Then there's Oscar from The Office who would say "actually..." a lot, and, actually, lots of people do that.

I remember the movie Hitch when Hitch met the guy from Burn Notice, refused to help him, twisted his wrist and slammed him on the table and said something like "don't ever touch me, m'kay pumpkin?"

Something like that would "get under my skin," but it would be the tone they used, the body language, the pet name or endearment would just be added insult, at best a scapegoat word I could focus on as an easy target because I'm too lazy or insecure to face anything more complex.


Except in centralized controlled fascism rights aren't really earned. They just are, they're just expressed, part of human nature.
At best you can abridge them but the more you do, the harder people try to express them, find loopholes or more direct and violent means to do so.

Other than that, I would rather a potential date use a term of endearment or a pet name early or inappropriately, than never use one at all.
I do know I am never going to be all "ugh! Their profile is perfect, their picture is hot, their emails are well thought out, we have lots to talk about, and I really want to date them...but they keep calling me babe! They didn't earn the right to do so. I wanted to date them, but now I don't, just because they used a term of endearment when I don't think they should, they haven't earned that right, aww man, if they just didn't use that one word..."

If he says something like that to me on a date site , I don't like it because he says that to dozens of women!

I like it in person when I'm actually on s date!!! Shows romance and experience with women!

IMO baby is a bit much. In my parts we say hon, honey, sweetie all the time. Doesn't bother me unless someone is trying to be condescending

I m one who likes it on dates not online!!! South Carolina men are nice!

<~~~ southern fried.

(referencing seen from Zoolander)

But what if your name IS Baby? And someone calls you Susan?

Would you be all like ,"My name is not Susan! You should call me Baby!"

(yes, I also referenced a Whitney Houston song ...lol)

i quite doubt that, hot stuff.

I don't use babe,baby,sweetie,horny.
However, I would use beautiful, if I thought she is,pretty,adorable,dear, depending on her profile pic and how good her written articulation is.
Now ladies, would you be offended if I called you pretty,beautiful,adorable ?

Wondering what "likes" really means..

Hi beautiful butribu! I have not seen you here in a while
Where have you been?
I hope you are not offended I called you 'beautiful'
Lol

it's my best feature.

Thanks Blondey. I am really sincere when I use those terms such as beautiful,adorable,pretty,dear etc . I see the beauty in humans because they are wonderful creatures of God. I like to alway remind them that they are beautiful,handsome,pretty....
However, when I find my heartthrob(my own woman), I will coin a special name that I wont call any other woman...lol

You just made me think of another one. I like it when people in the south add Miss or Mr in front of your first name. It has a casual acquaintance tone laced with respectful formality. Being Miss Annessa from time to time is a charming experience.

When in an area that uses those types of addresses as casually as they do in the south, the context would be similar to how the elderly and shop clerks use them in my area. Personally, that doesn't bother me. It's when said with more intimate tones that it rankles me.

As MSHarmony put it...Context.

Online...brings big buzzers and bells of danger.

Pet names are great in true friendship.

I have earned a few.

Kato is one of recent, 3yrs back, I get a kick out of.

Around here we say hon, honey, sweetie, etc. That is normal to me. I can handle (here) people saying that (except to be condescending) or even dear. Babe and baby or a no no

And NO ONE puts Baby in the corner!

My behavior puts me in a corner....but I escape

A lot is regional and cultural. When someone says hon, where I live, I don't think twice about it

a-ha! ...lol

For Godsfriend10...

I never mind a sincere compliment. For me, it's being called BY an endearment or pet name, not just to discribe me. "You are a babe" is very different to me than, "Hello Babe", for example. The later infers a certain intimacy, that if you don't know me well, doesn't sit right with me. But doesn't every love a sweet compliment? Maybe not if you're terribly shy?