Thanks Peggy, it is. Hope things are well with you too

Happy new year Peggy that would be the mature thing to do I guess and not dwell on feelings. Thank you and blessings to you

No complaints on my side Pisces. Thank you Glad things are going well for you too :)




Blessings to you too SS

Difficult question to answer without knowing the reason for their sadness or hurt. Whether or not you can do anything depends if the reason is within your control, clearly if you truly love them you do whatever you need to do to remove their sadness or hurt. If the reason is beyond your control, for example your own ill health, there is very little you can do other than offer them comfort. Surely, not to do anything must mean you do not truly love them.

Oh I can't stand to be the cause of someone hurting because of me. However, Pepto Bismol loves me because I buy a crap ton of it due to my stomach being in knots. So I guess I am helping out the economy. Go me.

Thanks guys... I for one cannot bear to be the cause of sadness to anyone but as you all said the situations varies and people just have different views in making things right. The right decisions and outlook too are not the same for everyone thus to each his own.

Know thyself before others I guess

how about seeing yourself as others see you? that might be enlightening

Yes but sometimes heartbreaking.... specially as you want to be the best version of yourself but others see you differently. We see what we want to see Eric and ignore those that we don’t for reasons only we know

it's all just a guide and sometimes painful as it can be those outside looking in views can be helpful. just remember to judge the source accordingly and not apply absolute weight to any one thing

I will remember that Eric thanks and I know I should not judge as I myself don’t want that to be done to me.

we all judge. the key is not obsessing over the judgements or letting it get out of hand

I disagree and I refuse to judge. I always give a person the benefit of a doubt unless the situations are just really out there and factual. By obsessed maybe you mean emotional?

For the record ok ... I know Eric is a good man and friend.... so girls don’t judge him otherwise

i disagree! you judge him to be funny, her to be sad and that to be pretty every day .
by obsessing i mean when you let it become the reason you do do anything and you let it start overcoming everything else

Oh ok got it .... I think lol

glad i could help

I agree with this!

Me too

I need more inputs here if you know your partner didn’t mean to hurt you would you still take it against them? If your instant reaction is how to make the other person feel the same pain , for them to understand your own pain, would that be love? If you want to give a lesson must it be tough love? Dealing with our children is very different from a romantic relationship . I wonder if i am just dreaming to wish for a love that is so pure so loving and so nurturing never wanting to hurt or be the cause of hurt