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To Decide where to go on a date..? I'm a alone in this feeling..? Do any other men out there.. feel the same way.?.when it comes to picking a venue for your date night.. hmmmm..lol It seems you get bothered by lots of things. Personally, I don't care what we are doing or who decided what to do as long as we're having a good time. |
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I almost always had to make the decisions about where to go, when to go, what to eat.
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To Decide where to go on a date..? I'm a alone in this feeling..? Do any other men out there.. feel the same way.?.when it comes to picking a venue for your date night.. hmmmm..lol It seems you get bothered by lots of things. Personally, I don't care what we are doing or who decided what to do as long as we're having a good time. And it's not as simple as saying I don't care where we go that's the problem.. Everybody cares where they go you have to have a destination . I just really need a direction to point myself in.. most times after that I can take it from there...but... sometimes it's a question of.. me trying to decide what would be fun to do or entertaining for the other person and myself.... it's like on those rare occasions when you go to a restaurant and you decide there's nothing on the menu you like so you leave you go to another restaurant same thing happens.. You don't really want to go back to your regular restaurant cuz you've been there so many times... so then you start to feel a little bit like wtf.. why is it so hard to find a place to eat... and in my own head I'm thinking great now I seem like I'm either picky or too indecisive quick think of someplace to go someplace to take her to eat.. but then I draw a blank.. I asked my date where would you like to go.. Typical response I don't care.... Ohhh. Great you're no help at all..lmao..wink |
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Maybe you need to stick with a woman long enough to figure out what she likes and vice versa... After some time those "difficult" decisions will become easier.
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To Decide where to go on a date..?I'm a alone in this feeling..? Do any other men out there.. feel the same way.?.when it comes to picking a venue for your date night.. hmmmm..lol were the dominant species. were the breadwinners its what men do. |
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Maybe you need to stick with a woman long enough to figure out what she likes and vice versa... After some time those "difficult" decisions will become easier.
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I thought it was planned in consultation with your date .. unless it is a surprise date 
Who is paying ??? that person should have the final decision
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Secondly in most cases the man pays.. so it's not really fair to say who pays chooses.. Personally myself.. sometimes it's hard to find a venue to take a date on especially if you being everywhere ...done that being there so to speak.. a number of times... Sometimes you find yourself having that conversation..ie )..sooo what you want to do?. Her .. I don't know what you want to do.. Hmmmm... and then I feel like it's back on my shoulders to decide.... once again.. It's great!.. if i pick a fantastic venue ..Im the hero.. but if i come up short ..then Im a big zero I find a lot of women do this ..wait for the man to make the decisions or come up with some venue to take them to... I can usually do a pretty good job of that.... But sometimes I secretly think in my own head... great !!!..I have no idea what to do with this person.. or where to take them.. I want to show them a good time but I can't seem to think of any place to go.... Then I feel... like some kind of loser... for not having some great venue to go to all the time... someplace to take them..her.. Then I think to myself ..hmmm..wait a minute !!..why is it just up to me.. Why can't she .. Rack her brains on where we should go for a change.. let her stress out about it...lol... Ever "forgot your wallet", try it and see just how much your current date is into you. As far as the topic, I like picking the place. Mmm food. |
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A woman can tell a lot about the man, by the place he chooses! She can always say no if she doesn't like it.
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Edited by
no1phD
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Wed 10/18/17 08:17 PM
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A woman can tell a lot about the man, by the place he chooses! She can always say no if she doesn't like it. Exactly what I'm talking about.. women. Can't live with them ..and you can't bury them in the backyard.. without the nosy neighbors noticing...lol |
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It's all about who's paying.
Of course the pressure is on men... Unless you get one of those fast talking Real Estate Agent types looking for some quick stick.... But then again you might be right, her calves end up resting on the back of my shoulder's at her place... |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Thu 10/19/17 02:18 AM
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I'm wondering what kind of women you are dating? I don't agree with what seems to be the general consensus here that it's a man's job. Total nonsense. A woman should have things she'd like to do just the same and be able to come up with ideas. Maybe not a specific place, but at least something she'd like to do or go or experience. But then you do need a woman who's got something going for herself in life, a woman with interests and a curiosity for life.
Hence the question: what kind of women are you dating? Maybe you are choosing the wrong type that isn't really all that great a match for you after the initial buzz has worn off. For me and my man it's pretty balanced. There's things I like to do or share with him and vice versa. I think it'd be pretty boring to date someone who doesn't know, doesn't care and doesn't have any ideas themselves. Not very stimulating, doesn't offer any growth or room for expansion. On short... I don't think it falls on a man's shoulders, I think you're fishing in the wrong pool. . . |
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really should not be expected that the man or the woman should do all the plannning
used to 'counsel' my sister-in -law on this one..years ago she had been married oh at least ten years and they had no kids she wanted to go out and do things ya know see a play or maybe a concert, do to museums, art gallerys so she tried to get her husband on board and would go out and buy the tickets, make reservations at a nice restaurant get all dressed up for date night and he was a big ole stick in the mud about it dragging his feet did not acknowledge the amount of work she had put into it did not contribute any glowing conversation during dinner was not enthusiastic over watching the play in short, made it a miserable evening by his attitude she was very upset over the fact that he kept doing this my advice? stop asking him to come along 
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Edited by
Don585
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Thu 10/19/17 08:13 AM
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Sorry for that
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Thu 10/19/17 11:05 AM
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To Decide where to go on a date..? I'm a alone in this feeling..? Do any other men out there.. feel the same way.?.when it comes to picking a venue for your date night.. hmmmm..lol I say if someone knows the area more then the other... they might suggest something ... but some women may not want to insult the man ... if he does not have the money ... by picking a venue... if you where my date after knowing you from the forums ... I would pick the place ... sometimes fun to go where neither has been ... yea that will work although it just might ...
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A woman can tell a lot about the man, by the place he chooses! She can always say no if she doesn't like it. Exactly what I'm talking about.. women. Can't live with them ..and you can't bury them in the backyard.. without the nosy neighbors noticing...lol Yes and if he waits too long I move on!!! 
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