What’s the secret to surviving a long distance relationship?
Is it worth keeping?
How long do you stay and when to call it quits?

That's a good one. I met my 2nd wife online. She lived two states away, BUT I was already going there all the time to party with others I met online.. she moved here eventually, we were married 12 years, got two great sons out of it, and she's still my friend and confidant. We're family..

You are one of the lucky ones Stu. More often than not the long distance will not work because there will always be that wondering if the other party is being faithful where they are.

Good to know there have been some success stories on that- But eventually one of you is going to have to move! It won't work out indefinitely!

Glad to hear this. Mine didn’t work out. Not because one of us were cheating nor we’ve fallen out of love. It’s the physical distance. The age difference. A lot of factors, but mostly the distance and uncertainty of when one of us will be moving or visiting when and who.

True.

I only have one really close friend who is doing the long distance relationship thing . They met online a year and 4 months ago and have been in contact everyday since. they met for the first time 9 mths into the relationship and just had their second meeting a couple of weeks ago where she met all of his family ad they became engaged

What she told me is that you have to feel a deep connection with the person and share your daily experiences with the person so they almost feel as if they are right there.

They messaged or called each other morning afternoon and night to the extent that when they met in person recently, my friend said it felt completely normal to her because she knew his routine inside out from all he had shared with heron the phone. He is moving to her country in January 2018.

There wasn't a single minute in their relationship when either doubted the other person's faithfulness as they were very ope about who they were hanging with and wha they were doing EVERYDAY.

So I really think its their MUTUAL connection ,honesty, trust,communication, patience and determination that have brought them this far , and the fact that got their families on board once they were sure they wanted to be together,

In the end it was an age difference thing.. she is 7 years younger, not that it should matter, as people say age doesn't matter, but it can. If nothing else, I do still have her in my life and when I can no longer care for myself, I know she'll be there if possible.

Chat global and date local.

Words of wisdom

As with any relationship. both peoples' expectations and desires have to be compatible.

If one is convinced, for example, that sex has to occur at regular intervals in their life, or that they must move on, AND that monogamy is necessary, then a long distance will mean a short interaction.

If one is still young in mind, such that they still confuse sensual attraction with love, distance will usually result in failure, as there are too many attractive bodies in the world.

But if the relationship is built of other things, unaffected by distance, such relationships can last a lifetime.

Great proof it works

It works just fine.
Takes trust, commitment and determination.

When I met my mate on here (7 years ago) we spent a year talking
(about 7-8 times a day) because (surprise) phones work!

Then he visited cross-continent, twice, then he moved here.

Fairy tales do come true :-)

Aww,

yes ms force they can work but the biggest key to them working is a committed plan to make the long distance become no distance.

Couldn’t agree more. Sadly, that wasn’t talked about during the entire relationship I had. I mean, we’ve known each other for almost 5 years. Texting, calling, emailing were constant. Finally met in person last 2015. Then after a year, he finally felt it’s not going to work out

That’s nice to hear. Maybe it is easier if both people are just within the same country. It’s pretty tough if the distance goes beyond continents