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Ok i have been a member on this site for a couple of months now and have
noticed a trend with the women. I will get email by them saying they are intersested in getting to know me better and then when i respond to them I dont hear anything else from them. NOw I dont respond with desperate or perverted emails. I am polite and always the gentleman. What is it that you ladies want??? I am a good man sitting here waiting for that right woman, however I am begining to believe that you women only wnat to meet "Johnny Hardass". I am also begining to believe that women are afraid of a true man. I look through the profiles and most of these women on here are only interested in the "GQ" looking type men. I am not ugly by any means but I also dont look like I just stepped out of a magazine either. SO TELL ME WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WOMEN REALLY WANT?????? |
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Ssorpius believe me it does not happen to just the men same thing
happens to the women in here. But I can almost bet the ones that you are doing that are not the ones you see in the forums posting either am I right? For the ones I have had do the same thing to me are ones I have never seen post before. But that is going to happen on ever site you go too. |
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Ok so why is it that I read in the profiles (and also the women I meet
in real life) that they are lookingg for an open and honest man, but then when you get together( atleast the women iI have known in real life) they cannot seem to handle the fact that a real man doesnt cheat, doesnt flirt, and doesnt lie to them. Time and time again I have run into women who only seem to want to hang on to the men that are bad for them, treat them like dirt, and show them thay they could care less about them. I just have never been able to grasp this concept. Just as an example my "ex" (we were never married) decided to give up on me and is now dating a loser who could care less about her feelings does not support her in any way and is probably just using her for the sex.(she is acually very attractive) and she gave up her son and I who supported her,(she never worked throughout our relationship even though I never stopped her from doing so) encouraged her to seek out her dreams, and yet she has decided to be with someone who could care less about her. I see the trend with women nowadays that the worse you treat them the more they want to be with you. This is a moronic way of thinking, and if women keep following this trend they will never be happy. Sorry for the bitterness but I see this all around me, with my friends my co-workers etc.. The women complain about how their man treats them like shit but yet they try even harder to hold on to the loser. Maybe I should change my attitude and start treating women like they are a piece of property something that I own and maybe then I will have a woman that will fight to hold on to me to. |
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Patience is a virtue....If you read the profiles right, most everyone is
looking for someone near to where he/she lives...I can understand that, but you most undestand that the internet is global and it actually permits you to make friends everywhere. So if your lonesome just sit right down in front of your computer and "Just Say Hi". |
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SCORP, U COULDENT HAVE PUT IT ANY BETTER MAN! YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE
HEAD. BELIVE ME I KNOW RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM! I COULDENT HAVE PUT IT BETTER MYSELF. YOU SPEAK FOR EVERY MAN OUT THERE WHO JUST WANT TO TREAT THE WOMAN IN THERE LIFE THE WAY THEY SHOULD BE TREATED! I HAD A FEW GIRLS LIKE THAT BEFORE TOO. THANKS FOR SPEAKING FOR ALL THE MEN OUT THERE WHO JUST WHAT A LOYAL AND LOVING COMPANION TO SPEND THEIR TIME WITH AND WHO WILL TREAT THEIR PARTNER WITH THE LOVE AND RESPECT JUST AS EVERYBODY SHOULD BE TREATED! |
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ANY OF YOU GUYS BEGIN TO THINK IT IS ALL A SCAM???? MAYBE JUST SAY HI
IS SENDING YOU THE INITIAL MESSAGE, JUST TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD. THEN YOU CAN'T SAY YOU DIDN'T GET ANY RESPONSES. BUT THEN THEY STOP. ANYONE ELSE THINK THIS?????? |
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DesertFox , sorry your wrong on that one for this site does not do as
many sites do and send anything to you at all. They leave that up to the members not saying that there are not spammers on the site for you are gonna run into them on ever site. But.. justsayhi does not send you e-mails to make you think you are being contacted by other members. |
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DesertFox I aggree with Txsgal this site is accually the only site that
I been on that doesnt send fake notices. The ones that have emailed me on here have accually emailed me. I think the problem that I am running into is the ones that email me such as the last one I email them back to answer them and then next thing I know they have pulled thier profile from the site. The last one emailed we had emailed each other twice and she said that she thought we were both looking for the same thing and we should email back and forth on here to get to knoow each other a little bit beter. She asked me some questions about getting a spell checker for her Outlook program on her comp and I answered her (I am a Dell L2 tech) and then i never heard from her again. She is not on the site to the best of my knowledge. But I just cant understand why they make the contact and then disappear. |
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SCORPIUS,
I'll tell you this one thing then you tell me? I lost my exwife to another man, I was and am not a under my thumb, kind of man. I was your personality, and I will die not changing my beliefs. I look at it this way no woman is going to change who I am and if she goes out on me or even wants someone else, THEN she was not the RIGHT one to begin with? If one loves me for me, then whats to change? If I allow my self to change, and be a asshole kinda guy then the only kind of woman that would want me is JUST like the one THAT left me? So now I still lose because she will not last with ME cause she did'nt last that away to begin with? Did that make sense? |
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yeah i don't think the site sends scam e-mail either. I am running
into the same problems though. You talk to guys for a few messages and then they just disapear or pull their profiles completely. Then of course there is the guys who act like they are looking for something real then a few e-mails later it comes out what they really were after. If all they want is an intimate incounter they sould say it and not tell people they are looking for a relationship when all they want is sex, cyber sex, whatever. Then they can find the people they are after and those of us looking for a relationship will have a beter chance of finding one. Scorpius i'm sorry your not haveing any luck. That was really mean and inconsiderate of that girl to ask you questions about her computer and use you like that. Not everyone is like that. Stick with it there are a few good people around here. |
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Scorp I'm with you for the most part but not completely. There really
are ladies here but like Tx said, check to see if they've ever posted. This site gets spammers just like any of them and let me tell you I get soooooo many messages from 20 somethings in EBFE who it's obvious aren't real or interested it isn't funny. Enjoy the site, post, make friends and who knows what'll happen but learn to recognize which messages are spammers/scammers and which aren't. Remember that not all "real" contacts aren't going to develop into that one relationship we're all looking for and that goes for face to face meetings too. As for the women out there who prefer the "bad boy"? I can't really answer that because like all of us I face it on a daily basis too. It hurts and gets a person low feelin but you have to have hope that someday you'll meet one who's real and really wants what she says. |
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Yes it does make sense. And I have been saying for years that maybe I
should start being the "asshole" however it still hasnt happened. I will not change who I am and if I cannot find the woman that I am supposed to be with then so be it. I have my son and right now He is the one that matters the most to me. I just threw this out there because most guys wont say it. |
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"Scorpio"...I feel where you are at,I am sorta in th same boat,
this site is new,but I have been here a while, have friends,hopeful loves,and picture pals,or pen pals, but none seem to want to take the time to get to know the true me... Why is this? |
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i like to at least be able to say hi any way....got this far in life no
mr..anything...maybe it just happens in movies..at least we can say hi to each other..I'm sure most of us are not into playin games. |
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Hello based on my expericence the last feww years, men have become what
we think women want caring loving understanding and most of all romantic when dating.But women have not progressed in the dating scene( no disrespect to the women some have but not all of them). Please don't get me wrong but don't you think that if you were a little less guarded an let the releationship unfold without us getting in th way we just my figure it out together. You tell you what the bad guy. You tell you want the nice guy. You tell us you want the funny guy. You tell us you want the rich guy.Honestly after years of that it can make your head hurt because of all the scratching your doing. Again please ladies don't take this personally but you mae it to confusing after all it's just dating. |
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yea...what "Don" said....
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ya what dabadguy says BLAh...
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I think most women over 30 have settled down in thoughts, they may just
want to play but BY GOSH THEY KNOW-IT! OR, They are only seeking one good man, but still THEY KNOW-IT AND WILL TELL-YA IN A HEART-BEAT. SO in that 30 and over you will find ladies that have almost made there minds up. Not much to go with but it is REAL ADVICE? |
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Humm, and the ones over 40 have really made up there minds and are
totaly tired of all the games and bullshit. We have put our boots up in storage and don't have time for games unless its a good board game or cards. Then we will give you a run for your money. For this time and point in our lives we know what we want and will speak our minds in a heart beat, and we do know how to follow up with our promises. And to top it all off we are in our Prime sexual. Ohhhhhh I know go to my corner lmao Hummm damn round rooms! LMAO |
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