Only for singles for a long time:

Are you really READY to change your life and to start NOW a new and serious relationship living together?

Are you sure? Are you afraid?

...from a cup of coffee in Sunday morning....to 2 cups in Monday in your dining table!!

...from a single size bed...to a queen size!!

A tremendous decision!!

Thanks for your comments

A single size bed? I didn't have a single bed when I was single. Would be expensive if you had to change beds according to relationship status, haha.

And yes, I was ready to start a new relationship. We're not living together, we only met some 10 months ago.

What's the point of dating if you aren't ready? Then you're better of waiting and going out with mates/gal-pals

Like my mother used to sing.." Que sera, sera. : ..
Whatever will be, shall be.

Meantime, why think hard or plan things in advance ??
I'M NOT DESPERATE, I'VE GOT MY SANITY, MY QUEEN BED,
I MAKE MY OWN COFFEE, and HAVE MYSELF.

It isn't any of these "stuff" related items that most people have trepidations about.

It's the potential for EMOTIONAL tumult and damage that we are concerned about.

Not all of it! I have these concerns too! When I look around my house and see how i have everything set up to meet my needs, I wonder if I'd ever be able to live with a woman again. For instance, how many women would be willing to let you put a steel hook into the wall to hang your shaving brush? How many would be okay to have speakers in every room blasting tunes all hours of the day? Some of what he says is odd, but I have the same kind of concerns...
Who doesn't sleep in a queen size bed???

If you ain't READY for change...you ain't livin'
Change can happen in an instant...keep your eyes wide open all the time.

I think this topic has more to do with the ability to accept change than it does with anything else.

Personally, I can accept certain change with no problem at all. Its not that I am not content with how I am now but more of an anticipation for something new that I don't have now.

It makes me flexible. We all change whether we admit it or not. I like the fact that I can change and do change. Living in a static state gets mundane and boring.

When I start to get close with a woman I show her where I have everything and tell her that if she needs to, change it. I'll put it back if I can't deal with the change. I had one woman that changed where I keep my drinking glasses. It threw me off for a few days but after considering her change and experiencing something different, not of my own choosing, I like the new location. Even after she was gone I continued the change.

I sleep on a very comfortable double (full) bed. When I was married we had a king. Sharing a double bed is more intimate, I feel closer to her because I am. If she wanted a king, I would probably meet half way and get a queen.

I keep my clothes off the floor. I don't eat or smoke in the bedroom. If she insisted on doing so, I would not accept that change and we would not work out. I would expect her to change for me.

Compatability is the ability to change but it has to be both parties. Not all compatability issues are emotionally based but the inability to accept the changes can be. The change never stops. Its not like someone comes into your life, changes things and its over.

Hello

Oddly, my bed is single sized. I enjoy sleeping in it every nights. It's the place I can feel the whole of myself .

question: what does single mean? any consensus defintion? Can a person be single and be in a relationship that does not involve living with someone else? Does a relationship cancel out single status? i have friends who do not live together but have a loving relationship...seems to depend a lot on what works for the individuals involved..

When I get myself into a relationship, I am sure serious with the commitment I make ... Afraid ? Yes maybe, but I would need my partner's assurance that he'll be there when I feel afraid and not think of my fear as a weakness, but rather be there for the two of us, be a weakness and a strength for each other. I can face everything when I have him by my side ....no need for 2 cups I can share mine with him.... I'm ok with the single bed , we can be comfortable locked in each others arms....

My dear long distance friend....If you think exactly as you write and comment;all men near to you are completely blind;they don't see the gem you are.All you say is true and any man could give everything to meet a woman like you;;;;sadly;they are blind.You are ready to share everything for love.

Someday; your prince will meet you;for sure.

(-!-)

Aaawww!!! I am so deeply touched by your words jazzinc but sometimes I think it is not them who's blind but me I shared my cup of life with the wrong person, nevertheless I was happy then and had my cup half filled , it's nearly full, soon it will overflow with happiness

HELLO AM SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE
AM REALLY TIRED OF SINGLE LIFE..NO ONE TO SHARE FEELING WITH
I HAVE LOT OF LOVE TO GIVE

I like you

hii

hii u r so sweet

"Single" is defined as being the state of celibacy in my understanding and social behavioral expectations.

Am I too serious about those sort of definitions!

and i agree

hyyy