I have this first move I use where I steal $20 out a woman's purse when she leaves the room.

When you first find yourself attracted to the man!

Haha nice

funzy opening the eyes to see is another issue lol we see what we want to see

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Oh yes, I must see first
Take a Peach or a Plumb fruit ..Looks good
from the outside but can be rotten from in it
That's why I Have glasses for that also

- One first have to see what he/she buys ..YES ??

Or, put it in another way,

- One must TRY BEFORE he/she BUYS

Hello

thats statement is typically male but funny too funzy

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LOL... ..What do you expect from an Old Fart ??

youre a nice old fart that makes all the difference so it seems you wont make a move then... not a risk takerv

risk taker i mean...so funzy, here on line how do you do the taste test lol

kitty here in my country and at my age if i do it this way men will just run away lol we are a bit conservative here so this is where things are a bit harder.maybe i can try it out in another country perhaps where men are not judgemental where would be the best country to start? for practice at least? lol

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Takes a bit of time but one can find out.

Just keep on the conversation/s, comments,
and/or confession/s, fantasies, etc
OBSERVE and be the OBSERVER
Specially don't encourage anyone or promise anything

Works for me And if I feel the fire burning,
I decide fast...Oh yes, I AM NOT AFRAID TO MOVE FAST
IF I NEED TO Or to take a risk ...
I had 3 favorites now I have only 2
( My age my size give or take )
LOL

youre an old kind funny fart you know so funny

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Also, ..An Old Soul

Thank you kindly
I feel much better now

Just 4 you

Now this attitude is where you go wrong to begin with. It's not about spotting THE man that's worth your while. You have to practice being your happy and playful you always and with everyone. You gotta make it a bit of a habit, a way of life. Not to change yourself, that's not the idea, so you have got to find a way of being playful, more lighthearted, happy that suits your personality. It's not an act, so don't make it an act. It's all about millimeter shifts in attitude and thus energy. Again: It's not in big changes, it really is millimeter shifts.
That can be as much as you normally going out to the supermarket not smiling, now going to the supermarket, paying attention to the world around you, seeing how beautiful it is, and smiling!
Smile at the woman who's choosing greens or the child who's looking for his fave candy in the supermarket. Say something insignificant like "Wow, these apples look great, don't they?!"
Go up to someone to ask the time. Ask someone in the bakery "Do you know if XXX is any good here?"
These ppl don't have to be men, can be women just the same. Doing these silly things will help you to get over this fear of daring to speak up to strangers -and eventually a nice guy. It will help you to be more open to people, to interact. That will all help you to have the guts to do the same with a nice guy.
Practice when it is not so awkward. Practice with everyone around you. Practice practice practice.


Thing is, you don't always have to make first contact. If a guy happens to see you daily in the supermarket and sees you always being happy, pleasant to other people, smiling a lot, basically sees a positive person, he's more likely to make the first move.
You in general are far more attractive when you can manage to bring out the best side of yourself, always, or close to always. Sure you can have a bad hairday, we all have those.

Another good thing about this approach is, you will truly become happier, but also you practice being playful and positive all the time, with EVERYONE, male or female. Meaning with every man, not just the one you'd like to date.
If you do this as often as possible -try to go for always- it suddenly isn't a quantum leap anymore to do it with the guy you like.
Logical: If you're always/mostly serious, not smiling, and suddenly you try to be all playful and cheeky because you see a great guy... It's going to feel really awkward and likely will come across as forced and fake. Men feel that.
So you have to practice, while making sure it is not an act. Just be happy, cheerful, dare to be a bit cheeky here and there with men you don't want to date, just to have FUN in life! Sure you will feel awkward and shy, maybe you'll blush like a schoolgirl, but you'll go home with a huge grin on your face in spite of that!

When you become like that, millimeter shifts!, great men will start to notice you. You will become far more attractive and... more approachable.
Win-win.

So stop effording trying to spot a great guy. Start being happy, playful with EVERYONE, male AND female. Everyone.

Wow Crystal, I love what you wrote here. You're so right, thanks!

crystal you are so right absolutely love this

I totally agree with you!
That was exactly my thoughts.(smiles)

@ Pisces and Skeptical, you're welcome! And go for it girls, have fun!
I know I did, grin. I ended up in the garage at some point, two mechanics around 26-28 yrs old, and one started to flirt with me out of the blue. I was 46 at the time, and felt overwhelmed, yet I went along with it. Because I decided, what the heck, I was freshly single, why not have some innocent fun! The other one joined in, so there I was, 46 flirting with these two young blokes, haha.
Of course it won't go anywhere cos of the age difference, nor would I have wanted either of them, but it was FUN!
The guy had me blushing like a schoolgirl, which was a tad awkward for me, but the guys loved it! Which helped me to ignore it and just be adorably shy, still flirting with them though.
What I learnt from that was that even though you get shy, blush and want to hide, don't! Just keep flirty and playful. Men love it to see you all girly but still ballsy enough to stand your ground, and be playful with them.
Learn to love your own shyness and to think of it as adorable, cos men sure as heck do!
Look at yourself when you're blushing: you look healthier, warmer, prettier. Why try to hide that? We put blusher on our face every day to get that look. When it happens naturally it makes us feel shy? Kinda silly.

Just really have fun with it, even with men who will never be your date.
That event with those 2 young guys helped me to do the same with men my age, men I DID want to date. So practicing when it's less awkward does help! And dang did it make me feel good that these two young guys found me attractive enough to seriously flirt with! Real good for your self-esteem :p Made my day, for about 5 days, haha.

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LOL..Perhaps this helps
I didn't try it myself yet