So me and this guy have been friends forever and a day well I told him I think I may have feelings for him, big ones. He tells me that he loves me he just cant be with me because he just found out he is going to be a dad and the mother that is having his baby is in love with and he want to do the right thing. So I ask..what the hell am I suppose to do?! Also, what the hell is that..he loves me he just cant be with me?! Sounds like a cop-out to me as much as that hurts me to say but it does..what do you guys think? Any advice would be nice.

move on. Sorry it didn't work out.

There really isn't a whole lot you can do. My ex (the father of my daughter) said the same thing "he loves me but he can't be with me"...Its hurts like a f**kr...but you will find someone out there that you love that loves you back and actually wants to be with you! GOOD LUCK!

It sucks, but you have to move on with your life.

Sounds like he might be trying to do right by the child. At least you weren't involved on an intimate level it seems. Be grateful and find someone without such a complicated scenario.

Trying to move on, really I am. Because I don't want to be the reason he isn't in his kids life because I was that kid growing up who's father wasn't there because of another female so the LAST thing I wanna do is be that person.

Nope, we were. We use to be..**** buddies(blunt and honest sorry) for awhile but then new people would come along and we would just go back to being friends.

Just in a very werid spot meh always works lol

The pros and cons of having a "f*ck buddy"

Hah, I know. They aren't always a smart choice to make, thanks I know.

throw a brick through his windshield....

LOL Jt, I always love your words of wisdom

Hahaha I don't have to. He wrecked about a week ago all on his own!

It's really tough, but walk away. There are plenty of guys who DON'T have a baby on the way and AREN'T afraid to say what they feel BEFORE it's too late. I'm sorry it hurts. My best advice to you is...don't be his f*ck buddy anymore...you'll only hurt yourself.

(hope that helps)

ok throw it through his bedroom window.


i just have alot of bricks that i need to give away

noooooooo go for the dog poop through the window!!!

Thank you.

Ummm...be his friend, and support his honourable decision... and tuck your selfish demands back into the corner they crawled out of.

If he is such a great friend, why didn't you know he was sleeping with the future mother of his child? and umm...why do you get to be the indignant righteous one, just because you woke up one day and decided today you would just unburden what YOU feel on him??

Sounds like such a great friend to me...

Because he doesn't tell me when he has a girlfriend until it gets serious, I told him how I felt about him and THEN he told me what was going on. Me and him had both agreed along time ago that we wouldn't tell each other if we had someone else in our life until it got serious. Before you say anything NO we don't still sleep with each other when we have someone even if it isn't serious. I told him that I was happy for him and I would always have his back on whatever he chose to do, because I know like it or not I cant change his mind. I'm not happy that I'm having to do so but I'm doing it because I love him and I've loved him since I was 15 but it wasn't until a few weeks ago that I realized I was IN love with him. I didn't just wake up one day, I've been trying to make up my mind on telling or not, but I'm a big believer in not holding things in.

STEP AWAY FROM THE MAN>>> and turn around and walk away.

only so your heart doesn't get torn to shreds from all of this

Seriously it will be hard if your feelings are strong, but getting out of this situation while you still have your sanity intact is possible.

just move on--grab a fishing pole and go fishing---

move on you will find the
right one. and you will know
if it's ment to be good luck....