thunder, thats awesome!

josh, hows it going?

I thought Brair Fox tried to eat Brair Rabbit, so the fox is not such a nice guy. lol sorry thought it was funny

(Thunderbear) Hey... the whole eating thing, it's not personal, okay? It's just Business...


(txgal)It's going ok TXgal, how about you?

rotf

its going pretty good!

I dont think i meant that the way it sounded. Sorry ya'll

joshy you are the nicest guy on here! Briar Rabbit or no Rabbit!

I give up........why?

Im single?..And im nice...?

nevermind..my mind is in the gutter for this question

Damn TX and I thought they liked them hard

Why Sweetheart,
I thought you knew... all of us nice guys got sick of waiting for you to weed through the players and left the state...
LOL

Been gone for 17 years and still haven't heard as much BS as I was every night when I went clubbing in Dallas.

Seriously though... There are a lot of nice guys in your area... I still have a few friends that are actually really good guys and when they have girlfriends, they devote themselves to them... it usually works well for a while, but I've seen their relationships break up from:
1. Drama
2. Something/someone shiny and new that simply is a competition junky and has to hit on other's ladies to feel superior... (Yes, there are a LOT of those out there)
3. preemptive mid-life crisis... (my term for... I don't know what the heck you were thinking... but you've done it now...) These usually hing on simple misunderstandings caused by getting too close under each other's skin.

They are out there... really! If you're not finding them, take a look at what it is your looking for. Ask yourself if it's REALLY that important, or if you would rather be happy and loved, even if the person did not have that attribute... Once you've done that with each of your "preferences", then look at where you've been looking... Most guys do fancy someone at work... or someone that they know but do not think there's any interest, so they are nice... polite, or just won't say anything because it's apparent that you are looking for a cookie-cutter made stud instead of a whole person complete with our faults and imperfections, and often unseen (personality or otherwise) benefits.

How do I know this? I've asked the same questions in the reverse direction, and that is what I'm still... in the process of doing. For instance... in 41 years... I have never dated a blonde. I know several that I think are heart-stopping... I'm not anti-blonde... but my preferences have led me away from them every time. Now... I'm actually kind of excited at the concept of "new and different", even though the personality may be the same... it may not!

It's just that, stereotypically, nice guys tend to blend in and not stand out, so it can be difficult to recognize their existance. That's why they are so hard to find. If you go to a bar or club, see the guy who's slounched over in the corner of the room, looking around somewhat nervously as if it's his first time there? Most likely a nice guy. These types of men, who are actually very plentiful in number, will generally not approach women, so you kinda have to approach them. They can be socially awkward at first but once they get comfortable with you (which may take some time and effort on your part) they usually have a lot of interesting things to say.
Most of us girls usually can't muster up the courage to approach, or we don't want to invest in all the trouble of having to "lead the dance" of flirting and courtship in the first stages of getting to know a nice guy. It takes a lot of work to get a nice guy...

There ARE confident, cool, self-respecting men out there that know how to treat a woman right, though. Theyre just really rare.

"Why can't I meet a nice guy?". Hmmmmmm. Tis the age old question that every woman has. And yet, the answer is so simple. You haven't met a nice guy simply because you have chosen to go out with the "A-Holes" you described. Chances are, you know some nice guys that live near you, but you won't give them the time of day to take you out? Why? Cause the a-hole is more attractive, sexy, appealing, lives on the wildside.....you just can't help yourself. And then, after he breaks your heart, you are left asking, "But...but...why can't I find a nice guy?".

Wake up! Look around you and see that not all nice guys are boring ass, geeky, dorky, goofy tards that have no idea what it is like to live dangerously. Most nice guys have alot more to offer than you think, and while majority of women do want a nice guy...they still fall for the "not so nice guy". Well, until women wake up and see that not men are pigs, my guess is this will not change.

I know this comes off as a tad bit harsh, but truth be told, I grow tired of this question. And it is because I know that only you can answer it txgal89. I know that women wondering the same thing as you can only answer this question for themselves. My guess is that you just have an attraction to bad boys, and while you may WANT a nice guy, you still find yourself attracted to that guy who will treat you like dirt.

And, the reverse is true. Some men can't get over a bad girl. You know. The type of woman who is controlling, spends your dime, yet ****s like a beast in bed so you keep her around cause you have this silly notion she loves you. But she is just using you until her next victim.

So now....the question is....where are all the nice girls?

Jeez

I can't believe I just read all that

Whew

Get in line behind me txgal! We're all lokking for the "NICE GUY"! It can be very frustrating, I know! Ms. V

Goofball... its not that i want a "bad boy" the nice guys that i have met, are like the second scenario you described...into bad girls. Its not that i dont want a nice guy or that Im attracted to bad boys, its that the nice guys dont want me...
Which is why its so frustrating! Im not a bad person. Im one of the nice girls who finish last. Its NOT fun

I'm not a nice or bad guy.. I'm a guy. Better yet.. I'm a human.

My range of behavior can go from selfless to selfish and everything in between.
Depending on who you ask about my behavior and how it affects them directly or indirectly, even if it has no effect, just their perception.. I can go from very giving, kind and tolerant to complete and utter jerk.

No matter.. I'm a firm believer in "It is none of my business what you think of me".

Sometimes selfishness is a very necessary response to situations that we encounter. As is selflessness in other situations. It is called "Taking care of self, for self's sake". However, in that... someone is always bound to perceive hurt no matter what I do.

Nice, good, bad and mean.. are all very subjective terms as it pertains to most of us. There are those few on both extremes, that appear to either do no wrong or do everything wrong. Most of us don't live there though.

Those that appear to do no wrong..usually get Sainted, which means they are dead. Best of luck with that...

The trick is.. to accept people for who they are. Which will only promote them accepting you for you. Maybe invest more time in self-improvement, then you do in the hunt for that illusive perfect mate... If that doesn't work.. then move on and try again. Chances are.. you were just incompatible and it has nothing to do with either being inherently good or bad.

Or... you can continue on your hunt for a nice guy or gal til you are on your death bed, alone and bitter.

Its not that I havent accepted their flaws, its that they have treated me like I was trash. They treated me like I meant nothing! Thats not fun!