I legitimately want to meet a woman on here, but most I've showed interest in just give me their Skype or gmail a la not real people. It's frustrating.

You must not be in sync with the way that things like this work.

ALL social meetup places are essentially the same, in that the people who put the most eager energy in to meeting others, tend to be the ones least likely to want calm, long term interactions.

The fact that the great majority of the people who push to get your attention are not what you want, is just normal human behavior. Even if you decide to date-chase at local church socials, you are going to find essentially the same thing.

In essence, what you are complaining about, is akin to going to a bar to meet the love of your life, and being upset that most of the people you meet like to drink as a form of entertainment.
I suggest you accept the human nature stuff, and patiently look past the people at the front of the "room," until you do find the ones who are like you.

have my doubts that real love exists in this format anyways

why? because think of the factors that initially draw you to another human being...


what makes you want to cross the room to speak to someone?


pretty smile? a nice laugh? a quirky sense of humor? intelligence?

nice eyes? a warm tone of voice?


see where I am going with this?


does not exist online

you are basically a bill board
a want ad in the classifieds

So the lost and found probably won't improve my status?

So I guess fun and a relationship can't coincide?! What a crock of malarkey.

Tons of people meet their partner to be online... Doesn't happen for everyone, like not everyone meets their partner to-be via friends, in the sport school, the book store, in the pub etc. etc.
Some meet them here, others meet them there. Doesn't render any of these places impossible places to meet the partner to-be...
We simply don't all meet the other in the same place. Wouldn't that be easy? Almost like going to Walmart's, hihi.
Plus, you gotta be ready yourself. And I still think that's where most go wrong. Most on here anyways, prolly cos M2 has a place (forum) where ppl can rant, then bugger off again.
But I've never seen so many ppl moan about this stuff, yet they forget that they themselves are where it all starts, not with the other.

I've met my ex via the internet, and the new man in my life as well
It's an excellent means, you just got to know how to use it. Meaning you gotta be willing to invest some time in that to find out.
But honestly, most comes down to how you come across, what you exude. And it matters Jack chit if you're online or go out to meet someone. If your vibration / what you exude sux, you won't find anyone. Or you'll attract w@nkers ...
So.. you gotta invest both in yourself and in how to properly 'present' yourself online. Learn what works, what doesn't, and learn how to sift and sort through the 'assortment' a lot faster.
I did all that, took me a few years to be honest. Not the 'how to present myself online', that didn't take that long at all. But the working on myself. And I didn't do that to find love, I did that for me. To feel better, be happier, get empowered etc etc. But you gotta be willing to invest in yourself...

I just want to thank you for spending the time to put what you put in words on this site Crystalfairy.
I myself started this journey bout 8 years ago and you are completely correct. About 3 years in thing started clicking and falling into place. Yes it would be extremely awesome if everyone else had this commited mindset.

Thank you, Integrity! It feels good to be appreciated :-) And great to hear you made the same journey and found it paid off as well! It's so worth it, innit, even if you haven't found love (yet), just to feel so bloody good yourself :) And that's what it's all about, isn't it, first and foremost, to feel good with and about yourself.
Not that there aren't any hiccups anymore, but the overall feeling and tendency is good and solid.
Must say it's still an ongoing process for me, but the foundation is certainly there.

The hardest part is rewiring your thought process.
Having the will to commit to your own integrity / foundation is what we build off of every day.
You are truly welcome.

I respectfully disagree with part of this statement. I've been doing this online thing for a long time. Longer than I care to admit. What I've learned, for the most part, a lot of women are just as bad as men. The thing is, A man will, for the most part, come right out with it and say he is looking for sex. A lot of men will come right out and ask for it to the point of sending pictures of his private parts to some woman.

But, as far as some of the women go, most will try to hide it. They will say in there profile that they are looking for a long term relationship. When in reality, They are looking for di.ck. Some will beat around the bush about it. I know, I've had it to happen to me. Every once in a while a man will come across one that will come right out and say she is looking for di.ck.

A lot of men don't care if they look like a man whore. The great majority of women don't want to be thought of that way. Even if they are. Some don't care. But to say that the majority of women want a relationship, Well, As I said, I respectfully disagree. It's not what I've seen after years dealing with some of the people that hang out on dating sites. Also, what I've seen in other forums.

Yeah i agree, both (men and women) are just the same not all but majority it is.... thats why i dont search no more just comewhat may... if i dont like the message i ignore.... if it makes me think twice then ill give it a try....

I believe that it is not so much whether people want a relationship, but that they want the right relationship with the right person for them, and they can be much more selective online. They can both ask many questions and learn a lot more before they decide to meet each other, which is good in my opinion, and as others have said, it just takes more time and effort in finding them.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

What good is seeking virtual pleasure when it lacks authenticity. A friendly smile from a pet is much better.


PS- I AM HERE TO DO RESEARCH ON PSYCHOLOGY

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I SEE ^◕‿◕^.

So, your profile says you are 57, looking for
man up to 40 something, for romance, fun, love etc.

Sorry, I'M GENUINE, unfortunately,
I am looking for FRIENDSHIP first, and,
I AM WAY TOO OLD 4 U.

My loss

Can you make good sandwiches and FETCH BEER ??

Of course not anyone wants real love here as everywhere in the world.Yes, most of men are here just for fun. That's why it's better get rid of all the hopes such as - Oh, I'll find here the love of my life - etc. Our expectations make us unhappy. Use your intuition and you can understand easily who to believe :))))

A lot of good points have been made on this topic.

Personally, I know I will not find real love online. Love is something that develops over time spent in the company of another. It is visual, mental and physical. Pheromones and natural postures help establish love. Things you can't get from a TCP/IP connection. I know that I am capable of deep dedicated love but I have to show it in person, likewise I have to experience it from someone else in person. I'm looking online for a potential match, someone likely to be the one I desire. Someone that desires me too.

People join these dating sites for many different reasons. It is a mixing pot of personalities that come together thru profiles and community participation. Just like every person has their own reasons for being here, they also have their own methods of participation.

Yes, there are scammers and fakes here. There are a lot of truly mixed up people and some that are immature. Not everyone is lying tho. There are some really good people online but they are hard to find. You just have to stay focused, be honest and look at each contact as an individual person. After a while you start to recognize the patterns of the scammers and fakes.

Having fun is a purely personal thing. What constitutes as fun for me may not be fun for you and vice-versa. Most of the time, when things get mundane or repetitious, people will attempt to inject their idea of fun into the routine to liven things up. There is nothing wrong with being light-hearted as long as you stay true to your goals.

If you can't believe what ANYONE says, what is the point of being here in the first place? I suggest you give it some time, participate with honesty and integrity and keep your options open. It is unlikely you will find a perfect match but it could happen. You might find a match that isn't perfect online but in the real world, where it matters, it becomes perfect.

I am on here for real love and maybe long term

believed me when I tell I'm for real you'll see when you try

I think so too. Lots of game players so I gave up.

I'd like some hot chocolate right now. Love? Eh. That can wait.