Do you still get or give flowers un-occasionally?

So was it the movie or the un-occasional flower which got me in trouble??

"why don't you bring flowers for me any more?"

there hasn't been an occasion to bring one

Then she got angry and told "Only when I tell, you will bring??"

which got me in trouble?

Think about it for a while. You already know the answer to this.

No.
Not since I learned the majority of flowers come from Colombia, and the U.S. subsidizes Colombia to grow flowers in order to keep the fields from being planted with coca leaves in an attempt to reduce the drug trade.
So I'd basically be paying for them twice and supporting drug dealers.

I'd rather get her a cute teddy bear that was made in China.
Or Chocolate from cocoa and sugar grown in Africa.
That's much less objectionable.
Hahahahaha.


What got you in trouble is it seems you are starting to take her for granted. Like a car.


= "I'm a person, you should think about me, care about who I am as an individual, what I'm feeling, value my life, I'm not here just to provide a relationship to you!"


= "But your oil light didn't come on."


= "You'll give a crap and think about me only when my oil light comes on? I only matter when you may not get what you want from me? You aren't motivated to think about me unless I call attention to myself?"



You got yourself in trouble.

An old Irish folk song ....
He remembers the first time he met her
He remembered the first thing she said
He remembered the first time he held her
And the night that she came to his bed.

He remembers her sweet way of sayin'
Honey has something gone wrong
He remembered the fun and the teasin'
And the reason he wrote her this song.

Chorus:
I'll give you a daisy a day dear
I'll give you a daisy a day
I'll love you until the rivers run still
And the four winds we know blow away.

They would walk down the street in the evening
And for years I would see them go by
And their love that was more than the clothes that they wore
Could be seen in the gleam in their eyes.

As a kid they would take me for candy
And I'd love to go taggin' along
We'd hold hands while we walked the corner
And the old man would sing her this song.

Chorus:
I'll give you a daisy a day dear
I'll give you a daisy a day
I'll love you until the rivers run still
And the four winds we know blow away.

Now he walks down the street in the evening
And he stops by the old candy store
And I somehow believe he's believin'
He's holdin' her hand like before.

For he feels all her love walkin' with him
And he smiles at the things she might say
Then the old man walks up to the hill top
And gives her a daisy a day.

Chorus:
I'll give you a daisy a day dear
I'll give you a daisy a day
I'll love you until the rivers run still
And the four winds we know blow away...


Well jimmy ... It is unfair of her to compare you with the fantasy world of movie land .. Especially when it comes to romance .. . But ultimately I think it is your response that got you in to trouble ... Now if you Send her flowers especiallt while she is angry .. She will feel it is not because you want to but because you have to . Perhaps do something different.. It need not cost money ... .. Run her a bath with candles and rose petals in the water . Surprise her with a dessert with pretty edible flowers .. I am sure you can be creative :-)

The issue is greater than the flowers she is emotionally starved and he does not have a clue.. His lack of emotion and its needed daily expression is crucial if he is to get back with her.. this has been going on for some time,. so token flowers may be too little and too late. Perhaps a course in couples communication might help stem the likelihood of her soon departure for someone more emotional and thoughtful on a daily basis...

Every now an' then, on my home
I stop at a spot where the wild flowers grow, an' I pick a few
Cause she don't tell me to
I go out with my boys all right
But most of the time I call it a night before they do
Cause she don't tell me to
Sunday mornin', I'm in church
An' my butt an' my back an' necktie hurt, but I'm in the pew
She don't tell me to

Any other woman I know would have tried
To control me and it would be over
Blame it on my goin' on my own way attitude
All of that stubbornness melts away
When I wake with her head on my shoulder
An' I know I've got to love her
Until my life is through
Cause she don't tell me to

Well, I got demons and I've got pride
But when I'm wrong, I apologize like she's mine to lose
Cause she don't tell me to
Well, I got dreams in this heart of mine
But nothin' that I wouldn't lay aside if she asked me to
Cause she don't tell me to
An' she don't even know
That she keeps lookin' for the next right thing to do
Cause she don't tell me to
Yeah, yeah

Any other woman I know would have tried
To control me and it would be over
Blame it on my goin' on my own way attitude
And all of that stubbornness melts away
When I wake with her head on my shoulder
An' I know I've got to love her
Until my life is through
What else can I do
What else can I do
Whoa, I love her
Cause she don't tell me to
She don't tell me to

Picking a fight over a movie scene?...She's sleeping with someone else, for sure.

Personally, I am not a big fan of cut flowers. They just die.

I think your girl friend is asking for some attention vs. wanting flowers.

I agree - some other gesture would likely be your best bet at this point.

Reminds me of a saying: The grass is always greener where you water it.

I think we all like to feel special, even if we've been in a relationship for awhile. Keep the romance alive, and that sort of thing. :)

Good luck!

Wow even I would saying what the heck is wrong with you woman?

Is she high maintenance?
If so run man run

Does she thinks you have to buy her things all the time?
Tell her to pay for it herself, you're not wallmart.

To be honest if I were you after that I would have picked a weed flower and given it to her.

Is not your company good enough?

Not romantic??? having dinner in each other's arms on bed with notebook movie..not sure what is more romantic then that..

I serious don't know..but I feel my reply has to do something with it. Till that time everything was so romantic..suddenly things went south and I was on couch
But she is not high maintenance or money minded and that is puzzling me

It was a lovely late evening and we were having dinner on bed with a romantic movie (notebook, which she had not seen ) suddenly she started crying and asked me "why don't you bring flowers for me any more?".

I was bit surprised and replied that recently there hasn't been an occasion to bring one so I didn't but if you want I will get one.
Then she got angry and told "Only when I tell, you will bring??"

My night got ruined and I didn't know what to reply or say.
So was it the movie or the un-occasional flower which got me in trouble??