Every guy I talk to seems to find a deal breaker when I tell them I don't want to get intimate until after marriage... Is it really impossible to ask that much these days...?

No they're out there as I assume woman of such are as well lol. Is hard, just gotta keep searching :)

DO NOT GIVE IN, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF...THEY WERE JUST NOT ''THE ONE''.

THERE ARE WONDERFUL GUYS OUT THERE THAT WILL RESPECT YOUR VALUES....

MAKE THE BOY EARN IT.....YOUNG GUYS DO NOT TAKE CARE OF WHAT IS JUST

GIVEN TO THEM....ALWAYS REMEMBER ANYTHING ANYONE HAS EVER SAID OR DONE

TO YOU WAS ALL ABOUT THEM.......FRITZ PEARLS WROTE A BOOK ''IN AND OUT

OF THE GARBAGE PAIL...MAYBE YOU NEED TO LOOK A DIFFERENT PAIL...GOOD LUCK...

To wait until marriage for sex?
Not "impossible."
Just not very realistic.

Especially since the median age of people getting married for the first time continues a rapid increase, and the number of people ever marrying continues to decrease.

More and more it's like asking "is it really impossible for drivers and the city to accommodate my riding a horse as my main means of travel?"

It's not impossible, it's mostly just an anachronism that serves no real purpose, and doesn't really have any support from society, down to basic infrastructure, that has moved on to a different way of doing things.

poo poo infrastructure poo of course a 41 year guy would miss out on

so much free sex if more women woke up and realized they were being

just used.....

My late wife and I didn't have sexual intercourse until after our wedding.

Have you considered joining some of the Christian dating sites? Could be worth a try.

AND THOSE ARE THE MARRIAGES THAT LAST....THE REASON IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS

FOCUSED ON SEX AND NOT THE GIRL....WHEN YOU MAKE A COMMITMENT BEFORE THE GOD AND

EVERYBODY THE FOCUS IN ON THE GIRL......YOU CAN NOT HAVE THE BEST SEX WITHOUT

LOVE FOR THE OTHER PERSON.....

If you are going to place restrictions, then you will
also get the result of those restrictions.

An Ancient Greek coined the phrase 'cloud cuckoo land', even back then people must have had unrealistic day dreams

I take it that won't be easy. I myself wouldn't marry someone without having 'sampled' what I'm going to get.
Sex is important in a relationship so it's important to know you are a match in that area. Not matching sexually could become a reason for the relationship to end, not work out, cheating and so on. Or at the very least both partners becoming very unhappy in the relationship.

I don't know your reasons for this choice, but I suppose your best option is indeed a religious dating site. Albeit Christian, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim.

Usually I agree with you, now I really don't.
Your view is very old-fashioned, totally outdated. Plenty of people are in a loving relationship -not married- and have sex.
There are also women who enjoy sex without a relationship. Nothing wrong with that either. We have physical bodies to enjoy physical pleasures, not to deny ourselves that. And these pleasures can be anything from cuddling, touching, kissing to sex.
I think it's a crying shame that these days a great many single and elderly people hardly ever even get touched anymore. We are human beings, not robots. We need that sort of thing in order to feel good.
So now we have these groups that go out in the streets to simply hug people. Isn't that sad?
Equally sad that some people still feel that sex equals raunchy stuff and not see that mostly it is about the sharing of love, intimacy, care and enjoying being close.
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You know you want it....
It feels fantastic!
Stop punishing yourself.
You deserve to be pleasured.

That kind of stuff is why I don't search for it. I don't want to have a guy who just expects sex from me.

Honestly, it has nothing to do with religion lately. It's only an excuse.
The reason is I want a relationship that has no expectation of sex, because all other relationships I have had have ended in...

terrifying and forceful ways...

In every relationship bf/gf or husband and wife sex is literally expected but it shouldn't be prioritized... Let it be the spice :)

I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive..
Relationships go much deeper than a car..

This:

i think its kinda hard for men to wait until they marry to have sex.

well then every guy you seem to talk to ... finds that a deal breaker
is not the guy for you ...
when I was very young I thought I found the man of my dreams hahah
he was a gentlemen never argued thought we both wanted the same things ... and also thought he would do anything for me ...but just as you I was not ready to get intimate either ... this went on about a yr or so ... still thinking he loved me and respected what I wanted ... till I found he was cheating with someone he was working with ... ok I ended up with a broken heart but I did not loose my virginity ... and even later he came and asked me to marry him ... easy to say know to him ... but you have to decide when it is right for you ... married or not ... seems we all get are hearts broken if we do or if we don't... and talking about men and women ... and always and only your own decision counts ...