it can be a good thing at times because the guy could be living in his parents basement.....ya never know

I know that when I say it I mean it as just that. I am not saying that they are not attractive. I think sometimes it can also be a way to slow things down if they are moving too fast. But I would take them at their word. If only friends is all you can be then accept it or reject them. What can you do? To wallow in self pity over it will only make you bitter and less attractive for the next one to come along. Good luck

I recently heard 'let's try & just be friends'. I'm thinking what the ____?

Whatever. His loss. I cannot be 'friends' with someone and have blatant memories of mind blowing..er... "intimacy" flashing in my head.

"so what would work Bobzeaux or anyone else?"

Actually, "I'm very flattered, but you're just not my type" works rather well. Someone gave me that line, and while it was disappointing, it was still gratifying that she wasn't trying to insult my intelligence.

I think friends can be good...and ONLY good if you are not thinking romantic thoughts. Once your interested in them romantically...the friendship goes out the window

i have plenty of guy friends and its always been like that but i'm just looking for a guy friend on a deeper level

This has been going on with me a girl I have been talking to for a while we never considred ourselfs as a couple but, started out too fast instead of being friends she tells me things like, she just wants to be friends, and she can't see us dating right now ???

You know what my favorite is? Being friends with someone for a very long time because it wouldn't have worked out when you first met eachother. But then some where down the road you both develop feelings for one another and all it takes is one perfect night to let it all out.

Next time someone says "let's be just friends", ask them why?

I have only said that to one person I dated, however I told her 1st that I didn't feel the connection with her. People need to be more honest with each other. I would rather have someone tell my why I am not their type, than have an excuse used on me.

By the way, I am still friends with the girl I said that to.

nothin wrong with that.can never have to many friends lol

I want a boyfren..............

I always adhere to the policy that you own up to how you feel.Forinstance. If you are talking with someone from here, you basically are trying to figure out if the two of you connect in any way shape or form. You are also trying to see "if" this person is someone who is a potential gf\bf. You talk, ask questions, you move slow as you try and see if he\she is someone you want to move forward with. But, let's say that you reach a point where you find yourself thinking, "I don't feel it is a match"

Well, it is going to be hard to tell them the truth, but that is what you have to do. Yeah, saying "Let's just be friends" is a cop out, covering up the "reason" why you chose to break it off. But, if you said it like this, "I like you. I do. But I do not feel the connection is there. I know this is going to hurt, cause I feel like grade "a" crap saying it, but I know I would hurt you (non physical. emotional) if we kept going cause I just do not see this going somewhere. I really wanna be your friend. I hope that we can". And then go into further detail about the "why's" you are not feeling the connection is there. Sounds easy to do huh? Well, if it was, then us humans (guys and gals) would do it more. Alas, we look for the easy path.

depends on how far into the "relationship" the line is used. If you've gotten as far as screwing each other and the next morning the line is being used then i'd be ?'ing the sincerity

from a girl's perspective..i'd rather hear this..

fully agree with ya Goof..you said it well

If you are dating someone and they tell you that they'd rather "just be friends"....they are basically just trying to let you down easy. They may truely hope to keep your friendship, but If I fed that line to a guy (which I wouldn't because I believe in being upfront) it would be because I wasn't attracted to him/didn't click with him/couldn't see myself with him on a long term basis.

There are times when friends try to date, and then realize that they are better off as friends. That's a completely different story than going on 3 dates with somebody new. If you have history with someone, the statement takes on a new meaning.

If someone would ask me, "Can't we be just friends?" I would have to question if we were friends. If someone should say, "We should be just friends" to me that would say that we are already friends. If a female would say that to me I would say, "Define friendship." Because her interpretation of friendship might be different than mine.

well then they'd really be either lying or stupid, b/c ur beautiful!

aww thank you :-D

Totally agree with Goof.
But we all start out as friends and see if it grows into something deeper. There is a point where you know whether or not it's growing and at that point is when you would tell them Hey I'm not seeing a future here and can we still be friends.
Honesty is so important in a friendship and or relationship. If they can't be honest then they are your friend either.


Good luck in your seach

Remember Knox's rules of relationships, rule #74:

If a member of the opposite sex tells you that they just want to be friends for now, "for now" really means FOR EVER. Anyone telling you that not only does NOT have any desire to be in a relationship with you, but they're basically saying that they'll NEVER have any desire to be in a relationship with you.

Telling a member of the opposite sex that you just want to be friends means: BIG PERMANENT NEVER to any hope and/or thought of a possible relationship! Move on and forget about ANY hope of a future with this person!