I have been here only a few days and this is just as bad as other sites/apps. I constantly send nice neutral basic messages and barely get a response back. Then when I do get a response it only goes 2-4 messages and then I'm being ignored and I barely get a conversation. So that leads me to my question, why in the hell are so many women judging people before they even talk to them?? They clearly read the profile and read your message but seem to ignore it. Looks aren't everything. What happens if the person with "perfect" looks suddenly has an accident and gets their face damaged?? Are you going to up and leave them just BC they were in an accident???

Just so happens our brain is wired that way.

I dont think its a problem of being judgmental Benkeys. Its a matter of people's personal tastes. Some people's profile and opening lines appeal to a person and others don't. It really isnt personal. Try opening with a line that mentions something you read in the woman's profile and see if you get better results. Good luck to you!

Good explanation

Peggy you are as intelligent as you are beautiful as always

BenKeys, It is very possible that you are talking to a scammer or bot...

Just keep that in mind if it only goes a couple of messages that it might not be real or judgemental(unless they are judging that they can't get any money from you).

Welcome to M2 and best of luck in your search!

((((Sherrie!!!!))))

So good to see your sweet sassy self around here. Dont leave us for so long again. We miss you!

There are approx, 2 men for every woman here.

Women have to weed out...

 the scammers

 the pervs

 the visa hunters

the green card hunters

the whack jobs

the basement dwellers

the drama kings


That is a hell of a lot of weeding.
I'm exhausted from just listing it.
So when you e-mail a woman... make it count, make yourself stand out from the pack.

It's not always possible to start up the conversation with something that refers to stuff that they've written in their profiles. Many choose not to even fill in even the basic questions. Believing that the mere sight of a few selfies would make men come running? I for one think there should be more to a woman than just a pretty face. So will tend not to message any profile who couldn't even be bothered to state how tall they are??? I've no time for silly games of that type.

Benkeys. I'd try not to take it so personally. I've been a member of Mingle2 for at least 5 years on and off. During that time I've probably had less than a dozen conversations the average length of those convo's has probably been less than 6 messages exchanged. I've been polite as that how I was raised and indeed I've been the one putting most of the effort into trying to build a rapport. Usually I'd received 2/3 word answers to open questions which would allow them to elaborate. Then more often than not I'd send a message that was ignored and I'd leave it 2/3 days and assume they'd been distracted by someone they found more to their liking. Better to find that you probably weren't compatible early on rather than weeks 2/3 later having been on a date and wasted an evening with a stranger which could have been spent better with mates.

When the right connection comes along it will just fall into place. Until then enjoy the good points of Mingle2 which in my mind are the chat forums. They in the main tend to be populated by far more interesting people than the others who are hell bent on finding a partner for join their superficial existences. Always remember that whatever online dating forum you subscribe to, there's still a real world around you to be enjoyed.

Here be a clue.
The gals on here don't even talk to the guys
unless they have met them on the forums..first.

The sieve of choice :-)

Tru Dat.

That might be true of the females who take part in the forums but many don't partake and focus on spotting evidence of success they can benefit from. I've seen profiles that specifically request that they don't wish to be contacted by men who aren't successful. However many themselves don't show evidence of their own success, just a handful of cleavage revealing selfies lol.

That is pretty creepy (must be successful) but may be a direct
result of saturation by those seeking some kind of gain.

So...you have both sides making demands before even hooking up.
To preclude what they do not want.

All are...still single.

I don't know op.. maybe you're setting the bar too high
.. what type of women are you messaging...
If they look like they belong in a pin-up magazine...well.. you're
right !!.they're going to be a little judgmental... they're only going to talk to someone who's at least as attractive as they are.. just a fact of life.. sad but true... now if your talking to women or messaging women..
That aren't pin-up models..
Well they're probably busy trying to message the guys that look like pin-up models.... so you might have to wait a little while for someone who isn't..
A Shallow Hal... someone who looks past the dust jacket of the book and actually wants to.. read the context of the book... now if you'll excuse me I have to go back to my search for a pin-up model.... that enjoys reading..lol

Okay well this is just a prime example and it happens all the time and of course I never respond I delete it but I have a piece of mail in my mailbox as I am typing that starts off with you're so beautiful can we talk..

Hello.... I have no picture up

..well... I always have a mental picture of you..sooo.... actually the statement Stan's....lol.wink.hi..

Mentally self,-mutilate much? Confidence helps alot . You need to lighten up a bit and calm down. One day you will find someone like you that enjoys the same things. That person will like you.

You my friend, are an exception, to this rule.
I too.. mentally can visualize you in your hard hat or just bending over at home in your little black dress...
Omg ha ha ha.. do I apologize for my thoughts it's so easy to go there with you.. damn where's that little angel emoticon
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Your observation applies to both men and women funkyjunkie. Many of the male profiles I peruse are as bare as their shirtless pics lol. I just skim and move on like you do. The handful of close friends I have from the forum now are people I kidded around with in the games forum. You get to know the playful side of people there and it makes it easier to approach them or interact with them one on one. Not one of the connections I made outside of the forum lasted past a week, in the 10 months Ive been on mingle. the forum interactions on the other hand have been for several months thus far

You are very whinny!

Maybe your short conversations reflect that. Women want attention and confident guys. Man Up!

So true... & Men that actually introduce themselves. It is my #1 pet peeve, that most men do not. I have found this to be true, on all sites over the years.

" Hi", " Hello", or " How are you doing today? ", means LESS than if it was coming from a stranger passing a woman on a street.