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Topic: Why are people so judgmental???
darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Fri 09/02/16 06:00 PM
I dont think its a problem of being judgmental Benkeys. Its a matter of people's personal tastes. Some people's profile and opening lines appeal to a person and others don't. It really isnt personal. Try opening with a line that mentions something you read in the woman's profile and see if you get better results. Good luck to you! nicely said.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Fri 09/02/16 06:13 PM
I have been here only a few days and this is just as bad as other sites/apps. I constantly send nice neutral basic messages and barely get a response back. Then when I do get a response it only goes 2-4 messages and then I'm being ignored and I barely get a conversation. So that leads me to my question, why in the hell are so many women judging people before they even talk to them?? They clearly read the profile and read your message but seem to ignore it. Looks aren't everything. What happens if the person with "perfect" looks suddenly has an accident and gets their face damaged?? Are you going to up and leave them just BC they were in an accident??? Permit me to paraphrase the OP's complaint: "The women I send messages to aren't interested in me, and it's all their fault." Seriously, if you are fishing with the wrong bait, then don't complain because the fish aren't biting.

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Fri 09/02/16 11:55 PM
Just hang in there Ben,keep sending messages and trying and soon you will meet someone nice.These things take time, best of luck to you Sir.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33364	Sat 09/03/16 01:41 AM
I have been here only a few days and this is just as bad as other sites/apps. I constantly send nice neutral basic messages and barely get a response back. Then when I do get a response it only goes 2-4 messages and then I'm being ignored and I barely get a conversation. So that leads me to my question, why in the hell are so many women judging people before they even talk to them?? They clearly read the profile and read your message but seem to ignore it. Looks aren't everything. What happens if the person with "perfect" looks suddenly has an accident and gets their face damaged?? Are you going to up and leave them just BC they were in an accident??? Permit me to paraphrase the OP's complaint: "The women I send messages to aren't interested in me, and it's all their fault." Seriously, if you are fishing with the wrong bait, then don't complain because the fish aren't biting. Yup ... Get a better profile text, something meatier that reveals more about you and what you're looking for in a partner. And make sure it feels positive. Get a better picture up. A smile goes a long way. And have something interesting to say and/or ask. Since you manage to get a few mails going, the initial interest can be there, it's more than most get. Meaning your conversation goes down the drain after the opening. Figure out why and how to improve your conversation skills.

Magical321 Joined Sun 04/06/14 Posts: 6967	Sat 09/03/16 03:22 AM
Not all people are judgmental, believe me. Don't lose hope and it takes a lot of patience.

IgorFrankensteen Joined Thu 10/01/09 Posts: 5444	Sat 09/03/16 10:42 AM
Do do david has it EXACTLY. I will take what he said just a little further. BenKeys, YOU ARE BEING JUDGMENTAL IN YOUR VERY OWN OPENING POST HERE. You JUDGED the women to be "judgmental," as opposed to what would be more accurate which is that they are SELECTIVE. EVERYONE IS SELECTIVE. You are selective as well, as you will admit to yourself after you calm down a bit. And it's not just a matter of "using the right bait," either. After all, what we are dangling in front of each other isn't "bait," it's ourselves. No one can, though technique alone, cause someone who just doesn't like us, to decide we are the best thing they've seen since forever. At least not for a long enough time to build a serious relationship. So unless your goal is simply to rack up numbers of women who allowed you to spend money on feeding them (or worse), accept that what this is really about, is finding out how to present who YOU really are, to the women who YOU will like, who are also likely to be looking for who you really are.

Robxbox73 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 5302	Sat 09/03/16 11:48 AM
Why are people so judgmental??? You are very whinny! Maybe your short conversations reflect that. Women want attention and confident guys. Man Up! Yup no offense buddy, but you gotta put on your big boy pants. Sure some women like a winney guy. But I think you should just trash your profile and start over. Tough love buddy, nothing personal. I've spotted the issue that is probably causing 94.3% of your problem. List a job. Women don't want to support a guy. Hope this helps.

NeonMidnight Joined Tue 08/30/16 Posts: 772	Sun 09/04/16 02:40 PM Edited by NeonMidnight on Sun 09/04/16 02:41 PM
don't judge a book by it's cover

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Sun 09/04/16 02:51 PM
I have been here only a few days and (((this is just as bad as other sites/apps.)))) ((((I constantly send nice neutral basic messages))) and barely get a response back. Then when I do get a response it only goes 2-4 messages and then ((((I'm being ignored))) and I barely get a conversation. So that leads me to my question, ((((why in the hell are so many women judging people))) before they even talk to them?? They clearly read the profile and read your message (((but seem to ignore))) it. (((Looks aren't everything))). What happens if the person with "perfect" looks suddenly has an accident and gets their face damaged?? Are you going to up and leave them just BC they were in an accident??? I've put in brackets what I think is judgemental, the truth is, we do it in almost everything we do.