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Thank God you re-read the topic doc. We would have been in for a rude awakening  hello peggy  i dont know if you posted in my flirting 101 thread . i didnt know you had this one 
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves.
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Thank God you re-read the topic doc. We would have been in for a rude awakening
hello peggy i dont know if you posted in my flirting 101 thread . i didnt know you had this one
Ooops! I think I missed it skeptical. I should have posted my last question there instead . Sorry !
Im gonna look for it now :) |
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ? 
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. |
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves. I agree DukeFlytalker. I was just concerned about hurting someone unecessarily by flirting if Im undecided about my feelings but the other person seems sure. |
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ?
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. Hmmmm...I was actualy just trusting my intuition that they had feelings, but you re right pisces. My intuition could be dead wrong! 
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Edited by
mzrosie
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Thu 06/15/17 07:13 PM
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves. I agree DukeFlytalker. I was just concerned about hurting someone unecessarily by flirting if Im undecided about my feelings but the other person seems sure. Peggy, I agree with DukeFlytalker. It is just a bit of fun in the forums. Don't overthink everything. However, if it goes out of the forums and flirting continues in private, if you are not interested in going further just say so. The guys IMO are ones who get scared off first anyways. You are young... just have fun.
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ?
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. Hmmmm...I was actualy just trusting my intuition that they had feelings, but you re right pisces. My intuition could be dead wrong!
Maybe not peggy, I can't imagine a guy not liking you. A couple months ago I assumed someone liked me because of the flirting or extra attention, but when I got brave enough to ask, found out I was mistaken, he just wanted to be friends...mostly because I lived too far away, but I think he was just being polite.
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ?
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. Hmmmm...I was actualy just trusting my intuition that they had feelings, but you re right pisces. My intuition could be dead wrong!
Maybe not peggy, I can't imagine a guy not liking you. A couple months ago I assumed someone liked me because of the flirting or extra attention, but when I got brave enough to ask, found out I was mistaken, he just wanted to be friends...mostly because I lived too far away, but I think he was just being polite.
Oh dear. Im sorry you went through that pisces
Every situation is different. We have to cut ourselves some slack. We are not gonna make the right assessment all the time
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves. I agree DukeFlytalker. I was just concerned about hurting someone unecessarily by flirting if Im undecided about my feelings but the other person seems sure. Peggy, I agree with DukeFlytalker. It is just a bit of fun in the forums. Don't overthink everything. However, if it goes out of the forums and flirting continues in private, if you are not interested in going further just say so. The guys IMO are ones who get scared off first anyways. You are young... just have fun.
Hmmmm,,, Well in that case, I think I messed up Rosie
I don;t think any major damage was done , but I think I was kinda insensitive. I cant do anything about it now so Im gonna chalk it up to one more life lesson. Thanks Rosie!
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Edited by
peggy122
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Thu 06/15/17 07:51 PM
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hello peggy i dont know if you posted in my flirting 101 thread . i didnt know you had this one
Ooops! I think I missed it skeptical. I should have posted my last question there instead . Sorry !
Im gonna look for it now :) I found your thread Skeptical! I wasnt active on the forum for a long time so I would have missed alot of interestig threads including yours Im posting the link to it here. Sorry I missed it!
https://m.mingle2.com/topic/show/528173 |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Thu 06/15/17 07:30 PM
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ?
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. Hmmmm...I was actualy just trusting my intuition that they had feelings, but you re right pisces. My intuition could be dead wrong!
Maybe not peggy, I can't imagine a guy not liking you. A couple months ago I assumed someone liked me because of the flirting or extra attention, but when I got brave enough to ask, found out I was mistaken, he just wanted to be friends...mostly because I lived too far away, but I think he was just being polite.
Oh dear. Im sorry you went through that pisces
Every situation is different. We have to cut ourselves some slack. We are not gonna make the right assessment all the time
Thanks Peggy
I think it's easier to assess in person, although sometimes even then we're mistaken, just not so much. It hurt for a little while, possibly my ego more than anything. But that's one reason why now I try not to assume that they like me just because they are flirting. I need something more substantial to know for sure. And sometimes I'm a little clueless, so even then I may need more....like maybe a huge sign in my inbox that says...."HEY....I LIKE YOU!!!"
Edited in....unless of course they are a complete stranger...then the "HEY" doesn't work for me, lol |
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I have more thoughts on this topic , but didnt want to start a new thread. I wonder if perhaps we are leading people on unecessarily when we flirt for the fun of it , not knowing if we want something more, while sensing that the other person DEFINITELY wants something more? Or should everyone lighten up and not take it too seriously ?
That's a really good question peggy. My question though is how do you know...or sense...that they want something more if they haven't said anything to you privately? I guess for me, I try not to take it serious when a guy flirts with me...or at least now I try not to...because I have been mistaken so many times in the past. If they are only paying attention to me or flirting with me in public places, but say or do nothing when face to face...or my inbox is empty...then I can only assume it's just fun and games to them. Hmmmm...I was actualy just trusting my intuition that they had feelings, but you re right pisces. My intuition could be dead wrong!
Maybe not peggy, I can't imagine a guy not liking you. A couple months ago I assumed someone liked me because of the flirting or extra attention, but when I got brave enough to ask, found out I was mistaken, he just wanted to be friends...mostly because I lived too far away, but I think he was just being polite.
Oh dear. Im sorry you went through that pisces
Every situation is different. We have to cut ourselves some slack. We are not gonna make the right assessment all the time
Thanks Peggy
I think it's easier to assess in person, although sometimes even then we're mistaken, just not so much. It hurt for a little while, possibly my ego more than anything. But that's one reason why now I try not to assume that they like me just because they are flirting. I need something more substantial to know for sure. And sometimes I'm a little clueless, so even then I may need more....like maybe a huge sign in my inbox that says...."HEY....I LIKE YOU!!!"
Edited in....unless of course they are a complete stranger...then the "HEY" doesn't work for me, lol As you alluded, I suspect that the more consistent the private interactions are with a person, is the more accurately you can read "the signs" Everything is blurry in the beginning I think |
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves. I agree DukeFlytalker. I was just concerned about hurting someone unecessarily by flirting if Im undecided about my feelings but the other person seems sure. Peggy, I agree with DukeFlytalker. It is just a bit of fun in the forums. Don't overthink everything. However, if it goes out of the forums and flirting continues in private, if you are not interested in going further just say so. The guys IMO are ones who get scared off first anyways. You are young... just have fun.
Hmmmm,,, Well in that case, I think I messed up Rosie
I don;t think any major damage was done , but I think I was kinda insensitive. I cant do anything about it now so Im gonna chalk it up to one more life lesson. Thanks Rosie!
oh Peggy, we all mess up sometimes.. but always remember, sometimes we are the pigeon and there are times we are the statue. To you and pisces, live and learn... I didn't get to my age without being the pigeon. 
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Surely flirting is just a bit of fun? Done well, all participants feel good about themselves. I agree DukeFlytalker. I was just concerned about hurting someone unecessarily by flirting if Im undecided about my feelings but the other person seems sure. Peggy, I agree with DukeFlytalker. It is just a bit of fun in the forums. Don't overthink everything. However, if it goes out of the forums and flirting continues in private, if you are not interested in going further just say so. The guys IMO are ones who get scared off first anyways. You are young... just have fun.
Hmmmm,,, Well in that case, I think I messed up Rosie
I don;t think any major damage was done , but I think I was kinda insensitive. I cant do anything about it now so Im gonna chalk it up to one more life lesson. Thanks Rosie!
oh Peggy, we all mess up sometimes.. but always remember, sometimes we are the pigeon and there are times we are the statue. To you and pisces, live and learn... I didn't get to my age without being the pigeon.
Pigeons are so annoying Rosie. None of us fall into THAT GROUP thank God :) |
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oh Peggy, we all mess up sometimes.. but always remember, sometimes we are the pigeon and there are times we are the statue. To you and pisces, live and learn... I didn't get to my age without being the pigeon.
Thanks rosie, you're the best!
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oh Peggy, we all mess up sometimes.. but always remember, sometimes we are the pigeon and there are times we are the statue. To you and pisces, live and learn... I didn't get to my age without being the pigeon.
Thanks rosie, you're the best!
aww that's why we are friends
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Edited by
msharmony
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Fri 06/16/17 07:43 AM
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how receptive I may be to flirting depends upon my receptiveness to the person
or , whether there is 'something' about them that causes my mutual interest and even the way they flirt can create an interest,(for example, if it shows the person to be clever, or witty, or old fashioned chivalrous, rather than juvenile or clownish or vulgar) I am always grateful for compliments in all their forms when the intent to compliment is obvious I rarely reciprocate 'flirts' though, unless I am mutually intrigued |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Sat 06/17/17 11:42 AM
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how receptive I may be to flirting depends upon my receptiveness to the person or , whether there is 'something' about them that causes my mutual interest and even the way they flirt can create an interest,(for example, if it shows the person to be clever, or witty, or old fashioned chivalrous, rather than juvenile or clownish or vulgar) I am always grateful for compliments in all their forms when the intent to compliment is obvious I rarely reciprocate 'flirts' though, unless I am mutually intrigued Oh definitely. I agree Ms H. No one wants to bait flirtation with a response if its someone youfeel no attraction for. In fact , I wish more guys would bow out gracefully when their advances are clearly not being well received. And I guess some of the guys would say the same about certain women lol |
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