Why is it when you meet someone, and you are obvisiosly both really into each other, when u are together , but the guy is soooo busy with his life he just wants a " call or see see when I can relationship". ?? Don't get it!! If it's right, it's right!!! If it's not it's not!! Somebody please explain? I really like this guy, and he seems so in to me whenever we r together, but then it might be 2 weeks not hearing a peep from him?

You say he is so busy with his life... Some of us do have intricate lives and it is difficult to pull ourselves away to spend some time with others.

I'd love to help and explain but I'm busy right now

why should he change anything? you fit perfectly into his schedule as it is..on his timeline, when only he finds it convenient

No matter how busy he is a email only takes a few minutes, and so does a phone call, so I understand your feelings. You should explain to him you really like him but feel like a option.Best of luck to you.

He could be leading a double life....meaning he is married....just saying.

Maybe he's waiting to see the upper part of your face??? Just saying...

There are way to many reasons to list.
Bottom line if he is interested he will let you know if he isn't
cut line and go fishing again.
Nothing ventured nothing gained.

I do believe that even in a relationship you have to have time without each other.

Maybe you are fishing in the wrong pond for what you want. Maybe you are in different places in your lives. Who knows really

It does hurt...but then we just have to face reality..If it is never meant for you then it never will be... A person who truly loves would never take you for granted... he'll find the time to call or text you daily just to let you know you are not forgotten...but this is not the only measurement of it...It takes two to tango!!!

If you aren't getting the communication you need or want from someone, then ask them for it.


I wonder if he could start a forum thread asking:
"Why is it when you meet someone, and you are obvisiosly both really into each other, when u are together...they never contact you? You asked them out before, but they don't call and ask you to do anything for 2 weeks? And then after 2 weeks you call and ask them to do something, and everything is awesome, but they never initiate anything?"


IMO there is at least one huge problem with this.

Simply because communication can really suck, especially in the beginning.

It should read "if he is interested he will let you know, but it may not be, and probably won't be, in ways you inherently understand as such, or possibly value so overlook."

e.g. Maybe you said "friends first" or you had a magical conversation on a date about how you like things to develop slow, or you like your "space."
Then he attempts to put some distance between you, to treat you like one of his normal "friends," to show you that he CAN be "friends" first, and not just go crazy, clingy, over touchy, he's trying to communicate that he is listening and he can and will do what you want, respect you, care about what you need/want.

You may think he's "not interested" when really he's trying to live up to what he thinks you said you wanted.

That's why when a problem comes up with someone you ask them first, rather than internet strangers.

I hate getting beat to the punch.

Oh for Gods sake! If you are that "into" the guy then go out with him.
If you don't like his hectic life style or feel he's too busy to meet your needs then don't go out with him. End of story.

If his work takes up so much of his time, working away from home, etc. I can understand there may be good reasons why you don't here from him for weeks on end, and he has said, he just wants a " call or see see when I can relationship". If you have been dating for some time, you want to think about asking him where he sees your relationship going, because if this is all he wants in the long term, then you will at least know how things stand between you.

Welcome to Mingle2.

Im sorry guys.

I used to believe that crap about men being too busy to message a woman.

But sheeeesh!

It takes less than a minute to message a woman to say that you are busy ,but thinking about her or to wish her a good day or a good night.

I suspect that you are deserving of a man who thinks you are worthy of 1 minute of his day.

Never squeeze yourself into any man"s life.

A man who truly wants you in his life will make room for you...

You know, for this reason it is important to get a life of your own. Have hobbies, things to do, see friends, socialize, go out.
Don't make your life evolve around a man. Don't sit at home waiting by the phone/internet to hear from him. That way you give all your power away and you should never ever do that! He knows he's the one in control, he knows you're waiting all the time, and he knows you're probably going to jump at every opportunity to see him.
If he can't be @r$ed to phone or spend time with you regularly, make sure you are having fun yourself! Date other men, as long as this dude hasn't made a clear commitment, don't make one yourself. You'll only get hurt if you do!

The best way to remedy this is to not be available all the time anymore. If he phones or wants to meet, tell him you got another thing to do. Don't make it up, actually make sure you get a full agenda and by no means reschedule anything to accommodate him. He'll have to learn to fit into your agenda and that you're not available at his every beck and call.

And one more VERY important thing: Stop worrying if he's really into you, and start thinking if you are really into him!
Do you really want to be with a guy who treats you like this?
If you're still dating, he should be on his best behaviour, so go figure what it will be like if you'd be in a relationship with him!

And vice-versa!!!

Agreed!

150% AGREE!!! OMG...If he wants you, he will make time even in his busiest hours...I guess he wouldn't be that busy the whole 24 hours?? doesn't he sleep or eat...can't mix gasoline with water....maybe what he wants is just plain fun...just saying though...