I feel the same

Well, your friends here seem not to care. You go and break hearts then. Your friends will give you a pat in the back and perhaps even blame the woman for being insecure. You go, doc!

Party on...

The forums are fun but I could see it being a issue if your new mate has a problem with it, I mean it is a dating site. I also agree that people post just for fun and its harmless,but if you truly are trying to make the new relationship work and it is causing problems the by all means stop it, the point to being on a dating site is to date, maybe you could invite her to join the forums with you whats good for the goose is good for the gander or maybe you could come out as a couple and change your profile to in a relationship just here for the forums like a few others do.Myself I would need a real serious talk with my partner about the perimeters of our relationship and if she had a problem with it then I would deactivate.

Exactly! You're an honorable man, jacktrades




Yes, I agree with your suggestion. But RustyKitty had already suggested this and this was the OP's nonchalant reply....



Definitely not a caring person. Poor woman!

Well ... speaking for myself only ... you know I can be quite blunt and give you a good pile of chit when the occasion calls for it, lol. But I know you can handle it and I'm not talking out of my r****m either.
And yes, you're right, you can be on Mingle to simply have some fun and socialize. Sure some innocent flirting happens, same in real life. But there's flirting and there's flirting. One is crossing the line, the other is not.
If according to your standards you aren't crossing the line, fair enough. But you gotta bear in mind that for most people's standards -which would likely include a woman you're seeing- it IS crossing the line.
And you're a smart bloke, I'm quite sure you know this too. So it's a matter of different standards and/or needs in life. How you deal with it is entirely up to you.
You either do whatever it is you want or you do it secretly and risk her finding out and getting very upset cos you hurt her. Or you clean up your act because you care about the woman.
We can't make that decision for you. What most here think and would do, should be pretty clear by now.
Don't take it personally. I still love you. From afar of course.

This is not an issue for me since I'm not meeting anyone to date.

What? All this posting in the forums etc...is just plain innocent fun...and does not really mean anything. Dang! wish someone had told me this earlier....I was in the ring buying mode already....Phew! dodged a bullet there junior??? Dante Dante...

There Goes The Answer.....watch out ladies

Ha Ha Ha....I like this...Hmmmmm....I'll do it for your sake if you like....lolzzzz....

This is turning into a train wreck..lmao
I am out...

I am enjoying this thread....Lolzzz....Bring it On!!!...Gosh, I will start my day with a smile.... Thanks Guys....

Ha ha ha ha ha....Man they are all over youuuuu....Lolzzzz...You're the one in the Frontlines Now, Ready to be put on a Firing Squad...

Don't let them pull you down, though I disagree with you with regards to your view about girlfriends and commitment, I surely support you on your view regarding being here on the dating site or any dating sites for that matter even if you are already in a relationship because every person has his own need, as written in the "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs being:

1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep.

2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, stability, freedom from fear.

3. Love and belongingness needs - friendship, intimacy, affection and love, - from work group, family, friends, romantic relationships.

4. Esteem needs - achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, self-respect, respect from others.

5. Self-Actualization needs - realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences.

Now we fall under No.4 and No.5; and the dating site falls under the same category too as a person fulfills his or her esteem and self-actualization needs by these categories.

Now, here is my view regarding relationships in question while still being on the site. As it is explained above regarding a human's need (again Need, not Want) and so if I have a boyfriend and he strips me off for example not only from a Dating Site and with other things that is close to my heart, of things that which I enjoy doing and so I will put in Question His Love For Me and I will be having second thoughts on his real intentions ...because We Are No Kids...We have a Mind and Conscience that helps us to choose What is Right and What is Wrong (If ever temptations comes in)...and there is the Issue of Trust...If you both truly love each other, give the freedom, whereever he or she may be, you know in your heart that she or he won't do anything that could hurt you both and ruin your relationship, You did not get on a dating site to find a prisoner do you??, I don't intend to be put in an invisible shackles as well. This is not about being disrespectful;it is way too far... This is about Who You Are!!!

And Yes, it is best to fully inform your partner how this dating site works for you, so he or she will fully understand you and be able to get into your shoes as well. True love always Have Room For Understanding...

So ponder on these things and People Don't Make You...You Make Yourself, remember that...So Be Who You Really Are...Stand Steadfast On Your Grounding Principles in Life and Be Happy!!!

Phew!!!! I think I Sweat A Lot On this Issue...Lolzzzz...Have Some Hanky???

All I see is a bunch of people, that didn't comprehend the fact, that the OP said "started to date".
He never said "exclusively seeing" the woman for a relationship. And as it has been pointed out by a "moderator", this site was more of a social experience than a dating site when many of us joined.

So with that said, No1, "YOU" have to decide if it's worth the hassle.

what did you do???? hahahaa...

I can understand her hesitation to be honest. I would probably feel a little off myself. I say one thing is to change your profile, say you are happily involved only looking for friendship, and online for forums only. May put her mind at ease. New relationships are always rocky and full of doubts at first.

I can understand her hesitation to be honest. I would probably feel a little off myself. I say one thing is to change your profile, say you are happily involved only looking for friendship, and online for forums only. May put her mind at ease. New relationships are always rocky and full of doubts at first.

Annnd.. I'm sucked back into this topic again.. ..lol... all I am simply saying... dating or not dating anyone perhaps family and friends. .
Give you a hard time for being on a dating..(*((( social site))))... heck even my sister gives me a hard time...
She will say, there's lots of women around you locally to date..!! Sooo why are you always on this dating site??... I try to explain to her I'm not on here for the dating aspect of this site... I go on it for the funny chit chat on the forums.. she just looks at me and says but but but it's a dating site..
.. I say to her the same thing I'm saying to all of you..... it's a social site as well get over yourselves....lol.... what I'm really saying is
if somebody asks you to stop doing something you really like... regardless of what it might be..
As long as you're not hurting anyone..
.. do they really have the right?..
And yes they have the right to ask...
But it does and would make me feel very uneasy...
Like if someone told you to stop seeing one of your friends just because they don't like them...
Or maybe stop eating chocolate ice cream just because they don't like chocolate ice cream.....

.. so when someone asks me to stop..
Chit-chatting with all my friends on the forums... just because they're uncomfortable with it....well.. that's what's at the core of the topic... some of you have your own topic rooms on here.... a photography topic for instance... now what happens if somebody you meet tells you I don't like that you have a photography topic on a dating site... I think you should deactivate are never go back into that topic again..?.... what next?? this person gets to tell you how to dress..
What and what not to eat...
Where to go who you can and can't see...ohhh.. wait a minute this is beginning to sound like being married....lol..

Ahh gotcha! Well - it's your life, your own business :P No one can tell you what or what not to do. If they give you a hard time about it tell them to kiss your *** lol.

..yes.. in a roundabout way exactly my point... they should trust that I'm not doing anything to hurt the relationship.. I'm simply fulfilling one of my needs...lol