Thank you.
I didnt even remember I had this profile up.
xD
So I doubt it'll be a problem.

Good that is the way it should be.

I am so looking forward to being in your town in July... Spending a whole month there. all around the state actually

The only unwritten rule of online dating...if you have found a match, delete your profile or de-activate or hide your profile, its the honest thing to do....Otherwise, the grass is greener syndrome will persist....u can always come back if things dont work out...just saying...

I agree with you adivorcedone

Thanks, somehow I knew you would think like that to..


I am thinking if there are going to be any more, who agree...at least in principle ???

I myself wouldn't want to look at others but others might not have the same thought

I am thinking no one else....dang players....lmao...

I personally would not deactivate as I enjoy the forum, but I would indicate in my profile that I am in a relationship and only here for the forum.

And I would adjust my email settings so that I couldn't receive any mail.

And I personally have no problem with him going through my account if he wanted to.

Thinking about the LAUNDRY...

Call me any name in the book....but if I was to find myself in a "forever" relationship, and lets be clear here, that will be the last relationship I will have time to cultivate...yeah! due to time constraints....you know , I dont plan on living forever, I would not waste another second dancing around these forums. Dont get me wrong I luv this place...but I luv her better...So yah...profiles deleted and lets begin the living in the now....baby......just saying...

A Kiwi huh! Dang you dont get enough credit sometimes...unless you play for the All-Blacks huh.....But you expressed my sentiments exactly, nicely put...I salute you for that....

Now I am thinking about that flag dress again....where did she take it of and leave it...hmmm!!!

Now I am thinking...is that pole at full or half mast...or is it hidden away...to only come out the next Kiwi celebration...

Those funny familiar forgotten feelings . . .

I am going to disagree my friend...
I would stay out here knowing that I would have no problems giving him my password.. Heck he could answer the spam mail for me save me some time.

He would also know without a shadow of a doubt that I was totally his.

I have made some great friends out here. and I enjoy them.

The only unwritten rule for all couples that should be mandatory as far as I see, is the rule of TRANSPARENCY.

All other rules comes down to whatever a couple MUTUALLY decides makes each other comfortable, and people's comfort levels are often affected by their past relationship experiences .

My last boyfriend had been cheated on in his past, and consequently gave me my first experience with the demons of insecurity and suspicion.

First he had an issue with me meeting in public places with my male best friend which I understood and I ceased.

Then he started having a problem with me dancing with men other than him, although he belonged to the same dance community I belong to, where everyone dances with everyone else regardles of relationship status. So I minimized that too to alleviate his fears.

Then he had an issue when I received texts in his presence, and wanting to be transparent with him, I let him see my messages from males and females, but it still left him on edge even though he admitted there was nothing inappropriate there.

My point is this ...

If I cut off all emailers , and clearly indicate my relationship status in my profile, and give my partner access to my account , and he is still suspicious with all that transparency, then I will be on edge wondering what other parts of my life I will have to eclipse to alleviate his fears.

I have never cheated before. Nor am I suspicious or possessive by nature, and will allow my partner to maintain his habits prior to our relationship WITHIN REASON & TRANSPARENCY, and I will never choose to be with someone who doesn't allow me to do the same.

Again I really think it is up to the couples' personalities , their past experiences and their mutual comfort level.

Big shout out of thanks to all the ladies who disagree....on this subject...remember you are on a dating site and as of date, you are still listed as single, but not available??? ironic.......


" Don't play hard to get, Play hard to forget"......just saying...

This is not merely a discussion about chatroom behavior or "play" D-one.

This is a much larger discourse about what a couple MUTUALLY decides are their relationship boundaries.

Even if both parties agree on deactivating their chatroom accounts, other issues regarding boundaries will have to be addressed as well

eg. Will other social media accounts need to be deleted too ? eg facebook, twitter, instagram etc?

What are the rules of engagement regarding hanging out with friends of the opposite sex?

What are the rules regarding texting and calling habits of friends and acquaintances of the opposite sex. etc.

All of these things have to be discussed and negotiated very early in a relationship.


It is also important to observe how our partners react to our everyday dealings with the opposite sex to guage if their expectations are realistic with our lifestyles and personalities.


That's why it's important to choose someone with compatible values regarding relationship boundaries ON THE WHOLE.

No one should assume that because they have strong convictions on certain boundaries that their partner will feel the same way and conform.

I am watching home and away. It got me thinking about the legacy one leaves when they die.

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