what are you reasons for bailing out of the dating race?


taking time to heal from a bad break up?

too busy?

too burned out from searching?

takes too much effort trying to get to know someone?

I opted out real young, high school, because
I found I really would rather read a book.

Some things do not change :-)

not rich or good looking enough is my excuse!

I haven't really bailed out, for me it's more that I really don't like all the dating to-do.
I have kind of forced myself of late to get more involved in at least chatting and if there is a possibility to date, to go for it too.
But I just never liked it much. Not even when I was 18-20ish. Not after my first divorce either (35ish).
I like dating once I've met a really nice person, but all those meet and greets...
I can socialize, talk to just about anyone (couldn't when I was younger, it's a thing I've learnt as I got older, more confident etc) but I still prefer contact with ppl that I know over chatting with basic strangers. Which is what 'meet & greets' are.

I've always hated "dating." It's always seemed to me to be a carefully orchestrated form of self-torture. Expensive too. And the amount of work involved to set each arranged get together...aich.

I like regular life. Nice, relaxed, regular life, with not special dressing up, no schedules or gifts or practiced banter. Social beliefs and common practices make it excruciating.

Mate-hunting is obnoxious, embarrassing for almost everyone. If I didn't actually like women, I'd have completely sworn off it forever when I was twelve.

Unfortunately, I've wanted a female mate since I was about six, so I'm stuck. I have to steel myself and go back to the terror and the grind periodically.

bingo !!

for this reason or the other
sooner or later
the result is always the same
why would i let myself go through all that pain again?
no thanks.

I feel myself making a 1001 excuses as to why I do not date


I am a mother

ok uh lots of parents date

I am too busy with work and school

how busy are you really?

you don't have time to eat?

you got time to cruise the internet

or watch tv..

uhhhhhhh...

so what is it really cause that's a bunch of bullsheeeett


it's not the hour for the meet and greet I cannot squeeze into my life


it's the endless ongoing weeding out process that comes before that

Well I think I would like to be with someone again. I have a commitment to take care of my father.

Nothing kills the mood, like when you mention that you are taking care of your father during a date. Got tired of people saying, you should put him in a home. My commitment was made when my mom was passing.

So for now, I work, take care of my dad, and hope for the future.

you have a very big heart Rob

Good Man Rob... let em kick rocks if they don't get it

i think i will date with someone whom i do not love
of course he has to be someone nice and i have to have some kind of feelings towards him but i really do not want to get involved in the "love" part
that is so risky
the other way is safer.

Life is so unpredictable B. You could very well end up falling in love with that man you are intending to date casually

I hereby second that motion

yeah
do you remember we have spoken about this happening to me before? the one at my university years. the ugly one, who looked like a best model "in time" lol
yeah i am very lucky, it may happen again :(

(i was supposed to sleep and i am still supposed to sleep lol )

I haven't bailed out of the dating race. I LOVE dating!!!

But it's too exhausting for me to be dating people with whom I have incompatible life goals, values, or lifestyles.

Compatibility has been the number one challenge in my dating journey thus far

I have not quit!!.. I have just simply stopped being the one doing the pursuing .. I believe the universe will bring her to me... and hopefully she will be holding a sandwich ..lol..
Maybe a peanut butter and banana sandwich..

...just too much going on ...perhaps this summer things will improve

I am now seeing this. :)

Yes . I remember the university guy you told me about lol.

And I totally agree. you may be very lucky in that regard.

Let's keep our fingers crossed babe!

I wanted a break from relationships as one ended badly so stayed single for a while then I thought the time was right for me so I started looking again that's my story xx