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Edited by
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Mine is adjusted to each person. I like the forums. Doing 10 to 20 notes a day is distracting from the real fun. Most notes are "Hi, can we meet" Not much between the ears 
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Profiles where the general questions haven't been answered are my pet peeve. I'm not aware if it's common amongst the men's profiles but it verges on the norm with most orofiles I view. When so many women claim not to have the time to respond to all the mail they receive. Maybe more should endeavor to complete the aspect of their profile. I'm fairly sure most men would prefer to save themselves the time and embarrassment of crafting a well thought out letter to a woman. Who when wearing her favourite heels on a night out will tower above him etc? It is also very common for men to not answer their profile questions as well and it makes me roll my eyes every time. . And no. It is not that the woman doesnt have the time to answer all of her mail. What she doesnt have is the mental energy to do it. I try to respond most of them. Its EXHAUSTING. Half of the men send follow up emails asking to be friends or to give them a chance. Cut us some slack please  . I spend more time sending gracious rejection mail than I spend looking for guys that I might like. Few women want to put themselves through that 
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress  A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. |
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Edited by
VioletTigress
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Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for.
He could always go for quality over quantity. A copy/pasted line probably isn’t going to get much attention, let alone a response. Ask a question about something in her profile, or comment on her photos, Thast might get be more likely to get a response than “hey beautiful.” Just a thought. |
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. ive learned it makes no differance either way . For over 2 years now ive written a genuine email instead of a generic one with a very small handfull of exceptions. Ive even tried several differant profile 'about me' descriptions. Be it a short sentance or a novel it seems to make no differance. Maybee i have too many kids or not enough muscle. I dont know. But I do know it has yet to make a differance in how much or how little quality is put into any of it. |
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Edited by
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. Trust me hun... I am just as irritated as you are when I see yet another " Hi. How are you?"  I started this thread to vent my frustration over it in fact But it never hurts to view things from another person's perspective and the reality is that SOMETIMES the guys dont get responses because the women dont find them good-looking enough or suave enough, no matter what they write. I am not asking any woman to respond if they don't want to but I am just saying that there's no harm in putting ourselves in their shoes once in a while and being more understanding
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Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for.
He could always go for quality over quantity. A copy/pasted line probably isn’t going to get much attention, let alone a response. Ask a question about something in her profile, or comment on her photos, Thast might get be more likely to get a response than “hey beautiful.” Just a thought. I agree. You are preaching to the choir I am just suggesting that sometimes no matter what a guy writes, he will be rejected by women because the women dont find them attractive or suave. Nobody is telling you to answer emails that dont impress you. I am just suggesting that it doesnt hurt for us women to put ourselves in the guys shoes once in a while and be a little understanding
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. ive learned it makes no differance either way . For over 2 years now ive written a genuine email instead of a generic one with a very small handfull of exceptions. Ive even tried several differant profile 'about me' descriptions. Be it a short sentance or a novel it seems to make no differance. Maybee i have too many kids or not enough muscle. I dont know. But I do know it has yet to make a differance in how much or how little quality is put into any of it. Dude ... I tried lobbying on your behalf. Don't think I succeeded but I tried! 
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No biggie. The last two years kinda speak for themselves. And yeah the suave factor depleats over time. Starting to like single honestly.
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Wed 01/27/16 07:35 PM
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. ive learned it makes no differance either way . For over 2 years now ive written a genuine email instead of a generic one with a very small handfull of exceptions. Ive even tried several differant profile 'about me' descriptions. Be it a short sentance or a novel it seems to make no differance. Maybee i have too many kids or not enough muscle. I dont know. But I do know it has yet to make a differance in how much or how little quality is put into any of it. I don't know how long you have been doing the online dating thing. I've been in it a little over 10 years. I've learned a lot over the years. Back when I was looking I got many dates. I also got ignored when I wrote someone. But the main thing that I learned was the reason so many men get ignored, well, I hate to say it, but for the most part, it's men's fault. I come from a site much larger than this one. But I figure it's the same problem on all. Men chase too many skirts. The great majority of men on dating sites take very little time when it comes to who they write. They will write 20, 50 women in one sitting. What I'm trying to say here, women get a lot more messages than men do. Women, for the most part, take their time. That is if they write a man at all. While men are writing one woman after the other. Because women get so many messages, it lures them into a faults sense of security so to speak. A lot of them begin to think that they are so desirable that they can take their pick of any man they want. Women get so many messages that many of them get ignored. And it's really all because of men. If a lot of them would learn to take their time. Be a little more picky. Don't chase every skirt they see and be just a little less desperate, they would get more dates. I spend more time sending gracious rejection mail than I spend looking for guys that I might like.
If you stop and think about it, this sentence says a lot. I mean no harm here. Much respect. But this sentence proves my point too a degree. You reject a lot of messages. And that's OK. Just saying, if men would just be a little more picky and didn't write so much, maybe men who do write would get an answer. You understand what I'm saying here? If women didn't get so many messages, if the playing field was more level and women got messages like men do, I think more of men's messages would be answered. |
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Profiles where the general questions haven't been answered are my pet peeve. I'm not aware if it's common amongst the men's profiles but it verges on the norm with most orofiles I view. When so many women claim not to have the time to respond to all the mail they receive. Maybe more should endeavor to complete the aspect of their profile. I'm fairly sure most men would prefer to save themselves the time and embarrassment of crafting a well thought out letter to a woman. Who when wearing her favourite heels on a night out will tower above him etc? It is also very common for men to not answer their profile questions as well and it makes me roll my eyes every time. . And no. It is not that the woman doesnt have the time to answer all of her mail. What she doesnt have is the mental energy to do it. I try to respond most of them. Its EXHAUSTING. Half of the men send follow up emails asking to be friends or to give them a chance. Cut us some slack please . I spend more time sending gracious rejection mail than I spend looking for guys that I might like. Few women want to put themselves through that i can only hope to be faced with such a dilemma. |
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. ive learned it makes no differance either way . For over 2 years now ive written a genuine email instead of a generic one with a very small handfull of exceptions. Ive even tried several differant profile 'about me' descriptions. Be it a short sentance or a novel it seems to make no differance. Maybee i have too many kids or not enough muscle. I dont know. But I do know it has yet to make a differance in how much or how little quality is put into any of it. I don't know how long you have been doing the online dating thing. I've been in it a little over 10 years. I've learned a lot over the years. Back when I was looking I got many dates. I also got ignored when I wrote someone. But the main thing that I learned was the reason so many men get ignored, well, I hate to say it, but for the most part, it's men's fault. I come from a site much larger than this one. But I figure it's the same problem on all. Men chase too many skirts. The great majority of men on dating sites take very little time when it comes to who they write. They will write 20, 50 women in one sitting. What I'm trying to say here, women get a lot more messages than men do. Women, for the most part, take their time. That is if they write a man at all. While men are writing one woman after the other. Because women get so many messages, it lures them into a faults sense of security so to speak. A lot of them begin to think that they are so desirable that they can take their pick of any man they want. Women get so many messages that many of them get ignored. And it's really all because of men. If a lot of them would learn to take their time. Be a little more picky. Don't chase every skirt they see and be just a little less desperate, they would get more dates. unfortunately MOST men do behave that way, and it ruins it for the rest of us. |
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Profiles where the general questions haven't been answered are my pet peeve. I'm not aware if it's common amongst the men's profiles but it verges on the norm with most orofiles I view. When so many women claim not to have the time to respond to all the mail they receive. Maybe more should endeavor to complete the aspect of their profile. I'm fairly sure most men would prefer to save themselves the time and embarrassment of crafting a well thought out letter to a woman. Who when wearing her favourite heels on a night out will tower above him etc? It is also very common for men to not answer their profile questions as well and it makes me roll my eyes every time. . And no. It is not that the woman doesnt have the time to answer all of her mail. What she doesnt have is the mental energy to do it. I try to respond most of them. Its EXHAUSTING. Half of the men send follow up emails asking to be friends or to give them a chance. Cut us some slack please . I spend more time sending gracious rejection mail than I spend looking for guys that I might like. Few women want to put themselves through that i can only hope to be faced with such a dilemma. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence my friend. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Trust that ...
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Hello VioletTigress 
*I notice you restrict your heavy mail volume. I think it's 38 to 48, ok! So that hot 37 year old is out! Oh! also the great 49 year old is out! mmmmMMMM * 50 mile limit? wow that is about 20 minutes away! That is a small area. So the great guy at 51 miles is out? Wow! You could just walk the area saying Hi!As it is sooooo small in this great big world!!!___________________ _________________________________________________________________________ I was going to send you my form letter with all the right blanks filled in and getting your tough feed back would have been great!! * But, yup the But, I'm not close (50m) nor the age you want, ok! I have been given the hint! mmmmMMMMM I guess
All the Best  
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Profiles where the only photos are those taken in a studio shoot which clearly have been airbrushed.
Photos which are taken from extreme distances so you can't actually tell what the subject looks like. Profiles where they state they're looking for someone attractive. Yet they've no public picture of their own on display. I could go on lol. |
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting. Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?
If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time. ive learned it makes no differance either way . For over 2 years now ive written a genuine email instead of a generic one with a very small handfull of exceptions. Ive even tried several differant profile 'about me' descriptions. Be it a short sentance or a novel it seems to make no differance. Maybee i have too many kids or not enough muscle. I dont know. But I do know it has yet to make a differance in how much or how little quality is put into any of it. I don't know how long you have been doing the online dating thing. I've been in it a little over 10 years. I've learned a lot over the years. Back when I was looking I got many dates. I also got ignored when I wrote someone. But the main thing that I learned was the reason so many men get ignored, well, I hate to say it, but for the most part, it's men's fault. I come from a site much larger than this one. But I figure it's the same problem on all. Men chase too many skirts. The great majority of men on dating sites take very little time when it comes to who they write. They will write 20, 50 women in one sitting. What I'm trying to say here, women get a lot more messages than men do. Women, for the most part, take their time. That is if they write a man at all. While men are writing one woman after the other. Because women get so many messages, it lures them into a faults sense of security so to speak. A lot of them begin to think that they are so desirable that they can take their pick of any man they want. Women get so many messages that many of them get ignored. And it's really all because of men. If a lot of them would learn to take their time. Be a little more picky. Don't chase every skirt they see and be just a little less desperate, they would get more dates. unfortunately MOST men do behave that way, and it ruins it for the rest of us. Hmmmmm... In the grand scheme of things both men and women have been on this site for years, who are genuinely in search of a relationship and haven't found the right match yet. That tells me that this is not a MALE issue. Both men and women are trying their darndest to figure this relationship thing out . Many of us here are divorced and wounded and jaded. For all we know, maybe most of us are not ready for a relationship yet and the universe is giving us some time to get our "ish" together. Who knows? But I am determined to enjoy the journey. I hope everyone else is too!
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My biggest pet peeve is how come guys can be shirtless in their pictures and women cant? That is sexist and I am all for women's lib!
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Edited by
peggy122
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My biggest pet peeve is how come guys can be shirtless in their pictures and women cant? That is sexist and I am all for women's lib!
Actually , the site is very considerate. They know that if you guys got one look at some of our less than stellar boobs , that you guys would need trauma counseling. I am 40 man .Gravity is NOT kind to women. You heard it here first...
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