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Edited by
ErotiDoug
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"Huh??? Was I supposed to look for my colour under a listing? I'm soooo confused what" _________________________________________________________________________ That statement is exactly my feeling on the "people colour" (thing?) "Perfect"! ** There are places and people that if You and Yours, said to them " we are coloured ". They would say to you and yours " yes, you are " and laughingly point to a tree saying "that is coloured" and then to themselves saying the same again. They would have no understanding of your thoughts. * You would be a couple that speak strange (funny talk)and big Fun!!! |
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"Huh??? Was I supposed to look for my colour under a listing? I'm soooo confused what" _________________________________________________________________________ That statement is exactly my feeling on the "people colour" (thing?) "Perfect"! ** There are places and people that if You and Yours, said to them " we are coloured ". They would say to you and yours " yes, you are " and laughingly point to a tree saying "that is coloured" and then to themselves saying the same again. They would have no understanding of your thoughts. * You would be a couple that speak strange (funny talk)and big Fun!!! Well it is not something I am sensitive about, whether people call me black or coloured or brown or Arican-Trinidadian. As long as labels are respectful. I am ok with them 
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I have noticed some Profiles will say "coloured only" (I'm a colour) haha!
Also that is exclusive language. Do they want English, French or Chinese haha or do they want ??? Is that a Jamaican (you know it is coming) Ummm they come in all colours also. haha! ** Also the Profiles, mandate a colour selection. It is 2016 duuu |
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Edited by
ErotiDoug
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Mon 01/25/16 10:00 PM
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Well it is not something I am sensitive about, whether people call me black or coloured or brown or Arican-Trinidadian. As long as labels are respectful. I am ok with themsmile
___________________________________------------------------------------------ *I would think Caribbean or Trinidadian is somewhat closer, correct!. Also colour neutral. * As you say, black or coloured or brown or Arican-Trinidadian. You would also have to include white, asian and maybe many others. Even with a DNA test. * In historical context, will the future be thinking "colour"? We know it cannot, just look at the mixed dating in today's world. Can you prove, we are not genetically connected. I can prove we are! (so add whitish to you list) haha! and 200+ years ago we (family) had a ship down in your area mmmmmmm (not saying more on that) haha! 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bPiM0fkqSo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUaL5vlYLh4 |
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I love a blank profile or ill tell you later,Iam like really? thats some lazy chit,,,LoL Yep! It impresses NO ONE! I think you need to know something about a person before you can take an interest in them, saying ill tell you later is such a turn off,, I always worry that people like that when actually given the chance to tell me later , ACTUALLY have nothing substantive to say This might not work for everyone, but when I was about to create my profile, I wrote what people thought of me as a person and what I thought of me and what I'm looking for, and cobbled those together with my interests. Sometimes we're the worst judges of our own character, the best critics are those people who know you (close friends, family and relatives). I then dictated my thoughts on to my iPhone using the Notes app and I typed out my final draft into Notepad on my computer. When I was satisfied enough to put it in the appropriate box on Mingle2, I copied the text and pasted it in to the text box on Mingle2 and posted it to the site. That entire process took about 4 or 5 days, mostly during my free time. I've since edited my Mingle2 profile here on Mingle2 about 5 or 6 times since I set up my profile. (including changing my location from Montana to South Dakota, since I moved). I honestly didn't know what to put on mine at first, so I browsed around, asked others offline for suggestions and did a little bit of online research. Again, being the self-critic, I don't think my profile is the world's greatest, but with some effort, I'm happy I put something substantive in my profile beyond "I'll Tell You Later". Yeah. It is almost as if when the person couldn't even put the effort into filling out a profile, that it registers somewhere in my brain that he won't put the effort into getting acquainted with me. I admit that is judgmental of me, but its a visceral reaction that I have. EXACTLY! It's like if they're not going to put any effort in to writing a profile, there's a good chance they're not going to put any effort in to a relationship. The reason I look for profiles with some information in it, is that it gives me a starting point for creating a conversation beyond shared interests or compatibility. For example, if one of her interests is classic movies or the TV show "Seinfeld" that would be a whole chat conversation in itself for me, as I find both to be entertaining and relaxing. And there's a pretty good chance when the next step comes, of binge watching classic movies that we both like or "Seinfeld" episodes. |
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1 / M2 Listing of Ethnicity , I find the options strange. * Mine is - White / Caucasian. * peggy122 is – Black / African descent. * butribu is White / Caucasian **An ethnic group or ethnicity is a category of people who identify with each other based on common ancestral, social, cultural or national experience. Unlike most other social groups, ethnicity is primarily an inherited status. So I guess “butribu” and I are closer on inherited status, as that is the only idem that is close. Even though I may have Jamaican parents. (maybe?) ** Culture is the more important factor and much more interesting fact. 2 / “ Looking for : Black / White “ ??? The other day I laid a sheet of typing paper on our large black stove. Placed my arm across them both, guess what ! I’m not black or white. Maybe I did not get the numbered colour chart ? I found this: http://www.empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com/cultural-color.html ** Culture is the more important factor and much more interesting fact. * Culture is inclusive 
* Colour is exclusive 
Doug, you can just call me "tribu" i didnt know that the nickname was sth unchangeable lol or u can call me just "B" like Peggy is doing, i like that too :) OMG... Sorry Doug! I somehow missed this comment on my phone. Yes I agree with you. Culture is a way more uniting force than colour. Great observation! 
------------------------------------------------------------------------ Doug, you can just call me "tribu" i didnt know that the nickname was sth unchangeable lol or u can call me just "B" like Peggy is doing, i like that too :) _________________________________________________________________________ *tribu is like a common used word here "tribe". As in " I buy my cigarettes from the Mohawk Nation tribe" (no taxes  ) haha! The letter "B" might work except every women with a "B" may get upset at what I say 
*The thought of your space program being/using turkeys, might upset the SPCA. Mind you they might be cooked by the time they land. "Dinner" 
__________________________________________________________________________ *peggy122 avoided the colour listings questions. Just because she is shopping / hunting for a colour tint mmmmMM number 69 (I guess?). Best to let that one slide. haha! :)
ok u call me anything u like lol when did i say that, i have to check my postings. it must be ur idea. it was the turkish guys sending the burek to space, that is what i wrote. or did i write sth else? were i drunk ahahah have to go back and check whatelse i have written 
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Well it is not something I am sensitive about, whether people call me black or coloured or brown or Arican-Trinidadian. As long as labels are respectful. I am ok with themsmile ___________________________________------------------------------------------ *I would think Caribbean or Trinidadian is somewhat closer, correct!. Also colour neutral. * As you say, black or coloured or brown or Arican-Trinidadian. You would also have to include white, asian and maybe many others. Even with a DNA test. * In historical context, will the future be thinking "colour"? We know it cannot, just look at the mixed dating in today's world. Can you prove, we are not genetically connected. I can prove we are! (so add whitish to you list) haha! and 200+ years ago we (family) had a ship down in your area mmmmmmm (not saying more on that) haha!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bPiM0fkqSo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUaL5vlYLh4 Society has a need to put people in categories doug. It doesnt just apply to race. Its applies to class, sexuality, educational level, body structure. Grouping things is how we are wired to make sense of all the millions of concepts in the world and all of these groupings are inclined to have a divisive effect on society but I agree that racial grouping is themost divisive. With regard to the racial preferences that people announce on their profile, i see nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their preferences from the colour of hair to the colour of skin to a person's height. That just comes down to people's personal choices
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Edited by
peggy122
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Tue 01/26/16 07:30 AM
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Yeah. It is almost as if when the person couldn't even put the effort into filling out a profile, that it registers somewhere in my brain that he won't put the effort into getting acquainted with me. I admit that is judgmental of me, but its a visceral reaction that I have. EXACTLY! It's like if they're not going to put any effort in to writing a profile, there's a good chance they're not going to put any effort in to a relationship. The reason I look for profiles with some information in it, is that it gives me a starting point for creating a conversation beyond shared interests or compatibility. For example, if one of her interests is classic movies or the TV show "Seinfeld" that would be a whole chat conversation in itself for me, as I find both to be entertaining and relaxing. And there's a pretty good chance when the next step comes, of binge watching classic movies that we both like or "Seinfeld" episodes. Well said. I think some people are just losing the art of conversation. or maybe people are not quite sure how to break the ice and then make the transition to animated conversation. I am not sure what the problem is , but something seems to be lacking in communication today. We have more channels for reaching each other than ever but after we access the person, it seems like we dont know WHAT to say or possibly HOW to say it 
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh
i guess that is sth good :) |
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh i guess that is sth good :) The fact that he took the time to read your profile at all is something good lol |
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh i guess that is sth good :) The fact that he took the time to read your profile at all is something good lol yes, definitely true, and i thanked him of course lol |
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh i guess that is sth good :) The fact that he took the time to read your profile at all is something good lol yes, definitely true, and i thanked him of course lol 
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Angry pictures, ghetto slang, bashing of the opposite sex, use of terms like "king," "queen," "princess," "diva," "knight in shining armor," etc.
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Angry pictures, ghetto slang, bashing of the opposite sex, use of terms like "king," "queen," "princess," "diva," "knight in shining armor," etc. I suspect that the slang you refer to will appeal to people who share similar backgrounds and that some will find those royal names cute although they dont appeal to either of us But on a different note, I haven't seen any gender bashing in profiles thus far. I'm curious if there are many cases of it
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh i guess that is sth good :)  eh! Hi B (easy to type) :)
* Wise decision on your part!  Too find a guy that you can make happy online. WoW, will he be super happy when you meet. His big smiles in the morning, what a charm
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Angry pictures, ghetto slang, bashing of the opposite sex, use of terms like "king," "queen," "princess," "diva," "knight in shining armor," etc. 
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someone sent me a mail saying that my profile made him laugh i guess that is sth good :) eh! Hi B (easy to type) :)
* Wise decision on your part! Too find a guy that you can make happy online. WoW, will he be super happy when you meet. His big smiles in the morning, what a charm
Hi Doug :) i really am impressed that he sent 1 mail to say i made him laugh, and no harassment afterwards. very cool !! i am a funny person in real life, yes. but my anger times are quite stormy as well. has to find a place to hide lol lol lol |
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Profiles where the general questions haven't been answered are my pet peeve. I'm not aware if it's common amongst the men's profiles but it verges on the norm with most orofiles I view.
When so many women claim not to have the time to respond to all the mail they receive. Maybe more should endeavor to complete the aspect of their profile. I'm fairly sure most men would prefer to save themselves the time and embarrassment of crafting a well thought out letter to a woman. Who when wearing her favourite heels on a night out will tower above him etc? |
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So instead, they have one standard line that they send out to everyone? That, or copy/paste a letter that they’’ve used a million times. Hint: Most women can tell. It’s insulting.
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Edited by
RebelArcher
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Wed 01/27/16 04:12 PM
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Oops...ignore...wrong dang thread!
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