Hi Goofy!

I know many recovering alkies...
Just a few sites you might try if you need a LIVE chat "not" threads. And they also list hourly meetings for when you are in a pinch and can't make a F2F.

Recoverychat.com and Stepchat.com Check them out and "Keep going back"

Good luck

oops one man isent worth getting drunck over...

Oh and Congrates on your 5 months thats is something to be proud of for sure.

yeah congrtulations

i was taught if i have 5 problems and i pick up a drink
now i have 6

Amen and Kuddos to famarrs post! Very nice!!!!

what does blowing you off mean? that he doesn't want you anymore? funny thing is that you were looking and found him try getting yourself together it was a bump,you'll recover. we all know that never going to find someone feeling but, just when you least expect it there they are.your beautiful and i'm sure that you won't be alone for long. 5 months fighting for sobriety is great, if you have the will to fight that you can fight anything. hang in there talk with your friends or family get out and walk the mall go see a movie but don't give up on yourself.

exactly dont get hubg up on this thing

congrats stick with it i just reached 2 years 6 months

Don't let anyone determine your self esteem especially a man whom apparently cares not a wit about your feelings.Put on your big girl panties and deal.Booze will just make it worse so hang in there and go for six months.

Because I am dually addicted I know I must practice these principles in all of my affairs because I can addict to anything. I have to remember that this too shall pass; That if I use alcohol or drugs in any form that I begin the same insanity all over again; That sometimes I am but a symptom of the disease; That drugs can be anything that I feel powerless over and once I realize that powerless then I am being honest with myself knowing that once again I don't have to do it by myself because there are fellow addicts and alcoholics who have been through something similiar which helps me to find the power of powerlessness because all I have to do is to admit the problem is greater than me but not greater than the group. Then I don't feel unique or like I have to do it all by my self and not long afterwards I am one with the group. I can then feel the power of the group.

well, five years is a lot. I am a drinker but just havent had many negative effects from it. Maybe you should go jogging or something. But, one hr at a time, like he said, may be the only choice. He could be blowing you off for any reason in the world. The first four times someone blows you off and you cant read their mind, you wonder daily what they are thinking, then finally, you just know you cant control it. you cant read peoples minds, and a lot of relationships end because people expect you to.

Hey Girl: I'm in recovery too and I've been sober for 15yrs. please listen to me honey -- no one is worth picking up for. I know you hurt and I know it sucks but taking that first drink is not going to change things; they will only get worse. I'm glad you went to a meeting today and I know this sounds corny, but did you pray and ask God to do for you what you can't do for yourself. Do you have a sponsor and did you call her. You know what they say -- pick up the phone before you pick up a drink. I don't want to preach to you hon, but my sponsor always taught me -- "to thine own self be true". I pass this on to the women I sponsor. Please don't take that first drink. If you want to talk privately, please, please contact me. Hang in there honey -- and you're in my prayers.

You have done great!!! You have so much to be proud of. Don't regress your efforts because of a passing thing. Yes, you will miss him, even women who have batterers miss them when they are gone. We form connections and when it is gone for any reason we grieve. You are grieving him, it is okay to be sad and mad and feel bad. You must remember, he did not define the person that you are, You are still the person who has done a wonderful thing for herself in getting and staying sober The pain is temporary but the work you have done for yourself is life long and life giving. I always get a hobby when getting over someone and do alot of housework and exercising and reading, stuff to keep my mind busy. I stay away from the reminders as much as I can. It will stop, the pain that is, and you will be very glad you came out of it sober. I am a recovering co-dependent so that is where I get my knowledge. Hope it helps.

Goofy...HANG IN THERE!

Work the program. 5 months is to be celebrated. I raise a toast of coffee to you.

I'm here if you need to talk as are many of us. Don't be isolating. You are allowed to be blue, but we want you around us...happy, healthy and sober.

Luv ya, M

Just take it one second at a time, if you can go this one second wthout a drink, you can go the next, and so on.

Listen to Hillfolk(Roy).

He is one of the most articulate, intelligent posters I ever had the honour of verbally playing with.

Not just here, but on the "other" site.

We all respected Roy for his insight and his honesty.

Thanks for coming back Roy.

Its always a pleasure.

my grandfather just died a few weeks ago from alcoholism. his father, and his father before that died from alcoholism. my father is starting to drink more than he should, so it's a thing that runs in the family... I've got to be really careful about my future...

call it the curse of the Irish I guess. we all had addictive genes.

Duncan, young poets just kill me. November 11 will make twenty four years for me in clean time and sobriety. Since I have written a lot of poetry they think I am something. This 15 year old girl from the UK asked me to read some of her poetry. It is freaking beautiful. I like her latest quotes. "I keep walking back to the one thing I need to get away from." I never knew my type until I met you." I am beginning to wonder if some women were just born Alanons. I know if I have a real problem with women I go to the Alanons for advice because their preamble states that the insanity affects the whole family.

(((goofy)))

Hang in there!