I have this friend who got tired of listening to me bytch about being lonely. She was telling me about this girlfriend of hers who keeps having trouble with the man she likes because he is married. She put in a good word for but the girlfriend said nah I was too old. I am thinking ok this is starting to sound like a version of Goldilocks and the three bears; My porridge is too cold or my porridge is too hot. So last night she was telling her half sister that I was single. By this time I am starting to wonder how many friends my friend has.

sounds like your friend is in the matchmaker business

Yeah, that was what I was thinking. The other day she chewed my ass out for being unsociable. I asked how her husband was doing and she said, "Aw, he is such a grouch." You would be surprised how many women whether with boyfriends or married have told me to slow down and not to rush back to work because they don't want to sit outside by theirself during the breaks. I just love the bytch sessions and they have helped me a lot.

I have been set up twice... both times it turned out badly... obviously my friends do not know me as well as they think.

I have friends who know me too well. One of my friends who is a nurse told me to be careful when talking with this new aide because she has a jealous boyfriend. I think it is cool when friends watch each others' back like that.

And now for some male nonsense...
Run from friends who try to fix you up!
Leave peel out marks in their driveway!
Cause a rush of wind and even the pop of a sonic boom as you make your quick exit!

Do not let them do it. Even if the person turns out to be totally great, your friend will now decide to become your surrogate parent. And if their friendship fails, your friend will expect you to break up!

If the relationship bombs miserably, your friend will be stuck in the middle, which is a sad place to be...unless they like gossip! Then double beware! Unless of course you thrive on teenage drama!

If the relationship explodes in a ball of flames on the 1st date, then your friend may think you are not being kind enough - and that you have to get to know them. In any event, you have still put your friend in the middle of something that you do not want them in the middle of.

On the otherhand, if you do not like this friend and you are trying to get rid of them - nothing like a setup to give you a good excuse to hate them forever :)

Try my hardcore christian aunt... keeps trying to get me to go out with these 'really cute christian boys' UM... I have no issues with other religions, but in my experience a hardcore christian guy will only try to convert me... and will most likely turn away b/c of my chosen religion of Paganism... I prefer to meet them first without anyone knowing anyone's religion, let them get to know me, then if my religion bothers them oh well. Most people are very poorly educated about other religions, so they tend to think you're some insane devil worshipper if they hear your wiccan/pagan...

Good points. It made me think of the scripture, "Get behind me Satan." Because if Satan really does exist then I would wonder if I would want him behind my back or in front of me so I could see him coming. Stalkers, who needs them? I am beginning to like critics better than stalkers. Atleast with critics you can see them coming.

i have more trouble with my mother trying to find "suitable" guys for me...

I really don't think my mother knows anyone that crazy who would be a good match for me.

Unless it was my ex, of course, but then my ex and me got where we really never got along after a while.

My mom's been really great about not trying to set me up, she knows that I do that on my own terms. Her taste in men always have creepy mustaches.... I HATE mustaches! They remind me of Hitler... I would probably trust my mom to set me up, because if she thought a guy was good enough for me, then she must think VERY highly of him seeing as how I'm her baby...

Here is a good question I asked at work one day: "Does insanity run in your family or does it walk?"

It runs through every vein in ever member of my family...lol! We're all just a tad bit crazy, but in a fun way.

I love spending time with one of my sisters at reunions. We always find some way of getting away together at family reunions and escape together because we both came to the same concluion that we just handle being with these crazy people for so long.

My friends set eachother up - not me. I think I laughed at them too many times when they failed the setups and exploded. Well, we were all younger, back then. Thanks to your question I asked a couple why they never try to set me up. Half of them just laughed at the question, and the other half asked me if I was feeling OK. In that "We don't understand - were you replaced by a pod person?" kind of way.

HAHA, apparently I'm doin okay with nobody settin me up. You should SEE the cutie that I talked to yesterday, we'll be meetin up soon. He just lives right across the bridge, not 20 minutes away at best. *wHOOT* does the "I still got it dance"

Hill, I have two friends like that. Wonderful people, and I love them both dearly, and I've known them forever, but their ability to pick a suitable girl for me is matched only by their abilty to throw an elephant through a brick wall.

It gets difficult, though, when your matchmaking friends' entire social circles are constructed entirely of women who are 32 and married and have 2.4 kids.

So then they start trying to introduce you to people like "I don't really know her all that well, seeing as how she's the cousin of the girl who babysits on Tuesday night and I only met her once and that was for 3 minutes." OK....

But I pretty much ONLY meet people through other people, so....

Maybe there's a website where you can find people to fix you up with their friends?? Now THERE'S an idea!!

I don't think it is about the people helping you out why it didn't worked out, it is the people involved or giving it a go that failed. There is something wrong with them haha kiddin'...but not kiddin' about the part where its the people involved. You didn't click for whatever reason and its ok, these things happens

I have never set anyone up, nor have I been set up. I have however introduced people who I thought would be a good pair, but not telling them my intentions, it has worked by them connecting themselves, and the others they werent interested, but there was no pressure on them from me. :) I just had a dinner party!