Why does it sometimes feel romance is a chore? Why don't females don't like kissing and other things

I'd rather be refereed to as a woman not female but that's just me romance does take some effort but should be enjoyable not a chore as far as kissing check you breath first total turn off kissing someone with bad hygiene consider carrying breath spray if that's an issue

romance happens in the heart and mind,, if its not there, 'advances' are simply not 'romantic'

and yes, exciting ones heart and mind does take effort, but when the results are rewarding, it shouldn't feel like a chore

Lol my breath is not an issue the last girl I met didn't like kissing and it felt like we were just a hookup than a relationship. It wasn't exciting and it got stale

I agree with that and relationships should be fair and exciting everyday

I would definitely move to Texas for you baby!

A more comprehensive list of what you believe constitutes "romance" would be helpful.

Based on what you say here the best inference that can be made is "romance" = "foreplay."


Other than that, is it romance feeling like a chore?
Or are you just frustrated it's not reciprocated in the manner you desire.
That's not clear.
And there's a big difference.

This is my understanding

Men are like microwaves can be turned on fast, bang it's over

Women are like crock pot. Slow cooker.
You want a really good sex life start the crocpot up when she wakes up in the morning.

Ps if you are tired the next day it's not my fault.

Your right it should be reciprocated back to me because I make sure the woman is pleasured before me. Let's be fair ok

I definitely get the slow cooker hot, but why can't she do the same for me! Selfish and I don't mind if it's a couple of times I don't get what I want, but I always have to do it for her. What about me?

double..

Maybe you should try romancing a woman for a change?
Woman can detect a guy who's after sex only a mile away. If you're not willing to invest in us, just want to take, why should we bother to please you? If that's what you want, pay for it and find a prostitute.
Oh, and stop the nagging. Very mucho not appealing

whatcha mean ya want me emotionally vested in this relationship?

aww baby can't ya just bend over the desk or bend a knee whenever I want ya to?

ya mean I gots ta listen to ya yap at the mouth too? awww man relationships are hard

I'm not just after sex even though a hook up should just be a hook up. But I put my Time in and I care for this person and treat them well and wish for a future with them but their sex selfishness turned me off. Is it to much to ask for a guy to get a little pleasure from the mouth.

What?

What crap, you've gone from trying to say you're a romantic dude into a sex maniac in about 6 or 7 posts.
The trouble with your type is that you think people are as thick as yourself.

In your case you might have the best luck with these for pleasure for your mouth:

Sounds to me that you are not sexually compatible..she doesn't like to give you a bj, but she likes to get one herself; she's not into 'necking'.. everyones' sexual tastes are different, but if a partner cannot at least try to be accommodating, then perhaps its time to move on... - IMHO

You can do all the things, but that doesn't mean there is an emotional connection.
Like I said, women sense when a guy only wants to take, only wants sex. Holding open a door, paying for dinner or saying the right words are meaningless when their only goal is to get a BJ and/or sex.
Maybe treat women as human beings and be respectful, genuine. And if you can't muster that, go see a prozzy. Then you can have all you want.
And if you do want a meaningful connection, sorry to say, you got to do some serious working on your attitude problem.

Sounds like two conversations going on here. One is how to treat a woman, so she becomes more romantic, and the other is how to get a BJ from a woman. I find a woman becomes more romantic, when she isn't pressed into a sexual encounter and that you have built a caring and comforting relationship with them. Then the romance will come.

For just expecting a bj after you started the oral first, then sounds like you have a woman that is a taker and not a giver.