I really don't want to hear about it. Why the hell would I? Well, I guess that I want to know if you've got baggage. Huh?

Not really. If I want to hear a sad story I'll go and speak to a homeless person.

I've done it as well. Your friends even start to get pissed off with you when you go on and on about it, so I try not to get into it with them now and when they ask me why I'm single I just say that my last girlfriend was a nutcase and try to leave it at that.

gosh golly gee
your threads always just have an upbeat chipper and happy ring to them
makes me smile just reading them
brightens my day

I have to agree though. It's like, take care of all that drama in your life before you put yourself back out in the dating scene again.

That's a great suggestion...i wouldn't want to talk about her anyway

the person is not quite finished with their last relationship or is processing it and being able to listen can be helpful and instructive , By listening we are offered a glimpse of what was going on emotionally physically, and spiritually, all useful to help determine the best way to support the other person and helps facilitate the healing process. The other person is helped to work through their pain and can draw them closer in the sharing by the listener for helping with emotional support . This can lead to a connection in what might otherwise seem a difficult conversation.

Woa there. Crap. She's not quite finished with her last relationship. *RED FLAG* *RED FLAG* *UNAVAILABLE*.

She's looking for a nice guy to work her issues through with. I think that I've been down this road before.

Always keep a can of this with you when you go on a date.

this makes no sense.. in another thread you commented that you kept going on about your past to your ex to a point where she didn't want a relationship with you..
there is a pattern and a circle here..
You are doing it, and you are getting it done to you..

a little is ok
just to fill in some one the past and get to know her better
but all the time <face palm> makes me take a step back

I went on first date with a guy who spent the whole night
talking about his ex wife and everything she ever did to him
the entire length of their marriage

I just don't get that
it's as if there is some unwritten code
that states : when two divorced people meet
they must discuss in detail why they are now divorced

Glad to see that you're just about keeping up there.

Yes. That's true that I did say in another thread that I kept going on about the past to my ex. Never really wanted to talk about previous girlfriends with her though. I did let it slip early on that I smoked Marlbro lights because that was what the girl before her smoked but I didn't want to talk about that anymore and I changed my brand.

When I go on a first date, the last thing I want to do is talk about exes. I find that it is the guy that always brings it up. All I want to know is that they are not married. A first date is supposed to be fun. When a guy is asking about an ex, I answer briefly and try to move on and change the subject.

of course not on a first date,, but eventually when we are past the impressing each other stage and into the REAL stage, I would like to think we can share our histories with each other,, good and bad, to get a better idea of what has influenced our lives and values,,,


but that's just my preference , when it comes time to be 'intimate', its more than just laying down together...

I agree with this 100%

As long as when you move on, it's by bringing your lips a lil closer to mine

Well, my ex told me all about her past. How she had traveled the world and how her daughter was born in America. She told me about the custody battle but didn't really talk about the guy. She didn't want to talk about him and she just talked about what she had said to her daughter about how Jesus was watching over her and that everything would be alright. She also mentioned one or two other guys' names and where she met them but didn't really talk about what they did together. She just said that she had been lucky to have known some nice guys in her life and wasn't interested in telling me all about them and I didn't really want to know as long as they were history.

Ha ha

And that's woman dear. They dig out everything from u. Beware

I'm with you , lol I hate EX drama , don't want to hear it, don't want to be compared to her....

Sometimes people need to talk. Not good on a 1st date but after that they might feel a need to tqlk