Thanks Annie! That made me laugh! I bet you & your neighbor will laugh about that often.

Thanks Texasgal! I love hummingbirds and sparkles.

I have to take a break from my medical care this month (complicated insurance issue). I figured about a loophole to get around the problem starting Nov 1st. I'll get chemo that week and resume. I really needed a break anyway, it is a rough treatment. I don't ever post what I really go through.

Both of my child supports stopped at the same time because my ex husband and exfiance coincidentally both changed jobs and the state has to reestablish all the payroll deductions. Yes, I was in a relationship with not one but two douchebags.

I finally got my medical supplies after 3 weeks past due. That took about ten phone calls.

My douchebag defiance (who I thought we were starting to get along better) attacked me verbally on the phone because I asked him to please give me a proper schedule for visitation since he is unable to follow the court order. It causes stress on a child not to have a predictable schedule. I've been asking for 2 months. He treats me like his babysitter/daycare and expects me to be at his beck & call if he needs to cut his visitation short and return our son to me. I of course oblige as the mother but he gets angry if I don't return his calls right away; I nap and go to doctor sometimes. He got so angry that he asked if I was fit to be a mother because I was so sick. He said I was not. He was sceaming at me. He said he was going to take my son away from me and take me to court. He said many other things that were very ugly and hateful. I was crying and confused but I told him to "Baaaaaaaarrrrrrriiiiiinnngggg IT ON! I will gladly go to court with my family and my doctor and all the world will know what a douchebag he is by the time I'm finished! He hung up on me. (i didn't call him a douchebag on the phone - I was civil) Lol

1/2 he later he called me back and was crying & apologized saying he just got laid off. I said I just need a schedule someday please. He said he has no one to talk to. I said I have to go now as I've got a medical scan in the morning to see the size of my tumors. I said being a single parent is hard. It will get better. Said goodbye...I was in tears but did tell him he really hurt my feelings and said really evil things to me and accepted his apology.

I hung up the phone and immediately starting vomiting. That happened Tuesday nite. But I feel better now!

My dad told me to hang up the phone next time. I didn't because I just wanted a schedule for our prescious little son. So I suffereds thru it. My mom, who doesn't cuss, said to tell him to f*** off. My parents are not so forgiving.

Oh yeah, and the state cut my food assistance by more than half because my daughter moved back home & they include her income from making sandwiches at Subway. Lol!! Luckily for me I am resourceful and can live off of a nickel if need be!!! Lol. Everything in life is temporary!

Sorry for the long never-ending post. I feel better just writing it down. Don't feel sorry for me; I don't feel sorry for myself!

Self-Pity by DH Lawrence

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.




I'm not proofreading...don't feel like it. Lol

all around!


for all the douchebags!!!

That is a lot to deal with. Does your daughter help you out ? Hello to the rest of your family.

Ex's can be a pain that is for sure I'm not always as civil with mine and they can just live with it lol. Really though it is better to get along with them to a point at least when the kids are involved.

I hope that things get sorted out soon and that your days wont be so full of stress. I hope your chemo gets sorted out your starting again November 1?

Glad to hear you're doing better. As far as monsieur douche, don't sweat it. A barking dog doesn't bite. You'll forgive me: I laughed when you said he called back crying. Sending trucker MOJO for when you have chemo.

It is kind of funny actually to have a grown man crying like a baby to you. I was thinking, seriously???

Thanks for the MOJO!!! I'll remember that!

My daughter helps me by talking, super supportive, helps with errands; But she is just starting out working, budgeting, college and such so at the end of the day I could never ask her for financial assistance. Her income just looks good on paper but she has her own struggles and bills.

Yes, I always try to be civil. It's all about the child - this does not click for some women & men. I tell my children they have great father and none of the bullcrap.

I do start back 11/1.

Thanks!

Awwy give em hell girl~~

It is sad that he has to be so hateful when you are going through so much.. I know life sucks at times.. But you are a very strong woman in my eyes.. You sure make me see what all I have to be grateful for..

Hopefully one day he will see what he has done and said.. In the end your son will see who was there all the time and by his side.. I know my kids did. Now they have a great relationship with their dad, but there was a lot of heartache on the way for them to get there..

Just keep being the strong woman you are but never forget there are times we all have our times we break down and wonder if we can deal with anymore pressure.. You got this girl... We are all here vent anytime you need too, it does the soul good....

That is good you and your daughter are able to talk and help each other :)

Awesome she is going to college what is she taking?

I agree! The children see it in the end on their own. Even when they start down this road of realization I just confirm to them that he is their father, not perfect. And add that neither am I.

I didn't cuss or call him a name. I was proud of myself. I wanted to..........lol. I thought it bizarre he would attack someone going thru chemo. He has no clue!

I was afraid to vent it here. But I'm tired of being afraid of things.

1j9b6c5 said it best...his bark is bigger than his bite.

It felt so good when I told him to baarrriinngg it on!! Cuz I stood up to him.


Thanks for kind words!!!!

My children are my rock!!! My exdouchebag called social services on me last year just to be an @as. The social worker interviewed my three kids individually and then said to me that she had never come across children that loved their mother so much. The case was closed. Douchebags never win.


My daughter has not decided on what path she is taking yet. She is interested in marine biology, and veterinarian.

What a huge jerk off your ex called family Services on you ? Good the case is closed I would have taken him to court for harassment or something. Your more understanding then I am.

Your daughter taking her time to decide what to do in college is a good idea those two are good choices . Be interesting to see what she decides.

I advised the social worker that he made the threat to me of calling social services and left it in their hands.

He was being real nice to me recently, even brought me some sarma. It was yummy. So thoughtful. I thought he had changed but I don't think so now. He was just playing me. I have to just be smart about things from now on. I think his tearful apology was just more playing me. I think he was drunk when he called me. Sad for him..he's just not happy. I used to think it was me but we broke up about 4 years ago and he still has these violent outburst. At the end of the day I don't think he would harm a flea.

Abusive people are cyclical.


Yeah, I told my daughter to take her time and find something she loved to do not something that would make her lots of money. The money always comes later with hard work and dedication.

❤

My prayers are coming your way girl!
Pray, have faith in healing.
Just
believe

Well the weekend is coming up I hope you can relax and enjoy it. It is 12:59 am here so I am wishing you a good Friday morning before I go to bed.

Thank you!

Me too. I'm gonna crash. It was a nice chat. Thank you!! Have an awesome weekend!

((( Tulip )))


Sending love and light...

Hey Tulip
I was sprinting up its hill at boot camp.
I got this major cramp pain in my calf muscle. It was painful my trainer was helping me by rubbing it and straightening the leg .
It was so painful.
To be honest all I could think of was I am so glad I shaved my legs and they are smooth.


It's a hard life being a female.

Like the Jew Lady said: Discarding D-bags, throwing them away when they are peaking in their careers - not a good idea.

Love that! Super awesome! Just like you, baby!

That completely cracks me up, Annie!

Thanks always for the funny stories!!