I have been on here a few months ..wondering your thoughts on this one..


for instance there tend to be more of us in the late thirties to say upper fifties group

we are divorced, never married, some are parents, grandparents, some are in relationships and some are married but yet we all come in here to chat

statistically, there are many young people who are single parents, divorced, never been married.

I do not see many posting on the forums..
why?

then there are those who are looking for an intimate encounter and not a relationship..
if they are not interested in finding their true love
are they still allowed to partake in the conversation?


or perhaps someone who is bisexual, trans gendered,or homosexual
are they welcome to mingle?

All are welcome.

I think the younger ones are more..instant
gratification and less chatty.

sometimes it's kind of intimidating.
it's a bit difficult to chat when it feels like everyone else knows everyone.

I read a lot of what's posted but stick to certain forums, mostly the games because I feel like I don't have much to say.
perhaps there are others who aren't quite sure where they fit in??
I'm just speculating

I don't think anyone is invited, just not automatically denied.
But ultimately it's kind of like the bingo parlor.

No one is really "invited" to play, but people go in and see a sea of blue hairs and scent the lilac glade bathroom spray perfume and go seek out something more inline with their tastes and identity, more relevant to the culture with which they identify.
Sure, you'll get the occasional younger person playing for fun, but they are going to be lost in the granny ocean.


Same reason why neighborhood bars tend to gravitate towards the neighborhood regulars and older people.
There are many young people who like to drink, but you don't see them there.

Forums turned into the replacement to chat rooms.
Chat rooms were for the older generation.
Younger had facebook, and texting, and mobile apps.
Forums, and their structure, are easy for people used to things like chat rooms.
Facebook conversations, texting multiple people at the same time, mobile apps and "multitasking" from the phone are easy for people used to that.


"Allowed?"
I think they simply aren't denied, but they'd rather spend their time trying to find someone to hook up with.


IMO/IME like attracts like. It's why Obama is changing HUD rules to force diversity into neighborhood planning.
I don't think they are unwelcome, they just aren't going to be as successful here as they would in a place that focuses on having available what they want, they aren't really specifically catered to.
Do you buy your electronics from Forever 21?
People go wherever they can find the most of what they want, with the highest chance of success.

I think a lot of younger people are more into the social scene then us older ones.When I was younger I never was on a dating site because all my friends where single and doing stuff, now everyone is settled so I indulge here.

Well, I see mingle like a party where you should go around and do just that, mingle. Now, at a party, there would be all types, people looking to hook up, couples who've separated for the evening to work the room, people who are just there to have a nice evening but not really looking to meet anyone. It is the combination of these people, with their differing view points that make the party interesting. Not only should they be welcome, they should be encouraged.

Now, at this party there would be people who've know each other a long time and probably new people the host invited so they could broaden their social horizon. They should be welcomed, but not be wall flowers, don 't be shy, just go around until they find a conversation that interests them and join in.


Most parties are aimed at a particular age group, and I agree that Mingle seems to keep those approaching or in the middle age bracket. Could be younger people show up to the party, get greeted by a lot of 40-50 somethings, figure this won't be their kind of party and leave.


I also think there are LGBT specific sites and though they are definitely welcome, they may prefer to party elsewhere.


Sorry, that was a bit long winded.

yes^^^^^and it takes all kinds to make a mingles party,you have the little kiddys that come on here just to start a thread that says HEY BABY,like thats gona get them layed LOL, then we have the ones that jump on long enough to play ALL the games just one time till almost all the thread posts are games,then log out for two hours,then come back to do it all over again, love that one,then theres the me want a white girl thred,I think most are not really wanting to or are ready to date,so the forums are a great way to past there time,I know i enjoy them most of the time,

sure

hmmmm all good answers to think about..



I have tendency to believe that behavior which is reinforced with a positive response has tendency to occur again

that which is met with a negative..not so much

That's ok darl'in, you just sit down...here's a drink.....and some of them horse divers that's been going round.....and you have yurself a good old think

The rest of us will continue a mingling



Hey, waiter, where you going with that drink tray?...

I think, like others have said, that the younger peeps simply have other social outlets. Those of us who are older tend to have more things going on in our lives physically, so online forums are our "downtime" ways of chatting/socializing. This certainly does not apply to everyone (so please don't shoot the messenger), but just my opinion of what I see since being in online dating sites.
I actually came to this site back in 2010 because it had a Widow/Widower forum, but that seems to have disappeared when I came back in 2014. There are true widowed peeps in here as well, even though the scammers have kind of taken that over like the engineers

hahaha ya no worries as usual I plan on it..oh and don't call me darling..

All are invited but the cops be watching

LoL

I have been here a long time, What I have found is all are welcome, this site goes through phases, where people are more friendly and chatty and then times when it is a bit more quiet.

I think for some to come out on the forums it can be really intimidating for some. The trail by fire so to speak isn't for the faint hearted. It takes time to find the groove of forum posting style all of your own.

I still look at mingle as it was way back when it was "just say hi" a place to come, have some laughs with friends, make some wonderful friendships, I had no desire to find a relationship and we know that happened. I think for a lot of us it is a place to unwind and "mingle" kind of like the cocktail party where we chat and move to the next group of friends and continually chatting and bonding more with some than others.

I do think we all make up a part of mingle that is important in its own way.

I agree with most of the things said so far. I would also add that the older someone is,the more life experience they have. So they are more likely and more capable of joining a forum conversation.
I reckon the Intimate Encounter types have a look,but they are looking for something more instant and gratifying.
As for gay/homosexual,i'm not sure. We do have some lesbian ladies that post on the forums,but i'm unaware of any regular gay men. I don't really know why that is. I like to think that all are welcome,but we all know that in reality,there is still a stigma attached to some peoples gender preference.

Well said my angelic Kiwi friend haha...Hi Blondey

Wait a minute!!. we were supposed to get invited!. to be on here? dang dang I'd better go check my mailbox again ,I don't remember getting an invitation .. damn if I can't find the invitation do I have to leave?

As far as I'm concerned, this is a "DATING" site. Everyone who is on here and messaging is looking for someone. Even profiles that say they are married, I assume they want to date if they write to me. I have a choice if I want to write back or meet them. If someone doesn't want to tell they are in a relationship, that's not my problem.

as someone who has been single for less than a year, i have no experience at all with internet dating. it's been a very long time since I dated at all. i think it is nice to have somewhere to chat with other singles.