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 I only ask because this girl I was talking to schooled me pretty good. I wish I could copy and paste her texts, but I won't do that. But one thing she told me was this, "say you hate when I roll my eyes at you, then we're at a party, and I roll my eyes, you might whisper in my ear that you're going to punish me when we get home, then you have to follow through, you can't let me get away with it, I'll laugh at you." Lol. So even though she may be her own person, and not bow down in public, the whole time, 24/7 I have to make shore she's not breaking the rules, and punish her if she does. So I asked her, "do you ever break the rules on purpose?" She said, "of course I do." And all this was non-negotiable btw |
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It wasn't for me, but we're still friends, maybe I can ask her for advise for you
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So I'd i understand correctly, and I'm pretty sure I do, in reality it's the sub who's really in control
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we can take turns on the spanking..lol Mmmm ... I must admit I enjoyed using the flogger the other day 
Tease with the velvety soft fingers over your back and botty .... then alternating soft and hard whacks ... Maybe ... May I ask, is this a lifestyle for you, or is it just on the bedroom? I know there's a very wide range of bdsm relationships and how extreme it can get I was doing research for my book ... |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Fri 05/29/15 03:11 AM
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So I'd i understand correctly, and I'm pretty sure I do, in reality it's the sub who's really in control When it comes to the crunch, yes. . . |
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In reality it is the sub that is in control in most situations.
People like to think they are in control, yield the power , make the decisions , are the leader but you are only as good as the people you try to dominate and often they are stronger, they control weather you succeed or fail, and often they can do a better job if you just get out of the way. |
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It will depend on you whether you tolerate a particular dom to "keep you in line". Strong independent women are usually naturally drawn to a real man but a sassy mouth independent woman is another matter. Being sassy and mouthy is dominant behavior, so very few doms will be attracted to those traits. An alpha female wolf dominates the whole pack but is still submissive to the alpha male. If she tried to boss him around, she would be kicked out on her own. She may say that the alpha male couldn't handle her but in reality, she just doesn't have submissive traits.
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There is a difference between being sassy and sarcastic and being mouthy and disrespectful..ya feeling me? A woman can be intelligent and witty and have a sense of humor without degrading or insulting someone. I hate these terms but ...an alpha male and an alpha female are often times an ideal match because they understand one another and there is no need to compete
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There is a difference between being sassy and sarcastic and being mouthy and disrespectful..ya feeling me? A woman can be intelligent and witty and have a sense of humor without degrading or insulting someone. I hate these terms but ...an alpha male and an alpha female are often times an ideal match because they understand one another and there is no need to compete Indeed ... both the D & s can be totally 'alpha' male & female in day to day life, yet within their D&s relationship, she can be totally submissive. Submissiveness comes in various forms... Some are more slave-like, others can be sassy, and everything in between, or all in one. Some Doms won't like a sassy subs, the ones that do, will get their Dom-mode switched on by their sub's sassy behaviour, which is exactly why she displays it. It's a play between the two of them that both can appreciate, enjoy and find arousing. Doesn't mean that she gets what she was trying to get with her behaviour, because he is still the Dom and he decides what she gets. And sometimes she gets nothing, which is both highly annoying and arousing. |
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Ok get up at 5:00,make my breakfast,kneel and send me off to work.
Diners on the table,She goes to the garage and grinds three chains for the next days work. Provocatively parades around scantily clad, takes it rough spontaneous with spanking hair pulling and asphyxiation while working up to a big O. I could probable grind my own chains Do we want to much? |
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Ok get up at 5:00,make my breakfast,kneel and send me off to work. Diners on the table,She goes to the garage and grinds three chains for the next days work. Provocatively parades around scantily clad, takes it rough spontaneous with spanking hair pulling and asphyxiation while working up to a big O. I could probable grind my own chains Do we want to much? For someone who's into that, no. For someone who isn't, yes. Also, I said, 'Dom type of man' and kinda explained what I meant with that ... 
Long time no see, Pony!  
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Hey Crystal, I found a Dom for you:
Dom DeLuise He's the type which you seek... right? 
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Ok get up at 5:00,make my breakfast,kneel and send me off to work. Diners on the table,She goes to the garage and grinds three chains for the next days work. Provocatively parades around scantily clad, takes it rough spontaneous with spanking hair pulling and asphyxiation while working up to a big O. I could probable grind my own chains Do we want to much? For someone who's into that, no. For someone who isn't, yes. Also, I said, 'Dom type of man' and kinda explained what I meant with that ...
Long time no see, Pony!
Yes..I know,I read your rectifacation, I was just using your platform to spew. It was all about me realy...lol I was just playing around. Some things are appealing but not nessessary.I suppose if sexual behavior dictated how I 'picked' girlfriends and I was looking I would be advertising somewhere for just that. Attraction dosen't start in the bedroom,it end in the bedroom.
"Sex is like pizza anyways,when its good,its real good and when its bad..Its still pretty good.IDK.I guess there is more variables for woman To be satisfied I will tell you..Ive been with a few and I have NNNEVER EVER EVER failed to please myself. .hey I'm English (Stereotype) definitely don't fit that stereotype.
For me its appearance over sexual habits Good Crystal,I'm well thank you. Hope you are also well Nice to see you. 
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Fri 05/29/15 02:17 PM
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No, I'm not talking about ropes, whips, chains and floggers ... sorry! What I am talking about, is a type of man. A strong, empowered man who knows what he wants and wouldn't be deterred by a strong empowered, but sassy, bratty woman. The kind of guy that could easily handle and deal with such a woman. And that's basically the Dom kind of guy. So someone who'd like and appreciate that kind of woman, so he wouldn't tire of her being that way. He'd enjoy it. Would simply chuckle and let her stew in it for a while or if it starts to bother him, give her a good erm... well, you know. Spanking and a bit more
May all sound a bit weird to some ... but I'm so independent and strong that I am beginning to wonder that maybe I'm just never going to find the man for me. So far never met a man that can handle me. And no, I'm not an awfully difficult person, just that I'm strong and independent. Yet I crave to find a man that can handle me. I'd need someone that entices me, captivates me, so much so that I would want to make time for him. And a 'normal' average man doesn't do that for me.  Would basically require a man who's stronger than me. (GOD that would irritate the chit out of me, lol, but it is what I need)
I'm beginning to think I'm doomed. Wondering how many other women are 'struggling' with the same thing? Yes exactly. And what both you and I describe, is what I loosely call the "Dom type". That's not a man who takes joy in breaking a woman, nor a man who needs to boss a woman around in order to feel strong himself. That's basically an insecure man, not an empowered one. And that's not what I want or need either. Needle in the haystack thing ... So you want a guy that 'can' handle you(what do you mean by 'handle?') someone stronger you than you, as with all natural 'Dom' type personalities they will want control(to varying levels) but at the same time you see someone who 'bosses' women around as weak and insecure. So what i'm actually reading is you want a man that will put up with you(no matter how bad or 'bratty' your behavior may be), one that will challenge you without 'bossing' you. Who will 'punish' you. And basically Who will do and behave exactly how YOU think HE should behave as a 'Dom' but here's a question.....if he does all things, because of YOU then isn't he the opposite of Dom and more a sub to providing the things that YOU desire? There are plenty of confident men out there, i'm one of them(yes I know every guy on here says that) but it's taken me awhile to get here, i'm not a natural Alpha male, but i have developed an inner confidence that allows me to be me and an attitude that says 'this is who i am, take it leave it' what i have learned is that 'projecting' what i THINK someone/something is SUPPOSED to be like, tends to always end badly. Now I try not to project and get to know people around me, regardless of what i 'think' they may be like...often i find out that my pre-conceived perceptions are WAY off, someone who i thought for SURE was strong and independent were the most needy people in the world, and the ones i assumed to be needy we're very strong and independent. . Basically i'd say give someone a chance who you may not have in the past, if he's not for you, leave, after all you're a strong independent woman who won't be hurt by it anyway |
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Ok get up at 5:00,make my breakfast,kneel and send me off to work. Diners on the table,She goes to the garage and grinds three chains for the next days work. Provocatively parades around scantily clad, takes it rough spontaneous with spanking hair pulling and asphyxiation while working up to a big O. I could probable grind my own chains Do we want to much? For someone who's into that, no. For someone who isn't, yes. Also, I said, 'Dom type of man' and kinda explained what I meant with that ...
Long time no see, Pony!
Yes..I know,I read your rectifacation, I was just using your platform to spew. It was all about me realy...lol I was just playing around. Some things are appealing but not nessessary.I suppose if sexual behavior dictated how I 'picked' girlfriends and I was looking I would be advertising somewhere for just that. Attraction dosen't start in the bedroom,it end in the bedroom.
"Sex is like pizza anyways,when its good,its real good and when its bad..Its still pretty good.IDK.I guess there is more variables for woman To be satisfied I will tell you..Ive been with a few and I have NNNEVER EVER EVER failed to please myself. .hey I'm English (Stereotype) definitely don't fit that stereotype.
For me its appearance over sexual habits Good Crystal,I'm well thank you. Hope you are also well Nice to see you.
Yeah, I'm fine, thanks! Good to see you back here :) And nice to know you at least always satisfy yourself, lol Just hoping you're not a selfish git in the bedroom. Feel free to not elaborate
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Being a "Dominant" type in the BDSM lifestyle is not not anything like most here are attempting to describe. A Dominant/submissive relationship goes deeper than any vanilla type relationship I've ever seen or been in.
It's not about door mats, whipping post and the like, it's intimate, endearing and a powerful bond that 2 build between one another.If you think having a Dom type to go toe to toe with then you actually have an equal and 2 Dom types spell destruction. Stereotyping of BDSM relationships is due to the lack of knowledge, if you know nothing about it first hand, not hear say or what you read, then one shouldn't make assumptions to what it really is like. Want to discuss this more?? Contact me here, if not I wish all the best. |
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No, I'm not talking about ropes, whips, chains and floggers ... sorry! What I am talking about, is a type of man. A strong, empowered man who knows what he wants and wouldn't be deterred by a strong empowered, but sassy, bratty woman. The kind of guy that could easily handle and deal with such a woman. And that's basically the Dom kind of guy. So someone who'd like and appreciate that kind of woman, so he wouldn't tire of her being that way. He'd enjoy it. Would simply chuckle and let her stew in it for a while or if it starts to bother him, give her a good erm... well, you know. Spanking and a bit more
May all sound a bit weird to some ... but I'm so independent and strong that I am beginning to wonder that maybe I'm just never going to find the man for me. So far never met a man that can handle me. And no, I'm not an awfully difficult person, just that I'm strong and independent. Yet I crave to find a man that can handle me. I'd need someone that entices me, captivates me, so much so that I would want to make time for him. And a 'normal' average man doesn't do that for me. Would basically require a man who's stronger than me. (GOD that would irritate the chit out of me, lol, but it is what I need)
I'm beginning to think I'm doomed. Wondering how many other women are 'struggling' with the same thing? Crystal, you know I love you, right?....And you know why I love you, right?...It took awhile and some great correspondence (not to mention an outstanding private reading ),,,,,but the reason I love you is because I "get" you!...I know that poetry is NOT YOUR THING, but several months ago I wrote this one and I believe it was unknowingly written for you ....It's titled "I Want A Man"....
I want a man who can see right through me and still desire me I want him strong and hard I want to wear him like skin on a hot summer day... I want a man who is uninhibited One who will celebrate my body For the masterpiece HE sculpted with HIS eyes... Oh yeah! I want a man who knows it's ok to cry He knows if life beats him down He can lay his head upon my breast and be fed... I want a man who is honest to a fault Someone who is brave enough to risk hurting me because he knows it will only make us stronger... I want a man who will stand up to me and anyone else who tampers with his happiness just because they think they can I want a man who knows exactly who he is with or without my approval... I want him to be firm but gentle when he tells me I am wrong so that we can break our last record when we come together in the heat of makeup sex and urgency... I want, I want, I want a man!... � |
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Tsk, tsk. Too bad I am already taken!!
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K let me handle you. Caring is al i need
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Like that but let somebody love u
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