If you are a man who is dating a woman, what would your next step be? How likely is it that you would have your parents meet her parents to seal the marriage deal?

Didn't have to, as my wife and me grew up together and her brother is my best mate. So both our families knew what we were like and were all for it!

In my country.... Every region has its own tradition and culture. In my region no need to bring your parents if you are matured enough to face with the womans father and mother. But if you are under age parents guidance is needed so bring your parents with you.

Have parents meet the other's parents to seal the deal?
Holy cow ... this is the 21st century!

To talk with the wedding. Lol.

Another is just meeting the parents introducing your self. No deal from here.smile

Huh??...that has never happened as far as I can remember.....well not down this end of the world anyway...

Hello mikey.... yes you can not apply that to her because you are to far away and you plan it already. There is always a consideration. smile

Of course my wife (then girlfriend) met my Mom.. and my family before we got married.

But frankly I could care less if they liked her / approved.. or not. I loved her.. that is all that mattered.

Oh sure. And let me put on my armor, jump on my horse and then serenade her in the moonlight.

At my age the parents have usually passed on, but I see your point when I was younger I would meet the parents and discuss plans if that is what my girl wanted.

Times have certainly changed haven't they ? Let's face it,marriage doesn't have the same meaning that it used to,and hasn't for some time now.Unfortunately there's a good chance that one or both parents are married again,so perhaps not necessary to introduce them just for the thoughts of marriage ?

Is it disrespectful to someone to get consent from the parents now days?

Not at all.In the old days people were more innocent and looked for the wisdom of parents.But reality now tells us that we know more about our potential spouse than our parents do.Asking for their blessing sounds better than asking for consent...

My parents have been happily married for 60+ years. I would
love to get it right like they did. I would find it highly romantic
if my guy asked for their blessing. I would take that as respect
for their relationship and recognizing how important their
wisdom is to me. Just because times have changed doesn't
always mean for the better. This tradition, IMO, could use
a come back. Individual results may vary. :)

Well sadly most people have been raised up in single parent homes, and sometimes the father (and even the mother) do not have anything to do with their children. I get where you are coming from. Asking the father of the woman you love for permission to marry his daughter is respectful, honorable and shows devotion. When I asked my now ex wife to marry me I had already asked for her dad's blessing. I didn't need to but I wanted to do it. His response was classic him. "No! I don't like you".....he said this with a smile as he hugged me.

NICE!

the marriage Deal. it is a word you did not concienciously choose, but is still a very good description.

before even thinking about it, YOU would need to sell that to me - that Deal.
What can you bring to the table, what can you contribute, what are you willing to contribute? for how long?

If you are out to Seal a DEAL, you are out to get an advantage off that Deal.

you, ma'am would be out of my life in zero seconds, flat.
There is the door.

so how likely is it to happen?
Zero percent.

Its part of culture. Unless the parents are dead and with no one of the same generation or older, or other special circumstances. If there is no formal meeting of key members of both sides of the family prior the wedding/engagement, its considered disrespectful.

WOW...even thou your marriage didn't last Goofball, that memory certainly will; amazing wasn't it?

Since my first husband and I showed 4H against each other we more or less knew our families; but I'll never forget my fathers admonishment about - 'if he can't come ask for your hand in marriage, he's got no back bone!' And that sadly that bore out to be true; that marriage last 1� yrs. I think for young people it does matter - especially for the parents.

when my ex and I were dating waaaaaay back there in the late eighties on the college campus I met his parents when they came up for parents weekend which I thought was terrifying ..was sure they would not like me.
when he asked me to marry him, he called his mother and had a conversation with her first and let her know his plans and she said
" do you want to marry this girl or do you HAVE to marry her??"
and he laughed and said I love her mom and want to..there are no babies on the horizon yet..


He came from a very traditional christian family and his parents made it til death do us part. Mine? divorced when I was five which was going around in the seventies and raised by a single parent. My father did contribute a little to paying for the wedding..he bought my dress and showed up. I told my husband is was not necessary to ask his permission, he did not raise me..you gonna have to go talk to my ma

I think marriage itself seems to be falling by the wayside..

what I see is a whole lot of co-habitation going on, especially with the younger generation. My oldest son is 22 and most of his buddies from high school who did not go to college are not living with a girl and have a kid or two..

serial cohabitation...live with someone for five, six years then break up and then meet someone new and move in