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Topic: What happend to traditions?
ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Sun 04/26/15 11:04 PM
What happend to traditions? They lost their meaning in the face of individual self actualization, specialization, and general freedom of a mobile population. If you are a man who is dating a woman, what would your next step be? To figure that out with her help/input? How likely is it that you would have your parents meet her parents to seal the marriage deal? She'd meet my parents, but they'd have little say in my decision to marry someone. Especially at my age. Their input may have weighed more when I was a teen. Their input would weigh more if I was dependent upon them for anything. Is it disrespectful to someone to get consent from the parents now days? No matter what you do if someone wants to see your behavior as disrespectful, then they can interpret it as such. If someone wants to see it as respectful, they can easily interpret it as such. Communication in a relationship is important. Hopefully before you ask her to marry you there is some knowledge of who they are as a person and when you feel a desire to behave a certain way that might affect them you have an idea how they will react. My philosophy is only marry for true love. This is why I've never married. True love is uncommon. My philosophy is only marry if you want to have and raise children. Marriage without kids is simply vanity.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Sun 04/26/15 11:09 PM
How about kids without marriage?

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Sun 04/26/15 11:12 PM
How about kids without marriage? hardship for the child. no matter how good the single parent is.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Sun 04/26/15 11:34 PM
Tradition... Since the age of 35, I've taken exactly one woman to meet my parents. My mom and dad, we very polite, very cordial, and very welcoming to the woman. They liked her, or so i thought. As soon as the woman was gone, my mom, whom in my 46 years of life, I've never heard that woman swear... Asked me in regard to the woman, "Wtf were you thinkin', bringing 'that' into your life? My dad, usually quiet and reserved, said " son, you coulda done better, draggin' a 12 pack through a trailer park". Tradition .. Yeah, there's a reason for it. And, a reason why i really never seek blessings.

tamitateo Joined Sun 12/21/14 Posts: 822	Mon 04/27/15 12:50 AM
i had a therapist once ask me if you think the opinion of your parents are so important... what happens when they are gone and you are alone?

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Mon 04/27/15 05:59 AM
i had a therapist once ask me if you think the opinion of your parents are so important... what happens when they are gone and you are alone? did you tell him that they then become internalized as part of your unconscious and at times your conscious and manifest themselves in your dreams and often times in feelings of guilt when you have made a decision that goes against the way in which you were raised? hahhahaa..therapists hate me

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Mon 04/27/15 06:04 AM
If you are a man who is dating a woman, what would your next step be? How likely is it that you would have your parents meet her parents to seal the marriage deal? Meanwhile, back in 21st-Century Western civilization ...

cheechako Joined Tue 05/14/13 Posts: 735	Mon 04/27/15 08:23 AM
Tradition... Since the age of 35, I've taken exactly one woman to meet my parents. My mom and dad, we very polite, very cordial, and very welcoming to the woman. They liked her, or so i thought. As soon as the woman was gone, my mom, whom in my 46 years of life, I've never heard that woman swear... Asked me in regard to the woman, "Wtf were you thinkin', bringing 'that' into your life? My dad, usually quiet and reserved, said " son, you coulda done better, draggin' a 12 pack through a trailer park". Tradition .. Yeah, there's a reason for it. And, a reason why i really never seek blessings. Don't keep us in suspense! How did the relationship go from there?

Friendly_Woman Joined Mon 04/27/15 Posts: 728	Mon 04/27/15 08:30 AM
Hello mikey.... yes you can not apply that to her because you are to far away and you plan it already. There is always a consideration. smile Hi :) Sorry if you think I'm being nosy. Just that you look a lot like the woman in the photo on Mikey5360's profile. Is it you in the photo?

Donjuan55 Joined Wed 04/15/15 Posts: 8	Tue 04/28/15 07:50 AM
It is rather pitiful that such a choice should be excluded nowadays. I think a blessing from whoever you came from is an honorable thing. Besides my parents were married faithfully for 23 years. That is something that does happen often now.

Donjuan55 Joined Wed 04/15/15 Posts: 8	Tue 04/28/15 07:51 AM
Sorry, should have said does not.

Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 6206	Wed 04/29/15 08:31 AM
Since my philosophy is, Better dead, than wed... Meeting parents for consent to marry, is pretty much pointless. My philosophy is only marry for true love. This is why I've never married. True love is uncommon. Love is a choice not a feeling. Infatuation is a feeling. As for the original point. I am married and have been over 2 years. My parents have still never met her parents.