Ok so here goes.. iv met someone on this site and I really like him.. he seens 2 feel d same but im scared.. im scared of being a disappointment as im not a very confident person. . "In person" as I am chatting here.. hes lovely and wev been chatting 4 like 4 months.. but im scared and keep finishing things out of fear.. any1 else like me..?

Sorry but I don't get the his expectations. Seems more of yours

Ok.. can u explain? ..

If he is on this site, don't you think he'll read this?
I agree. Does he fit into all your expectations?

He may very well feel the same way, I know I worry about what people will think of me.
Ask yourself this, what will I regret more, not trying or trying but it never worked out, and who's to say it won't work out.

Just a couple of thoughts on this, Sarah. The 1st is that you're already in a relationship of sorts - y'all have been chatting for 4 months and it's goin' well enough that you are contemplating the next step.

My other thought is, if you're worried you'll somehow disappoint him, that's probably a good thing to get his input on. If you've trusted him this far, putting your toes a little deeper into the water could be just what it takes to bolster your confidence a bit. If you're worried he'll disappoint YOU, you might want to listen to (or at least give some more thought to) those feelings. Instincts exist for a reason, they protect us if we pay attention to'em.

Think like a guy Nothing ventured, nothing gained. (If you're feeling military, you could use the SAS motto 'Who Dares, Wins' too) Best o'luck, kiddo from someone that's been in your shoes a time or two.

(How DO y'all handle these damned heels, anyhow?)

If he wants money...his expectations

If you are uncomfortable...your

Thank u.. women hate women on this thing.!.. wtf.!Im an serious.. Im not a drama queen like d 2 who commented ..thanks girlies!

I feel the same about someone for many months. I'd have to travel around 5,000 miles.

You are a beautiful girl.
Generally speaking people enter dating sites because they feel
ready to..move on.

It sounds like you have not even met him yet?
Before you meet someone in person, it is all just one big hope,
a dream that may or may not come true.

I think you should hold off all the worry until you meet.
It may settle itself.
One way or the other.

And yes, also had running shoes at the ready, simply not
wanting to invest, emotionally.

But if you never take the chance, it never happens for sure.

Probably but honestly idnt care love.!

After 4 months you should be at a stage where you both are knowing each other very well...including both of your expectations...
when we were at the 4 month mark low confidence levels were becoming a thing of the past.....
His commitment and how he displays that to you should be obvious by now...and this should be lifting your confidence....

i don't get why you think "disappointment"...

Thank you xx.. best advive ever.. from a stranger.

Meeting face to face is part of the journey into your relationship. I was scared and EXCITED when my poppashroom flew from England to New Zealand to finally meet me.
And you know what, all the fear disappeared when I saw his grin as he walked towards me. Then it was just love and excitement.
All that stressing (for both of us) and it really was like we had known each other for all of our lives.
Take a chance at love and it may surprise you!!!

Honestly... Unless you aren't who you say you are in pictures,personality etc..
Then he knows you after 4 months I am hoping you have talked on the phone at least. In doing that if a lot he knows things about you that you dont' even know. For example if something comes up in conversation and you aren't sure how to answer you hesitate in such a way that he knows by the different breathing or tone of voice.

I say if it was me and he was who I was really interested in I would put my big girl panties on and meet in a very very public place.

One of two things are going to happen. You will click or you won't...
so nothing ventured nothing gained

Think about the possibilities if you click... IF you don't click then move on and go fishing again.
Good luck