if a man isn't digging me or didn't think I was how I portrayed myself...bring it. I respect honesty (not rudeness or sugar coating though)

op just meet and greet that's it ... and at the end you say thanks for seeing me ... i don't feel you have to go into great detail of why they may have lied to you ... have a drink then say u have to be somewhere else ... I don't believe either should be insulted ... to make the break from one another ... lots end up that way lol they are not what you thought they should have looked like ... don't people have reminders on their cell to ring them at a certain time go to the rest rm and punch it in to call yourself to say run lol

sure sure in theory it sounds good..lol

. I don't mind staying for a drink..
. it's when you are about to leave and they say ..sooo... what do you think..
.hmm... now do I be brutally honest..
Nooooo...lol..
... but I know at that point no matter what I say..... they're going to know it's because of... well lets just say there weight issue..... and at that point I always feel a bit shallow..
... but then I remind myself I only came on the date because you portrayed yourself.. As being fitter than you really are....

. but still I always leave feeling like a bit of a douchebag..

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kind of why I prefer honest. Not saying brutal honesty but not sugar coated.

yes honest is nice but people rarely ever want to hear the truth..
.yes... and it's really hard to do that..
I like you! but it's the big mole sticking out of your neck... I can't get past it..lol...... not saying you have a mole.. oh god I hope you don't have a mole... I'm okay with moles if you have one really..

Jeez no1....have you been slapped too many times???

I think everyone else has had good replies and in my opinion, correct replies. And i'm going to put in my 2 cents..

If you had fun chatting with them online, in text and/or talking...then just sit at talk to them. That is if you are true in liking them up to this point. When it's over and you say I'm sorry you are very nice but i'm not feeling it and they ask why and you politely say again "I just don't think we click" then they say BUT WHYYYY....then you have the option of not having to be nice any longer.

IMO

Oh please, I have no problem saying, "thanks for taking time out of your day, it was nice meeting you, but I really don't think I am interested in anything further."

No need to point out he spent the whole time bragging about his new Lexis, boat, or rolex,and did not give me time to say howdy. Or that he was just crude.

Sooner or later he will be glad we did not continue, because I probably would have throat punched him. Oh wait, that was the guy that asked if he could crawl under the table and lick a certain part of my girly parts in a crowded family restaurant.

Lol..^^. that's a whole new topic all on its own..lmao..

I generally try to bolt, as politely as I can.

Exactly. Because if people lie or deceive, they already know they have. Why explain it ? To make ourselves feel better? To correct them? Tell a stranger how they wronged us?

Keep in mind, this is a stranger, no matter how well we think we know them. There is NO way to predict there response to the ENTIRE truth. It could get real ugly, real quick, in public, in real life with no delete or block feature.



If they are going to press for a reason why? (Which would show great insecurity).

OMG, I just peed my pants!

I would be THRILLED if a man had the balls
to say 'You are not right for me.'

Reasons:
Why say anything when not calling again does the same thing?
That would be too rude for me, and hence I would lose all
(if any) interest.

I think I would start laughing :-)
You know how you get these scammer idiots who send you an
email that asks you to send him bio info so he can decide if
you are the right scammee?
Those make me laugh, same here.

I mean, really, you think you have any say in it?
Just be a gentleman, say nothing..she will no doubt be a lady
and allow you to continue to think it was all your idea :-)

generalization alert !!

women have experience of rejection, we do

I would be THRILLED if a man had the balls
to say 'You are not right for me.' -- soufiehere




exactly !!

I'd say 'OMG, how drunk was I when I agreed to meet you'.

But seriously, I don't think I'd have that problem because I'd never meet anyone without a video call first.
But other than that, I'd ask her if she has a fit sister

I don't think you should tell them the exact reason. There's no need to hurt someone is there?
Just say what's suggested. That she's nice, you had a nice time, but you're just really not feeling it. Wish her the best etc.

Have you seriously met someone that kept pressing the issue?

This is nice, and I suppose you could always ask if they fancy a quickie so it wasn't a complete waste of time.

Yeah, that might help to get her to go! First tell her you're not feeling it, then suggest a quickie... would work to get rid of me. Of course if she's fiesty, you may get slapped in the face or kicked in the nuts, lol

Hiya (((Joe)))

FA one,I'm going to be piss for them not being straight up,and depends on how "not" straight up they be,weeellll,you just read that topic,"why do men disappear" lol,but she's off by just a little than she said or lead my to believe,I may try work it out,if not,then its freaking "Houdini!!!