Is there any distance that you would travel to meet your true love?

I was willing to meet someone from NZ by visiting him. I've had male friends who I met online who were willing to travel from different countries and continents. In the summer, an Englishman I met online on another site who lives in Thailand is going to visit me. I want to see if we are compatible in person. I believe that if you are serious about someone, distance is no object and if he makes excuses about the distance between you, then it's just a copout.

Fully agree.....I traveled 6,458 km and back for our first get together and will be going again as soon as work permits....
I know a lot of people here don't believe in LDRs but if you do you have to be willing to put in the kilometers....

I agree with you. I have a friend in Kenya and I would love to visit there.

Well, I do have conditions, lol.
Nr1 being that it wouldn't be an eternal LDR. The long distance should be a temporary situation. 1-2 years max.
I wouldn't mind moving to another country, but NR2 only if it's an English speaking country. Not going to learn yet another language.
And NR3, the man in question is a native speaker, same reason. I believe in a relationship at least one partner should speak his/her mother tongue to keep communication clear. (learnt by experience, lol)

NR4 it depends on how my son feels about it. And this is a direct clash with what I want as an individual, because I wouldn't mind leaving my country at all. Matter of fact, it would make me extremely happy, never felt I belonged here...
But ... I do NOT want to hurt my son and I know deep down he would hate to have me far away. We are very close. I've put a partner before my children before, and really seriously don't want to do that again.

I once traveled about 2,500 miles for a woman a few years ago.

For the economic reasons, I would be able to travel only within Europe, but if it wouldn�t be limited by that, distance would be no question at all for me. My cousins had LDR for about two years before they got married and in those days (about 45 years ago) there was only snail mail they could use, no skype, no emails, no cells and they didn�t even know language, just a few words. Now after almost 45 years they love each other just the same as in the beginning. Sometimes I do think what is destined is destined.

Very True!

Yes I would & I have already done it in the past....travelled 5,000 miles to be with her & sacrificed everything to be with her & gave up my luxury life & whatever I had just so I could be with her.....but s h I t happens i've moved on & got my life back & much happier now not being in love.

half way around the world. unfortunately it wasn't meant to be

perhaps if I lived in a small town and I could afford... flying halfway around the world.... just to get.hmm.. meet a new friend.. ...
.. if cost wasn't a concern... or keeping a career that you have spent years building up.... and you didn't have children..... sure why not...

.... I have women message me all the time saying how they'd be willing to move here .. but I always talk them out of it.....
. if the relationship did not work out I would feel guilty..
.... but then there is this dilemma..
. I am going through it right now..
. she came visited.... she visited again and came... I mean she came and visited again..
... but the problem is every time we're apart.. it is painful..no..lol..
. missing her is painful.. not having her around everyday..... only seeing each other occasionally..... no thank you... I suppose online has helped.. the airline industry immensely....lol..
.... so to summarize if you don't live in my city no.... and this is just my opinion.. but everytime I hear about people traveling great distances.. to be with their so called love of their life.... I always think desperation....
.. perhaps if you were travelling abroad and you met someone.. spent a week with them then sure.... but to go all that way, for someone you have never met..hmm.. me love you long time Charlie....

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It is different for all. Myself I have in the past flew to meet someone out of state. Only because they knew I would not move due to family and my kids ect.. With one of them it lasted almost two years. He actually moved to where I was then I found out the way he was on a daily bases... not the same for sure.

Would I do it again? No, I would rather have someone that lives close enough we can go do things at random and get to be around each other more.

I have kids, grand kids and all my family here with no intentions of moving...

Those that do and it works great, just not for me..

I would travle 1000 miles to have coffee with a great gal. but IDK if it really works out in the end.does'nt sound like it from others post.even if your willing to move,,,

I agree about if you didn't have a stable job, family or children , etc...it may be ok.
My last relationship was a mere hour distance away and it was NOT good. He was the one who said "let's try and I will give 50% if you give 50%"...well, it didn't quite go that way.
So, NO I will not do long distance again, and certainly NOT across the country or another country.

I would caution anyone to seriously think about committing to any relationship but a platonic friendship if there's an enormous distance factor involved.
Having been involved with someone who lived 4400 miles away from me for about 5 years;we saw each other in real time about 1-2x's a year.
Even though we spoke on the webcam with each other most every day, this cannot be compared to actually seeing & getting to really know someone, up-close & in person.
There is no doubt that had we lived geographically closer; the relationship would have broken-up-a long time before it actually did.
I'm not saying that a LDR can't work or that it can never work as too much depends on the variables involved in the particulars of a situation.
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Why Long Distance Relationships seldom work...
http://mrose.hubpages.com/hub/Long-Distance-Relationships-Never-Work
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Your article is about ppl being in a permanent LDR... quite logical that ain't ever going to work...

I agree. Somebody has to move.

I would travel to the moon and back but do not think i have enough petrol in the tank to do so. *kidding*
As long as there are no hidden genders or motives and there are no trust issues then shouldn't be a problem. I prefer living close by a better option myself

I'm not as pessimistic as many here... probably because I have in actual fact lived abroad and have been in a long term relationship with someone from another country (UK).
I think many ppl underestimate what it entails to move to another country, having to speak or learn another language, getting to know another culture. Many non-native speakers of English overestimate their knowledge of the language. You don't find out till you actually live with a native speaker and/or a country how little you really know. Being able to hold your own in another language when you have an argument, are upset, angry, have sex, want to make a point etc etc etc. And above all: being able to get the humour. Been there ... still have sex in English even when the guy is Dutch
I think the main reason for LDRs to go awry is to be found in there: Underestimating what it really means. Not only the one that moves country but also the other party. They often cannot fathom the impact, what the other has to give up nor how it will affect them. Both would need to have an open mind towards the other's culture and understand, truly understand, that there will be cultural related things that you will never really be able to understand nor share.

I remember very well the minute my British ex connected with a Kiwi woman who lived in the village as well. They COULD share things from their childhood, things him and I could NOT share.
Reminiscing about childhood stuff, songs, sports etc. Love does not conquer all when you're ill prepared.

But certainly not impossible. I mean.. my 20 year old daughter is making it work, so how hard can it be for somewhat older people with more life experience? I must admit that I'm real happy now that I have experience with it myself, so I can back my daughter up. Had to pick her up a few times when she fell flat on her face. Her expectations were too high, but I knew upfront... so I was just waiting for it to happen and pick her up again.

I wouldn't shy away from it, unless my son would be totally against it. Apart from my boy I have nothing that keeps me here. I have no roots anywhere, wasn't born and raised in this area either, so in a way to me home is where the heart is.

Why would I be serious with someone whom I have never met face to face?
Sure, some people can afford to take such a gamble, but not all people can.
However, if a woman wants to fly half way around the word to meet me, then I won't object.