using that Reform-Koran again?

Thankyou.

Hey Conrad_73...

If You've got a new translation of the Quran, I want to read it!

My father's side of the family is Polish.

After the second-world-war my father abbreviated the family name, because it sounded too Polish!

On the other-side of the ocean our family name was wiped-out.

I'll let the Mingle Readers draw what conclusions they mite from that.

If I married a Muslim man, and I'm not a muslim and I never will be, what would the rules be if I lived in Dubai with him, because citizens in Dubai are mainly muslims??

you would have to follow the female rules... Dubai is more modern and liberal than other muslim cities, tho...

What are the rules for me as a none muslim?

very strict...
http://thriftytraveling.com/going-to-dubai-better-know-the-law/

http://www.news.com.au/travel/what-tourists-need-to-know-before-going-to-dubai/story-e6frfq7r-1226683120406

Thankyou

My iPad is playing up and can't view what I need to see.

What sort of clothes would I have to wear?

And what rules would apply to me because I'm a non muslim, but married to a Muslim?

Are Arab Muslims Any different?

non muslim has nothing to do with their laws, you need to check at the british embassy and see what they tell you... i would take any/all advise from here with a grain of salt... good luck

Thanks

Dear Debbie1980,

First and foremost, if hypothetically You were to receive a marriage proposal from a Man that claims to be a Muslim, he'll have what will be a minimum prerequisite of what You-Yourself must believe in.

All the prerequisites for a Muslim to get married are in the Quran.

The first and foremost prerequisite for a Muslim to deem somebody an acceptable marriage partner is Faith.

A Muslim CAN NOT marry a Non-believer.

A person who does have faith must also not believe in any other deity other than The One True Unseen Almighty God.

A Polytheist, (Somebody That Worships More Than One Deity) is also forbidden for a Muslim to marry.

After this... All other prerequisites of faith must be pursued based on the assumption that person wants to do the True God's will.

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Caution: The Man or Woman that 'doesn't' advocate these minimum prerequisites, isn't a real Muslim.

Very interesting, thankyou.

there is your answer in a nutshell TRY. If he has to TRY to be faithful it means that in his heart.. he can not be.

I've seen my share Debbie.. I would advise against it... JMO

I know your right.

you already are!

Well Conrad, if the truth-be-known...

There are a 'few' passages in the Quran that I've actually retranslated from out of the original Arabic, as they hadn't been reviewed enough to be translated into English correctly, yet.

My slant on these texts has been reviewed by other Arab speaking Imams, and been deemed valid.

Sadly, nothing has gone-to-print and the wheels of innovation turn slowly.

upport to improve themselves in the sight of
Allah.
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said: I was shown Hell and I
have never seen anything more terrifying than it.
And I saw that the majority of its people are women.
They said, Why, O Messenger of Allah?He said,
"Because of their ingratitude (kufr). It was said, "Are
they ungrateful to Allah? He said, They are
ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and
ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one
of them for a lifetime then she sees one
(undesirable) thing in you, she will say, I have never
had anything good from you." (Narrated by al-
Bukhaari, 1052)
Let me stress the words once again "Ungrateful to
their husbands"��.
We women immediately say ��"Ungrateful, how? We
cook food for them, wash their clothes, give birth
and take care of their children, house, money etc.
What more can we do??��" Yes we do everything for
them but we also talk ill about them in their
presence and absence. We keep complaining no
matter how much they do for us. (I am not an
exception).
Men work so hard all day to give us a comfort living
in all sense. For small reasons we women make a
big issue, and keep our mood off when they arrive
after a tired day. We rarely put ourselves in their
shoes. We simply don'��t want to accept their hard
work.
It was narrated that Jaabir ibn '�Abd-Allaah said: "��I
attended Eid prayers with the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He
started with the prayer before the khutbah, with no
adhaan or iqaamah. Then he stood up, leaning on
Bilaal, speaking of fear of Allaah (taqwa) and urging
us to obey Him. He preached to the people and
reminded them. Then he went over to the women
and preached to them and reminded them." Then he
said, "Give in charity, for you are the majority of the
fuel of Hell." A woman with dark cheeks stood up in
the midst of the women and said, "Why is that, O
Messenger of Allah?" He said, "Because you
complain too much and are ungrateful to your
husbands." Then they started to give their jewellery
in charity, throwing their earrings and rings into
Bilaal'��s cloak. ( Narrated by Muslim, 885)
Allah has set forward to us an example of a perfect
couple our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him)
and his dear wife Khadeeja (ra).
I believe their love has still not ended as the impact
it created on us, Prophet'��s (peace be upon him)
Ummatis is indeed a remarkable one. Messenger of
Allah (pbuh) was just 25 years of age when he got
married to 40 years old Khadija (ra), which clearly
shows age, is not the factor concerning a
relationship. Our Prophet (pbuh) was completely at
ease when he was with his beloved wife, whenever
he had something bothering him he would share it
with Khadija (ra) who was a strong lady with a soft
heart. Let me mention an incident here, when
Prophet (pbuh) received his first revelation he got
so scared that he ran to his wife. Khadija (ra) was
bold enough to console him, wrap him with a
blanket and cleverly ask him what happened. She
did not panic or try calling relatives for help but
handled the situation with courage. This is a pure
example of understanding a husband and acting in
an intelligent manner. May Allah (subhana��,wata
ala��) bless all believing women with such courage
and wisdom.
Let'��s come back to our topic of how to attain
Jannah through your husband. A wife has certain
obligatory duties towards her husband and vice
versa.
Rasulullah [Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam] said: "The
woman who reads her five prayers, fasts in the
month of Ramadhan, protects her chastity and is
obedient to her I husband; such a woman will enter
into Jannah from any of the doors she wishes to
enter from"��
Let'��s change the scenario and be women who can
change not only their houses but the community as
well.
Believing women are supposed to be obedient to
their husbands in all matters except that which Allah
has forbidden, example if he ask you to take off
your hijab, or stop doing salah you need not obey
him because if you do so your disobeying Allah. The
next step a woman can do is perform all her duties
at home with perfection and try adding in an
essence of love into it. While doing your daily
chores remember Allah is pleased with you as you
are pleasing your husband working for him. Always
try to be soft spoken and keep quiet when your
husband is angry. Arguing with each other will only
make the scene worse, when your husband realizes
that you are being humble and trying to avoid
conflicts he will do the same and will have a big
impression about you. Another common mistake
women make is that they dress up well when going
out and don'��t bother to do it at home. The first and
foremost thing a woman should grasp is that her
body is only for her husband to be adored, so it is
very essential for her not only dress neatly but also
adorn herself when her husband approaches her.
Perfumes and cosmetics should be used at home
rather than going out. Men love women who have a
sense of humor and talk a lot but that does not
mean you should stop being a listener. Always
make sure you ask your husband about his day and
listen to all his worries and be by his side when he
needs you most.
Not to forget the saying "��The way to a man'��s
heart is through his stomach" Always try and
prepare tasty and healthy food for your husband
that he would hate having food from out.
""Educate a woman and you educate a family""
Most of the girls get depressed thinking they are not
able to work after taking degrees, as their
husband'��s wish they stayed at home. Don'��t be,
because you'��re getting double reward by staying
at home. Along with obeying your husband your
pleasing Allah, and about your education, you have
a generation in the form of children in front of
you...Pass your knowledge onto them.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) mentioned
together three important characteristics to be found
in the good, righteous wife:
(i) When he looks at her, he is happy with her
religious commitment, attitude, behavior and
appearance.
(ii) When he is away from her, she protects his
honor and his wealth.
(iii) If he tells her to do something, she obeys him,
so long as he does not tell her to commit sin.
In short we can conclude the fact that if a woman
sincerely craves for Jannah she has to keep her
husband happy by obeying him and being content
with what he provides. It is of course not a very
difficult task I guess.
Once you start living a life like that you see the
change in your husband which would definitely
make your love story like that which are read in
books
Let's make the first move by not complaining about
our husband to our friends and family and as a
second stage be careful never to disobey him. Rest
of the tasks will become easier as we start getting
closer to Allah through his Quran.
I believe being a woman is one of the greatest
blessings from Allah. We get a chance to give birth
to a tiny life and grow him/her into a righteous
human who benefits the whole world.
"If a woman dies while her husband was pleased
with her, she will enter into Paradise." (Ibn Majah
and Tirmidhi)
The hadees is a one sentence explaining the whole
article...
Just remind yourself about it and every task of your
will become easy. You can also make a print out of
it and put it on your refrigerator so that whenever
you lose your temper you will be able to control it.
All men who are reading please take a note of the
hadees
"��Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day
should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise
you to take care of the women, for they are created
from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is
its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break,
and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge
you to take care of the women."
It is crystal clear that women are born different
from men and so they should be accepted as they
are, the more you try to change them the more
worse the situation will be.
Let me wind up quoting one more hadees and
hoping all readers benefit from the write up.
"Among my followers the best of men are those
who are best to their wives, and the best of women
are those who are best to their husbands. To each
of such women is set down a reward equivalent to
the reward of a thousand martyrs. Among my
followers, again, the best of women are those who
assist their husbands in their work, and love them
dearly for everything, save what is a transgression
of Allah's laws."
Allah Almighty knows be

Well, that was a whole bunch of Hadiths, of which I can't say I'm a supporter of.

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Many a time I've had to give my children a spanking, and I'm a Man.

If a Wife wishes to do so in my absents... Let Her.