Intolerance and Acceptance...

In the last few days I have noticed and I presume some of you have as well that there seems to be an element of intolerance and a bit of meanness creeping into some of the boards.....

I have very little sympathy for anyone that is going post in such a manner, I mean we are here to find friends and partners........aren't we??? of course some are here for the forums only and thats cool, but some posts and messages are starting to look very un mingle like.

People in here come from as many different walks of life as there is letters in the alphabet and them some. Most here are searching for love, not expecting to be put down for who or what they are, if peeps are going to put down, degrade or generally display an intolerant attitude towards people......well what sort of partner or friends are they expecting to attract?????

In case your wondering why I feel this way...a little about me. I have been raised to respect, accept and tolerate every human being, no matter what or who they are.
When I was 11 my parents made the decision to not have anymore children naturally and decided to adopt......they chose the two babies that had been "left on the shelf" because they didn't fit the accepted social norms of the time. So my brother is mixed race, Chinese/Caucasian and my sister is also mixed race Indian/New Zealand Maori.

There was a lot of intolerance in those days and my parents lost most of their friends because of this.....so sad.
Mum was mum to everybody and over the years she took under her wing all sorts of cast offs and rejected people, this gave us kids a great respect for all walks of life.
Even right now where I work is only 10% English speaking, the other 90% is Filipino, Chinese, South Korean and Sudanese....intolerance in my workplace is a sack-able offence!

For as long as I can remember our family had this acceptance mantra:

If you are black, white, yellow, martian red or any other colour........I accept you.

If you are Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Atheist or any other religion........I accept you.

If you come from the south of the border, up north, out west or over east........I accept you.

If you are young, old, intelligent, mentally challenged or in between.........I accept you.

If you tattoo your face, If you have wild piercings, if you scar yourself in the name of individuality.........I accept you.

If you are gay, lesbian, transgender, or even hermaphrodite!.........I accept you.

If your heart is pure, made of gold, dark or damaged.........I accept you.


Anyway........this is just my 2 cents worth, I know we all can't get along, it's not human nature, but even if only 1 person has a look at themselves I will feel I haven't wasted my time writing this.

Great thread Mikey and I absolutely agree with you

For you peeps, wherever you are from

I second this ^^

I'm going to be the fly in the ointment here with a little bit of reality check, brought to you by the letters R and C. Acceptance is a beautiful concept. I think it's awesome. It's also a great ideal to aspire to. But you cannot make everyone like or tolerate you. You need to respect and understand that too. You are forcing people to tolerate others. It will not work. Just let them hate who they want to hate. People have a right not to like you, me or certain people. As a victim of bullying, I am on your side but I understand the other side too.

This a good post and a reminder that,
If you disagree with an opinion you should still respect that we all have a right to an opinion, if you receive abuse because of your opinion you should report it, that's what site moderators are there for.

I'm totally with you on getting along. But we need to tolerate people who don't tolerate. I wouldn't spend much energy or time on them. I know it's bothersome but they are not worth worrying over.

I'm totally with you on getting along. But we need to tolerate people who don't tolerate. I wouldn't spend much energy or time on them. I know it's bothersome but they are not worth worrying over.