Now ive seen this in a ton of profiles. Now i know it means lets not get married tomorow, but im curious to see what everyone feels about it. so what does taking it slow to you mean.... and how slow is slow?

Taking things slow is always a good thing because it gives you time to really get to know eachother. However, Slow is a relative term. We all have our own concept of time. For myself it does not take me very long to find out if I do not like someone on the other hand knowing whether someone is the "one" can take Months or even Years... depends on how much "time" you are willing to invest into really getting to know that person.

To me, taking it slow is respecting each other's boundaries until those walls we've built for years start to come down.

Sometimes this happens quickly and love rushes in; sometimes it takes a little while but is well worth the journey.

The pace is set by communicating effectively with each other and learning to trust what you are feeling. I'm sure it's different for everyone...just like the wonderful experience of falling in love!

I think for me it means not moving in together on the first date !! kidding...

Yea, i've had the whole "instant" feeling where you connect someone on that surreal level. Then things move so fast you never build honesty and trust or get a feeling for how the person behaves normally. I'm not talking about knowing someones past or having them tell you something, but expierencing together your flaws, kinda like what wishin said.

It means NOT sending an email to someone that says "I love you" when u havent even emailed each other more than twice...

Take is slow to me is when we take it one day at a time. Life is what we make it, however, if you rush, you might miss something that is important.

I truly believe that "Time tells it all" and if you take your time and be slow with it, the truths will come out.

take it slow????--are ya kidding???
life is shoort!!!better off to pick that pace up

Yes life is definately too short to take it too slow.

To me, take it slow means "let's get to know each other before things get serious"

yea, i think anyone who says i love you in the first week or two of being together needs to take a look at themselfs. Only exception would be the whole soul mate thing, but even then, i can't imagine it being said earlier then a month, and thats like if you started off living with the person.

Beautifully said queenbee.

Thanks CharlieX,

s1ow is pretty quick...



... on the uptake most days.

Actually s1ow isn't slow at all, and I feel a little indignant that people put they are taking s1ow, anywhere...

Does s1ow like to be taken?

Where?

To the cleaners?

Up the garden path?

I know there are many who are quite taken with s1ow...one can't really help it..





(s1ow = s1owhand)

Or is this like a thread for s1ow to take it?

What is he taking?

Is this like a musician's thread, a random thought thread for s1ow?

Take it s1ow.....

on the other hand how fast is too fast? I am confused and I do not want to be used just because he happens to say all the things I want to hear, yet I do not want to be overly cauctious and miss something that could be great. HELP

s1ow is s1ow

When you see a girl you really like a lot, give her 6 months or so then think about if you still want to ask her out. Then if she goes out with you and you like her a lot, wait about 3 or 4 weeks to call and ask her out again. Then if that works out you can call her two or three weeks for a while. Once she really gets the idea that you like her anything goes. You could even try kissing her after a few more months and see how she goes for that. Be careful though because its hard to know when you cross the line and become CRAZY PSYCHO MANIAC she should put you on call block or something.

o my

philosopher, 6 months as far as being on the net? by that time she would have found someone else or for that matter even not being on the net

taken it slow to me means. Try being friends first and see where that goes. If you can't do that, then there is no sence of trying to go any further.

Hey philosopher I think that is a little tooooo slow.

Make friends first- than go on from there.
I think getting to know someone first is wise.
Then you can jump their bones...
Did I say that???

Thats a mighty lovey pair of mangoes you have there s1ow....

my mangoes are firm, sweet and juicy. they are the freshest around.

but shadow has a point. why scr*w around. life is short. you have to strike a balance between not pushing things and keeping up with life.

therefore "i will do my best to keep up". but there are a lot of fast scamperers around here for sure. i like that.