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Topic: COMPETING FOR HIM/HER!!!
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 01:33 AM Edited by Awatersign on Mon 01/05/15 01:51 AM
I know from experience,that this is not my cup of tea,please be honest with me ,would you be willing to date someone if you know there're already in a relationship ?I don't mean like a one night stand,I could do it for a one night stand,I mean it could happen,and yes,it could turn to something else ,but I mean like to actively pursue a relationship with them,I know some people actually like or don't mind competing,I DO have a competitive nature,but I don't care to compete like that,how about you folks!!!

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 01/05/15 01:37 AM
hell no... the one who competes for the emotions of humans will ultimately lose... so kick back and wait for them to come knockin on the door of who was strong enough to not need to compete.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 01:46 AM Edited by Awatersign on Mon 01/05/15 01:47 AM
hell no... the one who competes for the emotions of humans will ultimately lose... so kick back and wait for them to come knockin on the door of who was strong enough to not need to compete. Well said ,that's the same way I feel,I just can't understand why so many people do it!!

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Mon 01/05/15 01:47 AM
Wouldn't that be cheating...

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 01:49 AM
Wouldn't that be cheating... Lol I never looked at it like that!!

zzzippy56 Joined Sun 01/12/14 Posts: 7307	Mon 01/05/15 01:50 AM
I'm with Mikey on this I dont do cheaters......

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Mon 01/05/15 01:54 AM
No i wouldn't. I can compete in other things like sports or some other challenge but not when it comes to relationships. i never bother with married women or with women in relationships. Its plain wrong and i have strong morals i adhere to. And i hate cheaters

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 01/05/15 01:56 AM Edited by davidben1 on Mon 01/05/15 01:58 AM
hell no... the one who competes for the emotions of humans will ultimately lose... so kick back and wait for them to come knockin on the door of who was strong enough to not need to compete. Well said ,that's the same way I feel,I just can't understand why so many people do it!! it's hard to let go of what shimmers in one's face, even more what shimmers that one touched and it felt GOOD. smiles.

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 01/05/15 01:57 AM
i was thinking more of a women dating several guys at one time, and not knowing which one to get serious with.

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Mon 01/05/15 02:10 AM
Awatersign are you saying you would compete for a Ho thats in a relationship but cheating and dating you? Wow

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 01/05/15 02:13 AM
there ain't no ho's, just women who haven't found where they fit perfectly! just women and men who have not found home plate yet.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33340	Mon 01/05/15 02:13 AM Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Mon 01/05/15 02:14 AM
Apart from the competing bit, what if you succeed? Then you're stuck with a partner who will need time to find his/her feet again. You can't roll from one relationship into the next, that is asking for trouble for both, it will never work out! Someone will need to 'detach' first from the previous partner, routines etc. That takes approx a year, longer for some. Chances are that after that 'detaching' process, the new partner will leave you because the feelings have simply gone. What's that called again? Rebound relationship? There's a name for it.. and you never want to be the other party in such a relationship, cos they're not meant to last, they're meant to get someone through the detaching process only ... Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, but they are just that: exceptions So in short: best not to compete, it's asking for trouble .. Go for someone who's free to commit . . .

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 02:15 AM
I like all of your answers,and it's good to know that alot of folks still have morals,me,I have SOME,like I said,not my cup of tea,and I try my best to avoid people in relationships,I wouldn't go out on a limb to say that I wouldn't sleep with one,sometimes you never know until you get in that position,I've been in that position alot of times and wanted to,but still never pushed it that far,but I can't say 100% that I wouldn't in the future,but i just that i ain't feeling it!!!!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 02:16 AM
Awatersign are you saying you would compete for a Ho thats in a relationship but cheating and dating you? Wow

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Mon 01/05/15 02:18 AM
I know from experience,that this is not my cup of tea,please be honest with me ,would you be willing to date someone if you know there're already in a relationship? Guilty... I was young, naive & single then.... Hey wait a min... I am still young, naive & single. Those were the results. :)

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 02:20 AM Edited by Awatersign on Mon 01/05/15 02:20 AM
Apart from the competing bit, what if you succeed? Then you're stuck with a partner who will need time to find his/her feet again. You can't roll from one relationship into the next, that is asking for trouble for both, it will never work out! Someone will need to 'detach' first from the previous partner, routines etc. That takes approx a year, longer for some. Chances are that after that 'detaching' process, the new partner will leave you because the feelings have simply gone. What's that called again? Rebound relationship? There's a name for it.. and you never want to be the other party in such a relationship, cos they're not meant to last, they're meant to get someone through the detaching process only ... Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, but they are just that: exceptions So in short: best not to compete, it's asking for trouble .. Go for someone who's free to commit . . . Great answer, i hope the competitors are listening!

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 01/05/15 02:29 AM
hehehe... bottom line is, if two people both want it equally... than they need to learn from each other. about the nots and have nots. whatever it is one is to yet learn, you won't know it till after you have experienced it anyhow... or you wouldn't need to know anything else. and all in the world are in different stages of development. two cannot be equally attracted unless there is some legit equal reason. what all of us don't know, there will be teachers... and all we know and are engaged with in our life are our teachers.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 02:32 AM
I know from experience,that this is not my cup of tea,please be honest with me ,would you be willing to date someone if you know there're already in a relationship? Guilty... I was young, naive & single then.... Hey wait a min... I am still young, naive & single. Those were the results. :) I never said I never done it though,and everyone don't tell you there're single until you're"in to deep",so yeah,done it before but don't care for it anymore,oh,and it was just twice,so either you live and learn,or you just live!!!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 01/05/15 02:37 AM
Here's another reason I don't care for it,if someone is dating more than one person,SOMEBODY is obviously getting used!!

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Mon 01/05/15 02:42 AM
Its happend to me when a girl went go on like shes single and after getting intimate a lot and things getting a lil serious she claimed she had a dude but he was out of the country and that we could still go on with our affair. I stopped seeing her coz such chit freaks me out. Imagine you being the other guy and yo girl doing that to you.